Working with a team which is super toxic and people who are cut throat, Psychopaths/Sociopaths, from a non-US office, just because the project is really good and guarantees great career progression.
Recently got an offer to move to the US and accepted.
Now thinking that maybe it's going to be super stressful and may take a toll on health, family etc (have two kids to take care of).
I have two options :
1. Don't relocate, stay where I am, transition slowly to another project/team
2. Move to the US (bearing additional overhead of relocation, setting up home and other things in a foreign country, paper work, visa and immigration issues etc) and face these people everyday in person
What should I do? Just back off? Or take risk with a hope of better career growth?
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Life with legal immigration process now will be such a shit show. Imagine all your super toxic environment at work, but in real life. Everything will be super frustrating.
At least in your country, you can tell your coworkers to fuck off, quit and find a new job.
Here, I dare you to do that when you have mouths to feed and mortgages to pay.
US is a hell hole, only good for people with extremely shitty lives in their home country. Come here only if you're from a shithole country where your quality of life and self respect is so low that the US government disrespecting and harrasing you won't bother you much.
I'm not from a shithole but from a wealthy 1st world country with a GDP per capita slightly lower than then US. In my country and possibly all others, the government incessantly humiliates its own people on a daily basis. thousands of small interventions, fill a form here, get a permit there, and it feels worse than the TSA agent groping my balls. It's because it's my own country and I'm just trying to live my daily boring life.
Whenever I get some shit mail from the DHS, be it another RFE or what not, I remind myself of all the nice things I can have in the US. a big apartment, a fast car, roads to drive said car, online shopping, beautiful cities and suburbs. the American suburb has no equal elsewhere, not in space, beauty, road access and affordability.
Fuck the government, it's still an awesome country.
US is like any other first world country with its quirks, definitely better than a third π
"US is a hell hole, only good for people with extremely shitty lives in their home country. Come here only if you're from a shithole country where your quality of life and self respect is so low that the US government disrespecting and harrasing you won't bother you much."
Lol... Still haven't offered any substantial argument to back up your extremist opinion. Anyone who doesn't agree is in a bubble? What a joke. π
Please explain what you know in detail
π explain yourself. Don't derail from what you said.
The quality of life is better: the air that you breath, the water you drink especially if you moving it from India. US is very cosmopolitan.
Iβm not sure how much money you going to save with single earner, two kids. Buts itβs going to be not much delta initially but over the time it will be higher as you get more stocks and get promoted faster, you can get H1B and apply to other companies with more money so itβs definitely a good deal with 4- 5 years in mind
Work: yes life in US will demand more from you. You would need to manage house & do most of chores yourself. Visa is pain, renew and that constant annual fear of facing immigration interview. It is bit taxing.
Now itβs in you want do you want out of your life! Everything has its own pros & cons, you have to decide which one to choose from.
Is it worth moving to us to escape a very local problem? No, as us doesn't guarantee that u work with better people. Overall, the sample space might be better, but boils down to the manager
Is it worth moving for money?
With 2 kids and a family already I dont see great savings.
Worth moving for better work culture?
Yes.
So the list goes on