So wanted to know what everyone here thinks about dating and marrying. Since we all focus so much on our own TC, what do you expect in a female partner? Does it matter? Will it help? Do you count on it. Do you look for it? In a 6 year relationship with my college sweetheart. She never made a dime over $60k TC. She's smoking hot and very good hearted person. I personally have never expected her to make anything over $50k. I plan our future without considering her financial contributions. Is this a bad strategy? Is this common?
You are an idiot to even have this question and then ask it here!
How so?
And you are proving my point. TC obsession is for Blind, in life you should aim more for happiness. And with 240k family income if you have questions about living life, then you are in much bigger trouble!
Dude what’s wrong with you. If you like her, you’ll both make it with 50K each. If you like her, don’t look at TC man. Peace of mind >>> TC. Also why are you objectifying her for all the strangers here?
How am I objectifying her? I'm talking about household strategies. Not asking for love advice. The alternative is to keep pushing and pressing for her to make more money.
Pushing and pressing her to make more money? Not everyone aims high TC. Some aim happiness and love. Let her be. Go marry her. $240k is great money. Not that it matters in relationships but just saying
I’m a female and the sole breadwinner supporting my husband who’s finishing school and our baby it’s not a big deal because I expect him to build toward an equal contribution but if he thinks he can just chill while I pull the weight then that’s lame
Thanks for the input. Do you have specific household income targets or are you just confident you both will figure it out?
Ofc! Not specifically. I’m confident I’ll keep making more money lol. Once he starts making money it’ll be an added bonus. I mean personally...I want a beach house, but other than that we’re living comfortably now so I think we’ll just take it as it comes.
A partner with high TC may cost you more in the long run - Louis Vuitton bags, Prada shoes you name it depending on the person. A partner with high amount of debt would be more damaging to the long term relationship than low TC in my opinion.
This makes sense
Does it really? Post was about TC, comment is about spending habits
TC may not always be there, but you will have each other.
Omg. This mattered. Thanks man.
Bad strategy. For her. To stay with you.
Focus on the household TC once you are married. Individual contributions are not relevant. In married life people contribute in ways other than $$.
Deep. Thanks
This.
This is a common scenario for people who marry to someone who isn’t from tech. I would say talk to her, see how she feels and set clear expectations. Depending on her personality, she may want to keep her earnings separate or she will see your + her income as combined family income. Once you know her inclination, make sure you are ok with it.
Does this post assume that everyone on Blind is a straight man? or was this question specifically posed for straight men only? Also have you talked to your partner about this, like in depth? I do think it’s critically important for couples to be on the same page about finances/lifestyle preferences/spending habits, etc. That’s less about each partner’s actual TC and more about your future goals and preferences though.
This question is directed at the pay gap between men and woman. Relationships with two men would have to worry less about TC potential, hence their advice wouldn't help me much.
Your original post doesn’t mention anything about the gender pay gap, but ok. I was wondering who the “our” was in this part: “Since we all focus so much on our own TC, what do you expect in a female partner?”
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But isn’t he sexist according to feminist doctrine? The evil patriarchal bigot!