30 and single

New LOuE48
Apr 3, 2018 95 Comments

I turned 30 last year. I’m an Indian girl. I used to find the idea of marriage and long term relationships gross in my 20s. I kept turning down a lot of men and had casual flings with many. Also, was dishonest with a few.

In my 20s, I got so much attention from men, specially my Indian male friends. Since I turned 30, I’ve been getting hardly any attention from men. Most of my friends got married and the other men, even on dating apps, seem hardly interested in trying on me.

I am finding it really hard to deal with not being wanted anymore. How do I overcome this and get men to chase me again?

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  • Amazon fHQu87
    Dating women in their 30s is awful because it feels like i’m auditioning for the role of the last man on earth. Too much pressure.

    If you are a man and take good care of yourself you can date women in their 20s well into your 40s. New women are being born every year. Why deal with all of that pressure, as a man? Men do not chase women in their 30s, they settle for them. They chase after women in their 20s. Sounds like your problem is you thought you’d be 20 forever!
    Apr 3, 2018 7
    • Microsoft / Eng BhF16d
      Savage af
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      @Samsons - women's age is a real issue even for so called 'quality' men ..
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon / Other Samsons
      Not at 30. I’m 47 got married 2 years ago to an SDM quality man, 5 yrs younger. At 30 I thought it was an issue too. Glad I figured out then it’s not me, it’s them. We differ, 123raj. Also culturally, there can be old backward misogynistic thinking, no idea if this is you or not, but it’s sad to me.
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon fHQu87
      Some quality men want to have children and age is a factor. Not at 30 but at 47 for sure. That’s not misogyny, that’s biology. Not everyone is a misogynist for wanting a biologically ideal life partner for reproduction.

      But for those who do not have that as a priority, I think that’s wonderful too!
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      fHQu87 couldnt have put it better
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Google / Ops Pasteur
    Be the way you are. Don’t change a thing right now in your life. You want a man to love you for who you are
    Apr 3, 2018 3
    • Amazon fHQu87
      This is good advice for dying alone
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Google / Ops Pasteur
      I disagree.
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Medallia
      JohnnyEng

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      JohnnyEngmore
      Give me a break, that's excuse for people to let themselves go. I'm trying to change myself to be sexier for my SO. I bet she'll like the new me better.
      Apr 3, 2018
  • PayPal / Eng Prodo
    If you are interested.. There is a guy called 5'6 Indian working at Microsoft/Amazon. He is desperate than his wood and would literally marry anyone from female gender.

    Feel free to message him and don't forget to invite me to your wedding 😉
    Apr 3, 2018 3
    • PayPal Sn35gyh
      😂😂
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Visa GoatNGoat
      Or invite for a casual filing ;)
      Apr 4, 2018
    • PayPal Chipcode
      ^ Tax filing ?
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Microsoft jdka82
    Hey, I'm a 29 year old Indian male and I would love to date you. Located in Sunnyvale. PM me.
    Apr 3, 2018 13
    • Amazon Ujhy23
      So you can date those that refuse to acknowledge they aren't perfect?
      Apr 4, 2018
    • LinkedIn nestrov
      Bhai log keep up the good work- its replies like these that keep my interest maintained in blind @Sn35gyh
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      Lol op dont fall for this trap ..he's just into casual stuff ..
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng
      refref

      Amazon Eng

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      refrefmore
      Chaudhary ban raha hai ye bsdk ka
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Visa GoatNGoat
      AIDS lai kar aaia ga BC
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Microsoft / Eng BhF16d
    Pics? —white guy here who loves Indian ladies :)
    Apr 3, 2018 1
    • Amazon 123raj
      Bro if u ever go down on her just take a glass of sweet mango lassi along ;-)
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Microsoft Facts
    We, men, tend to get more mature around 30. No more chasing around for us, thank you very much.
    - 30 yr old man.
    Apr 3, 2018 1
    • Amazon 123raj
      Yep SMV of a man is an appreciating asset ..for women? Not so much ..it's payback time for treating us like shit in your 20s
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Akamai Technologies donggong
    PM me for casual fling
    Apr 3, 2018 9
    • New LOuE48
      OP
      I’m looking for something serious
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Google / Ops Pasteur
      Thats why i said ridiculous to “donggong” post
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Akamai Technologies donggong
      @OP will you reconsider after seeing my dong?
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Visa GoatNGoat
      Serious as in some serious pounding & filling?
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      Lol @Goat
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Fitbit / Eng
    Cxgaaas

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    Cxgaaasmore
    Get fit and treat yourself better. I can’t see ya so that’s all I can say. Also, it’s your turn to chase now, and there’s no shame in doing it! Another thing, if your confidence is low get it up as that might be one reason men aren’t flying to you
    Apr 3, 2018 0
  • LinkedIn FruSw3183
    Stay fit, love yourself, and put yourself out there. Unfortunately your prime is over - glad you enjoyed it in your 20s. Tables turn.
    Apr 3, 2018 1
    • Lyft dPWJ43
      Oh how the turntables ...
      Apr 4, 2018
  • New / Design PriyankaG
    > 30 no bueno
    Apr 3, 2018 0
  • Adobe Hoot!
    Why is Blind suddenly full of single Indian women who are broken and single and sad?
    Apr 3, 2018 1
    • Nordstrom / Eng
      PeterThie

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      PeterThiemore
      It's most likely a troll , there is way more guys than girls
      Apr 3, 2018
  • Lyft dPWJ43
    Get in top shape, dress well, have high confidence. That's about all you can do
    Apr 3, 2018 0
  • CareerBuilder AgnewsHead
    By 30, most men have figured out that chasing women is pointless
    Apr 4, 2018 0
  • You have to decrease the dishonest factor for sure
    Apr 3, 2018 0
  • Amazon kheer
    > How do I overcome this and get men to chase me again?

    Beauty is a depreciating asset. I hope you have a great personality. Good luck.
    Apr 3, 2018 2
    • Revinate JPQ
      Sad but true.
      Apr 4, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng ama64
      Take dance lessons. Do a tango. Men do all the chasing there!
      Apr 5, 2018
  • Juniper ftdj3
    Welcome to midlife
    Apr 3, 2018 2
    • Medallia
      JohnnyEng

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      JohnnyEngmore
      Damn, she dies at 60?
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Juniper ftdj3
      If she dies at 120, you will call her young at age 59?
      Apr 3, 2018
  • Infosys
    notindian

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    notindianmore
    I'll pound you OP
    Apr 3, 2018 2
    • Google / Ops Pasteur
      🙄🤔
      Apr 3, 2018
    • Aon Hewitt Qqwjxdt
      I know what you mean Pasteur, so many responses like this on so many posts gets annoying after a while.
      Apr 4, 2018
  • Microsoft / Eng feta
    A lot of men are chasing you now. Are you happy?
    Apr 4, 2018 0
  • Synopsys Uyd228
    At 30ish most women seem to be hell bent on trapping the father of their future babies. Have you maintained your health?
    Personally I find women most beautiful at 30.
    Apr 3, 2018 0
  • Expedia Maddy1
    Workout , eat well, dress well, take care of yourself and be yourself. Ignore all the negative comments here. 30 is not old...you will definitely find a good match.
    Apr 3, 2018 0