Hello Women, I am 7 months post partum and have become pregnant again. I have a beautiful girl and looking at her and he dependency on me i feel i cannot handle second one. I dont have a mother and inlaws are not cooperative. Husband is great but he is very serious in career and we both know we cannot handle second one with a tiny infant who is too dependamt on us. Suggestions please on what to do? Thanks
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Nannies?
Agree thats an option
that's cool. I don't know if this exists, but maybe I’ll start a nanny-as-a-service company to address this kind of problem. Well vetted nannies for busy professionals.
Your husband needs to reassess his priorities. You are pregnant with a second child and you need support. Abortion is a serious thing and could cause you severe sense of loss if you don't do it with a convinced heart. If you are keeping this child without much family support he needs to scale down on that job and focus on your family. Move to a low cost of living area if needed. That extra TC is going to do nothing - right now you need him not the money.
makes sense. unfortunately i am in bay area.
Think long term. A nanny is not going to be able to replace your husband in the emotional support that you might need. His biggest failure will be if you and your family don't have his support. Not missing the next promotion. Evaluate what child care might need, the lifestyle and career both of you want and can afford and go from there. Both of you need to be active parents. It's not like back home (if you are Asian) where you have family to take care of you. You got to do all yourself and you need to be in it together.
Adoption?
TC? That will decide whether you can afford another child or not. A high TC will make life so much easier via nannies, day care etc Also, use condoms next time?
Take responsibility for your actions.
within first few weeks, abortion is like a pap smear. seriously not a big deal. but considering that you're already in a committed partnership, i feel like there should be a way to make it work. non-hormonal IUD in the future.... works great.
Think of what you want to do extremely carefully. Abortion may sound like an easy short-term solution but it will haunt you for the rest of your life. So, I don’t know what to suggest but I can tell you with absolute certainty that abortion will have life-long moral consequence! The elder daughter would be around 16 months when you will have two children. They will grow up together like twins!
I agree with you but probably i am thinking in a narrow way. I am 28yrs old (Asian) and i am shy to even anounce i am pregnant again ... also the challnege we had with first baby is like mahhnn she use to cry all night due to colic and that scares me a lot
OP, I can tell you with absolute certainty that abortion does NOT have life-long moral consequences. 🤷🏼♀️
Try nanny. At $2500 a month -> $30K You won’t need for more than 2 years. Do you really want to give up on a beautiful life for just 60K over two years.
I totally understand but just worried and feel so scared when i think of secind baby coz my first baby gave us a very harddd time initially for 3 montsh due to colic. I wish my mom is ALIVE
You can do it. I wish we can adopt your kid.
NO.
I guess Alpha7 is planning to help you take care of the child you’re not ready for?