Abusive Indian girlfriend

Wayfair pbSy87
Jun 5 274 Comments

My 4 year long distance indian girlfriend/fiance has suddenly become very abusive to my parents. She doesn't say anything to them directly but she blames everything on my parents. This started in 2019, I never noticed any signs of abuse before. We decided to get married in 2019 and now with wedding planning and stuff we had to move around certain things and change certain plans. She has called my father a show-off, a liar , fake , etc. Some context here - we are throwing separate receptions because she thinks our guests will spoil the aura of her reception. I recently grabbed an offer from Amazon and was not able to make it to Google and in another argument she said that I should leave preparing for Google as I am too old now and will probably be 50 years old when I get in. In another incident she went ahead and shared our private messages with her parents, which was shocking to me. We had to cancel our honeymoon plan because of changes in the planning as she wouldn't let us throw a single combined reception and the reason for cancellation was also blamed on my parents. In many fights she claims that I will never get a person like her. I think I am facing this abuse since the past three months and now I think The Stockholm syndrome is hitting me and I have starting to think that may be my parents are like that and I am sympathizing with her. I have become rude to my parents and I dont know when all this happened. She has also called me a coward multiple times for not standing up to my parents.

I need some help here: we have been in a long distance relationship since 4 years now and she claims that she let go of many men just to wait for me to get settled. I was actually waiting for my visa to tie the knot. I feel like breaking up with her but saddled in the guilt that she waited for me all this while. There have been lot of times when she was very caring and understanding but I feel scared of her. To even propose a new idea to her freaks me out, the fear of her lashing her wrath on me again.

Should I end things before the wedding and let go or is this normal and I suck it up and will things be fine, I have never been so scared, I feel pressured as she has already spread the word to everyone that she is going to get married to me? When we started dating I was unemployed so I dont think she cares about how much I earn, definitely not in it for money. I really want her to not abuse my parents like that or hurt me. All other things are fine I guess.

Need help folks.

TC 220

Edit: She also sends me messages like this but then the abuse starts again whenever things go a little out of the way.

Abusive Indian girlfriend

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TOP 274 Comments
  • Samsung John..!
    And still OP post his TC 😂😂
    Jun 5 7
    • Wayfair pbSy87
      OP
      Blind rules TC or GTFO
      Jun 5
    • Intuit / Eng disrespect
      I love this thread. GF abuses me... TC 220k 😂😂😂😂
      Jun 5
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      Laughing so much I can’t breathe..
      Jun 5
    • Goldman Sachs secdb
      Op is a contributing member of blind
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft don’tpanic
      Rules are rules
      Jun 6
    • Microsoft / Eng micro-hard
      Little John..! will ask a question w/o TC and would wonder where all the traction is 😃
      Jun 6
    • LinkedIn
      kambhari

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      kambharimore
      You f guys would have said tc or gtfo lol lol
      I liked ur comment
      Jun 6
  • HPE WCmF21
    She is doing a power play... I was in exact same situation about 15 years ago. I did get into Cisco at that time (yes it was as cool as Google and FB is now at that time). She went on rants about my grade even though I was a 11 and at least 2 grades higher than most peers, etc., exact same BS with my parents, complaining about literally every thing I did or didn't do... Finally had it and broke it off after the engagement. I was lucky to find a great person after that and am happily married with two kids!!

    It will never stop, she will never be happy with you... Maybe she wants you to Satya or Sundar, then complain about the fucked up car you drive, what a loser you are because you don't have a house in Cupertino and so on.

    IMO in long distance relationships you never really know how it is to be with the other day to day. Her behavior is down right abusive.

    Dump her, you will come back and thank me in a few years. Some other comments about wasting 4 years of her life is bullshit - what about yours and then what about the next 40 you will waste ... Do not feel guilty!!

    BTW if the roles were reversed, there are a 1000 websites that will identify you as an abusive idiot.
    Jun 5 5
    • Goldman Sachs secdb
      Listen to this guy, he knows what he is talking about. Save yourself.
      Jun 5
    • Datto, Inc. Klokov_v2
      Spot on with the car and house thing!!
      Jun 5
    • Amazon ezy
      'Powerplay' nice choice of word for 'Mindfuck'
      Jun 5
    • New NYfp58
      @pbSy87 Dude, listen to @WCmF21. You still have time, if you don't feel good about it now, trust me you'll feel even worse later and then there's no coming back (or it's going to be hard)
      Jun 6
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      ^ This!
      Jun 6
  • F5 Networks RRA
    Leave.
    Jun 5 0
  • Microsoft rtrf51
    It’s amazing how there’s so many “logical” people on this thread who are so very quick to jump to an immediate conclusion the girlfriend/fiancé is to blame here. It’s very well possible that OP’s parents haven’t been very fair to her, which is a fairly common dynamic in Indian marriages, where the wife’s in-law’s feel a sense of “ownership”/entitlement over the new bride/soon-to-be. This is coming from growing up in an indian household and watching the dynamics between the women of my extended family and their in-laws, as well as social circles.

    In either case, irrespective of who’s bringing the toxicity to this relationship, it seems clear that you are not happy and at already second-guessing this. It might be helpful to talk through this lay out of your concerns. It is futile to “Leave” as many people here seem to so easily recommend- you’ve given this 4 years of your life. Talk through it with your significant other first and THEN give it some time. If you are still unhappy, then “leave”.
    Jun 5 11
    • F5 Networks RRA
      You don't see any abusive behavior here? Even if her in-laws are jerks, how does that excuse her behavior?
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft rtrf51
      Nope, just a logical Indian dude who’s seen tons of unhappy marriages!
      Jun 5
    • Google / Eng 🍑☁️
      You can't just 'work things out' with an abuser. They will at best try to hide their behavior for a while to keep you from leaving.

      The "you'll never find anyone else like me" and other things OP describes are classic manipulative behavior. There's no recovering from this
      Jun 5
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Microsoft qgUR51
      "which is a fairly common dynamic in Indian marriages, where the wife’s in-law’s feel a sense of “ownership”/entitlement over the new bride/soon-to-be. " - fairly common? Based on what data?
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft rtrf51
      @RRA - Im not “excusing” anything. There’s no possible way any of us can jump to any sort of conclusions about whose behavior warrants judgement. This is an anonymous post from someone you literally don’t know. OP could have schizophrenia and could be misrepresenting this for all we know (which unfortunately was the case for someone in my family).
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft rtrf51
      @qgUR51 - Not sure if you’re Indian or not, but there’s a reason why every major Indian family drama show is predicated upon the dynamic of the oppressed Indian house-wife and the tyrannical mother-in-law. This is a crude but relevant example of what the dynamics of marriage, at least in the current generation of the to-be-in laws is who still grew up in a conservative Indian society where it was expected of the then-new brides to be subservient to the groom’s family. A result of age-old tradition where bride’s were often viewed as a commodity (and hence the practice of dowry).
      Now- this has obviously gotten MUCH better every generation- and the new generation of soon-to-be-parents will be more liberal and open minded- but note this is only in the upper-middle class/elite social circles. The lower middle class which comprise more than 3/4 the Indian population are still more old fashioned/conservative, and fail to give the new brides (or women in general) much freedom/authority in their household.

      So “based on what data” - being a fairly historically and culturally aware Indian who, again, is speaking from experience of watching the women in his own family deal with their experiences.
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft rtrf51
      I’m advocating NOT listening to a bunch of anonymous twats bored (like me right now) on Blind, and being mature by having a legitimate conversation with your fiancé.
      Jun 5
    • Facebook kcAlzxb
      RRA what do you expect her to do? Quietly take the abuse from his family like a good girl?
      Jun 5
    • Amazon / Mgmt Db8db4
      It doesn't matter in the slightest who is to blame. After marriage it will become worse because there is no longer need in pretending. And then you're in it for the rest of your life (because if divorce is an option, then do it now anyway). These two families do not gel together, so it's not a match. Just leave while you're both still young.
      Jun 5
  • Microsoft fanghunt
    Leave now.
    - divorced Indian male.

    DM me if you have any confusion and want to chat.
    Jun 5 0
  • Microsoft
    Hadoopie

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    Hadoopiemore
    Never marry out of guilt. You are destroying many lives - not just yours. Better to walk away now if your primary reason to marry is guilt.
    Jun 5 0
  • Facebook kcAlzxb
    “shared our private messages with her parents, which was shocking to me”

    This is normal if you’re close to your parents
    Jun 5 8
    • Amazon ezy
      If the girlfriend can't understand what is considered private or public by the guy then I don't think they should even be together. Could also be a cultural thing not understanding the guys perspective but if it happened more than once then the girl can be as inconsiderate.
      Jun 5
    • Microsoft leetworld
      Lol this is not normal no matter how close you are with parents. Unless you are a fucking baby you don't share private messages.
      Jun 5
    • Facebook kcAlzxb
      I mean obviously if it was intimate messages or something but no one would share that with their parents. It seems more like the were discussing wedding plans or whatever and she forwarded some to her parents and he got mad.
      Jun 5
    • New lTeE86
      No, it's not normal. For god's sake, she is a grown up woman not some college teen. There has to be some privacy between you and your SO, and if she can't understand that, she's not the one
      Jun 5
    • Facebook kcAlzxb
      Sharing details with your parents about planning an event that they’ll be attending, helping organize, and likely paying for is something only college teens do?
      Sounds more like he is trying to manipulate and isolate her from her family.
      Jun 5
    • New csed
      OP shared messages on the internet.

      But yeah GTFO that relationship
      Jun 5
    • New lTeE86
      @Facebook I don't think OP would categorize sharing details about planning and attending the event as "private messages." No one would be upset about that. Obv, she shared some details about their relationship he didn't want them to know, and he is right to feel that way. She should have asked him if he was ok with her sharing the details. I think marriage is all about communication, and I feel there isn't a good one here so I would say GTFO
      Jun 5
    • Facebook kcAlzxb
      She shouldn’t have to ask her man for permission for every little thing lmao. And OP definitely sounds insecure enough to feel sharing event details without permission is a harm against him somehow
      Jun 5
  • Navy Federal Credit Union / Eng masti
    Don’t marry Indian girls from back home, they will use you and abuse you. They want you to put them on a pedestal so they can live off your hard work like leeches for the rest of your life. The entitlement is unreal. Find a good girl here and be happy.
    Jun 5 8
    • Amazon ezy
      Is that a common expectation from Indian girls? To be put them on pedestal and be worshipped? I see a lot of them doing nothing compared to the guy and still feel they have right to expect everything from the guy/husband.
      Jun 5
    • Navy Federal Credit Union / Eng masti
      That is the overwhelming expectation. Even the ones that “work” are just coasters waiting to get pregnant so they can use that as an excuse to never go back to work. You get a few gems but just a few. Indian girls from here tend to not have that kind of an attitude but even then you have to be careful. The pressure of racism from family to only marry within your ethnic group also doesn’t help.
      Jun 5
    • Google / Eng relprime
      Hmm... I don't know if this is true. But, I do know that American women want equal opportunities at work and equal pay and we face a lot of backlash. If you guys want that too, let's make it happen.
      Jun 5
    • Navy Federal Credit Union / Eng masti
      That’s just it American women want that, Indian women want the men to work and hire them maids and nannies. We wish our women wanted gender equality, we wouldn’t be coming over here to work for people that look down on us if they were interested in equal partnership. Most westerners have no idea how much power Indian women have in the household, unfortunately it doesn’t come from partnership, rather entitlement and pressure for Indian men to conform to outdated cultural norms.
      Jun 5
    • Google / Eng relprime
      Really? You're blaming women for gender inequality?
      Jun 5
    • eBay burjok
      For your sanity - tell her .you need time ..once married things. will be more messy and she will blame you for ruining her life... don’t do this ..
      Jun 5
    • Navy Federal Credit Union / Eng masti
      @relprime I’m talking about a very specific phenomenon in Indian culture, stop projecting western paradigms onto our culture, you know very little about it. American news and television doesn’t count for experience or knowledge, neither does a “appreciation” for Indian culture. We are dealing with highly nuanced issues that don’t fit into your neat little categories of “gender relations” and “patriarchy”. And no one is blaming women for gender inequality. Also before you start pointing the finger at all Indian men, look up Meghalaya. This are issues of power dynamics and in our culture they are much more complex than in the individualistic western society.
      Jun 6
    • Google / Eng relprime
      Sorry, you are right. I don't know much about Indian culture (and it's certainly many cultures).
      Jun 6
  • Rubrik PartyStick
    Start leetcoding NOW
    Jun 5 0
  • Goldman Sachs secdb
    Leave or this will be your daily life. Don't worry about the guilty, keep your sanity.
    Jun 5 0
  • Addepar nAeb35
    I’m not Indian but curious why you specifically mentioned “Indian girlfriend”?
    Jun 5 4
    • Samsung John..!
      I guess typical south Indian girl
      Jun 5
    • Wayfair pbSy87
      OP
      just so you know folks get context of the culture here and where I am coming from
      Jun 5
    • Goldman Sachs secdb
      Indian girls are much crazier than women from any other culture (I am an Indian, I know what I am talking about)

      Seriously, leave. You will destroy so many lives if you marry out of guilt. I know the Indian stigma of calling off the wedding but still less and much better than what you will face if and when you decide to get a divorce.
      Jun 5
    • Walmart.com BqcQ58
      Because crazy Indian men gave birth to those crazy Indian women hahaha
      Jun 5
  • eBay explorerz
    “ she claims that I will never get a person like her” - you definitely don’t want a person like her. You are lucky it’s happening before marriage. Run away and don’t look back
    Jun 5 1
  • Nvidia / R&D chilldad
    Leave
    Jun 5 0
  • New / Data
    bhaav

    New Data

    BIO
    Software developer with 3yoe
    bhaavmore
    Dude, leave immediately. She is just faking you. Just trust your instincts. Once married you will be fucked like anything. In our culture, parents come first, they lived more than this girl in your life. Wtf? You are thinking 2nd time for this crap. You will be a coward, if stick to this girl and marry her. Whole life she will simply take advantage of you. Simple cut off now with no strings attached. Take a break and then find some other girl. Girl come and go. Parents won't.Have some respect for yourself, for her and for your parents. Just leave her.
    Jun 6 3
    • Amazon dibbledopp
      OP - the moment I read you were rude to your parents because your girlfriend said something, I lost respect for you. Imagine how your parents would have felt when that happened.

      When you get married, I guarantee you that she’s not going to be any better in her relationship with your parents no matter how nice they actually are. At best, she won’t have any interactions with them. It’ll be like they don’t exist for her. You’d slowly move away from your parents without realizing. Is that what you want? Imagine how that would make your parents feel?

      When you go to India for vacation, she’s going to live with her parents the entire time. Is that what you parents or you’d want?
      Jun 6
    • Bloomberg errors
      @dibbledopp I agree with rest if your comment except
      “When you go to India for vacation, she’s going to live with her parents the entire time. Is that what you parents or you’d want?”

      He will also leave with his parents all the time why can’t she leave with her parents? Marriage works in both ways.
      If he has right to take care of his family then she also has the same right and they both can spend equally at both places or some alone time with their own families depending on where each of them feel comfortable.
      Jun 6
    • Amazon dibbledopp
      I didn’t say anything about him staying at his in-laws. He should stay at his in-laws if OP expects his wife to do that
      Jun 6
  • Twilio / R&D Signal19
    Don't behave rudely with parents who loved you for 20+ years for this b** who came in your life 4 years ago.
    Jun 5 0
  • Amazon / Eng
    eichenwald

    Amazon Eng

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    eichenwaldmore
    And thanks for posting TC. You are a good man. The blind community, mostly full of assholes, can recognize an asshole when they hear about one. You bi7ch is definitely one.
    Lean on this post for support.
    But dump her. Right now.

    I've dumped the sweetest and hottest of women just cos their plan for having kids did not align with mine.
    I ended up with someone even better.
    My earliest girlfriend was a bi7ch just like yours. I let it carry on for too long cos it was the first long term one and it took me time to see all the warnings signs clearly.
    So I hear you. It seems hard now.

    You will have a few tough weeks/months. But it will become infinitely better eventually.
    Jun 7 5
    • Google / Eng relprime
      I agree that OPs fiance's behavior isn't okay. But, the b word isn't okay either. It's often used to shame women for being assertive. The behavior discussed here has nothing to do with gender and we can discuss that without using gendered slurs.
      Jun 7
    • Amazon / Eng
      eichenwald

      Amazon Eng

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      eichenwaldmore
      Hypersensitive SJW spotted. No walkouts today, relprime? Memegen down?
      Jun 7
    • Google / Eng relprime
      I don't understand really understand why SJW is used like an insult. Warrior sounds pretty badass. And it sounds like you're comparing me to MLK and Rosa parks and other people that are really admirable. So, thanks?
      Jun 7
    • Amazon / Eng
      eichenwald

      Amazon Eng

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      eichenwaldmore
      You are welcome.
      Jun 7
    • Bloomberg / Eng
      WPslayer

      Bloomberg Eng

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      WPslayermore
      Policing speech in anonymous forums. Truly exerting the same sort of courage that MLK did when he crossed the Edmund Pettus bridge in Selma.
      Jun 7
  • NetApp l0rD
    How to get an Indian gf in the first place though?
    Jun 5 1
    • Amazon ezy
      You have to create a profile on Indian matrimonial websites instead of LinkedIn.
      Jun 5
  • Walmart.com / Eng
    schrutfarm

    Walmart.com Eng

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    schrutfarmmore
    I stopped reading after 4 sentences and I can tell you she’s not the right person to be with. I don’t know if it’s too late but call it off! With 4 year long relationship I expect a lot more respect for each other and families as well.
    Never take disrespect from anyone, not about your family and not about your career.
    Jun 5 0
  • Google base22
    Its not her. Its you! Go read some red pill books. The marriedredpill subReddit is a good start. Don’t end up on redpill subReddit. That place is a shit hole and disrespectful to women. Your goal should be to understand human psych and dynamics of human relationships not woman, gf, spouse.
    Jun 11 9
    • Google / Eng relprime
      It's not okay to prey on someone when they're going through a difficult time.
      Jun 11
    • Google / Eng 🍑☁️
      Red pillers are mostly morons who I would never trust to understand human psychology. The amount of motivated reasoning in those subreddits is insane. They're like "it's science!" but then can't think empirically and throw around conclusions based on low sample size correlations which wouldn't prove causation even if they had larger sample sizes.
      Jun 11
    • Google base22
      Electricity kills people that doesn’t mean we don’t use it. Like everything red pill has it own good and bad and it requires you to able to differentiate between them.
      Jun 11
    • Google / Eng 🍑☁️
      In that case, the subreddits are the equivalent of sticking a fork in a socket
      Jun 11
    • Google base22
      Not true. It is just your interpretation. Let OP explore and decide for themselves.
      Jun 11
    • Google / Eng relprime
      Misery loves company.

      He sounds like a nice guy. If he breaks up with his fiance, there's a good chance he'll find love again in the future.

      Instead of trying to derail other people's future prospects, maybe you should work on your own.
      Jun 12
    • Google base22
      presumptuous much
      Jun 12
    • Google / Eng relprime
      Am I wrong?
      Jun 12
    • Google base22
      Who knows
      Jun 12
  • NetApp dybfjn
    Indian girl here, you can talk to her openly about your issues. Tell her that you can’t take a toll when it comes to parents. Relationships are just not between two people but two families. Your parents might not be perfect but she can share her issues with you while respecting your parents always. It takes time to adopt to new people and families. Be open about your priorities and her priorities. She will have a clear picture of what she is getting into and you won’t have to be guilty.
    Jun 5 5
    • ADP DEXo52
      Sorry I don’t agree with you. If I had to explain my partner that she needs to respect my family, I would be better off without that person in my life.
      Jun 5
    • NetApp dybfjn
      There is no harm to lay out expectations in relationships. Sometimes just clear communication helps. Don’t always expect that if I have to explain blah blah blah then it’s not worth.
      Jun 5
    • New / Strategy
      Porsche996

      New Strategy

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      Instead of playing out expectations, I would suggest to work with both of your expectations.
      It happens that something might be starkingly different, how do you handle this?

      Also some of your expectations may/may not be told, so I would suggest you to read the top voted 100 Reddit posts on relationships to identify/foresee what might go wrong in the marriage and try to talk it out before hand

      By the time you're done with the exercise, you would be prepared to handle the unforseen. Obviously the truth is something is not going to work but how you're going to handle is 'what life is about'.
      Jun 5
    • Amazon guchiba
      The worst advice ever! Such people deserve a boot!
      Jun 6
    • Workday ght35df
      This is not a good advice. Relationship is between you and your spouse and not between your families.
      Jun 7
  • Microsoft don’tpanic
    op..run away and fast! I had similar situation and was engaged to her only a month before I came to my senses. If she treats you and your parents this way now, think how it will be when you get married? Her true self will come out. There are many women out there that will treat you better. Don’t take this shit.

    Also, grow a backbone and set her straight. Women will walk all over you if you let them. She’s lost respect for you because you cater to her every need. They want a challenge.
    Jun 6 1
    • New / Eng hustlerboy
      The last part of this answer is spot on. It seems like she has the dominating abusive type of personality. Either bail out now or get some practice screaming at the top of your lungs to win the battle of dominance once you two get married. You still have the chance to choose the first.
      Jun 10
  • Adobe / QA Adobe123
    Tell her that your heaven lies in the feet of your parents. Maata pita ke charnon main swarg hai.
    Jun 5 1
    • New / Data
      bhaav

      New Data

      BIO
      Software developer with 3yoe
      bhaavmore
      Bang on dude😂😊🤣😅
      Jun 6
  • Microsoft / Eng OtFY46
    Leave. Run. Fast. I have a very positive view for relationships and that sounds toxic. You'll want to kill yourself after a couple of years of marriage. Don't be afraid to leave. Don't think how will I find another girl. you will. maybe in 5 years but you will. the near-perfect one. this is not worth wasting your valuable life one. PM me if you need to talk. fellow Indian.
    Jun 6 0
  • Verizon / Eng ComTruis3
    Someone I knew was in this exact situation. Didn’t really listen to the friends about dumping her before marriage. After marriage wife forced him to alienate his friends and find a new place away from his parents. She started fights on smallest things and day later would send ‘let’s forget the fight, I love you’ texts, then repeat a week later. Last I heard she dragged him to court for the house they bought and also the parents house because they lived there for two years. Luckily no kids. Poor guy still hopes she loves him 😂
    Jun 9 0
  • Microsoft / Eng 🍤🍤&🌭🌭
    Crazy ex girlfriends are better, and cheaper, than crazy ex wives.

    While wedding planning is often stressful, so is life. This is a peek into your future. Is she worth it to you?
    Jun 6 0
  • Salesforce / Eng DltF00
    "... she claims that I will never get a person like her..." That's the point.
    Jun 6 0
  • Adobe / QA Adobe123
    Bhai leave her, right now. As a married Indian man I can say that nothing changes after marriage. After marriage she will tell you that your parents cannot live with you or even visit you for extended durations. She won't let your child interact with the grandparents. That will hurt you a lot more. So leave her and move on.
    Jun 5 0
  • Microsoft / Eng
    ablogs

    Microsoft Eng

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    M1, growing team
    ablogsmore
    Whether you are wrong or not, whether your parents are wrong or not - whether the girl is wrong or not; this relationship is a toxic one. Run away as far as you can.
    Jun 6 2
    • Atlassian / Eng
      Luffy, M.D

      Atlassian Eng

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      Luffy, M.Dmore
      This
      Jun 6
    • Navy Federal Credit Union / Eng danda
      he gets it
      Jun 6
  • Amazon bezojef
    Did u tell her any of this? Talk to her first. Dumping her is the easiest thing you can do today but why not discuss all these things with her after all you have invested so much time and emotions already.

    It is common with Indian girls to share a few relationship details with her parents. Did u ask why she did that? Did u tell her that you feel uncomfortable when she shares such things with her parents?
    Jun 5 2
    • Microsoft qgUR51
      "“ she claims that I will never get a person like her” "- this is not common. This is not normal. You got be extremely have a big chip on your shoulder to think that you're better than someone.
      Jun 5
    • Amazon yamudu
      ^Imho that is also pretty common with girls ;)
      Jun 5
  • Bloomberg / Eng
    WPslayer

    Bloomberg Eng

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    Fidessa
    WPslayermore
    I couldn’t make it past 2nd paragraph. End that shit. You’ll find someone better.
    Jun 6 1
    • Atlassian / Eng
      Luffy, M.D

      Atlassian Eng

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      Luffy, M.Dmore
      Amen bro
      Jun 6
  • eBay explorerz
    Jun 7 0
  • Uber / Eng oppression
    Leave here. Also buy an iPhone u clown.
    Jun 6 0
  • Amazon ezy
    Show this post and replies to your girlfriend, you will get 100% clarity on what to do next based on her response :)
    Jun 6 0
  • Samsung / HR
    realsam

    Samsung HR

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    realsammore
    Oh my gosh man....END IT NOW. If it's this bad before you even get married....dude seriously. You have got to end it now. Seriously. Once you're married, she is entitled to half of all of your assets. Please end it.
    Jun 6 0
  • Cisco @G
    Generally things go a little down hill after marriage. If you’re not happy before...
    Jun 5 0
  • New xoHr64
    Bail out. Be respectful but firm. Move on. It will only get much worse if you go through with the wedding. You're giving her an opportunity to find love with the right guy. If she is abusive towards your parents, you're not the right guy & she's not right for you.
    Jun 6 0
  • Google chenku
    Been there done that. Run now or deal with divorce later.
    Jun 6 0
  • Google / Eng relprime
    Get out. This is a huge red flag. I wouldn't tolerate this from a man and men shouldn't tolerate this from women either.
    Jun 5 0
  • VMware ldkmskanja
    You are lucky to realise this before marriage. Breakup and find another family who respects your parents and you.
    Jun 5 0
  • Cloudflare / Eng myimouto
    obviously don't marry this person
    Jun 5 0
  • Facebook public2
    No need to read all, grow up and break up with her
    Jun 5 3
    • Facebook kcAlzxb
      This. And compensate her well for the 4 years of the prime years of her life you wasted
      Jun 5
    • Amazon yamudu
      Componesate? This isn't prostitution my friend.
      Jun 6
    • Optimatic / Eng toptic
      @kcAlzxb I feel bad for your husband.
      Jun 6
  • Qualcomm / Eng LazyPro
    I had an abusive girlfriend in the past. Went through similar shit. Leaving her is the best decision I’ve taken.
    Jun 6 1
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      Amen!
      Jun 6
  • Intel / Eng anon123ano
    These are indications that she is cooking something and planning to marry someone else my friend
    Jun 5 1
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      My thoughts exactly. Something else is cooking. All of the outburst is usually a facade.
      Jun 6
  • WeWork / Eng Buy We
    With grammar that bad, it’s time to leave
    Jun 7 0
  • MailChimp / Eng ElroyJet$N
    I read 2 sentences and was able to come to a decision. Just move on
    Jun 6 0
  • Google / Eng svb
    Leave that b***h. Family comes first. She can become a part of it if she appreciates the existing one. And that Google thing was under the belt. She doesn’t respect you bro. If I were you, I’d not even look at her.
    Jun 6 0
  • Salesforce derAlte
    Dump her else you’ll pay a hefty price emotionally and financially after you get married.
    Jun 6 0
  • JLL jhTr50
    Forget abt the fights and dofferences. Plse.
    Jun 5 0
  • Google gtrdjk
    Definitely leave. You have much less at stake now compared to later. If you are having so much trouble leaving right now, inside how much harder would it be with marriage and maybe kids on the cards.
    Jun 5 0
  • Wayfair pbSy87
    OP
    thank you everyone for being so supportive and validating my emotions. I appreciate the help here. thank you again.
    Jun 5 0

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