All I want to do is stay home and not talk to anybody
During the bulk of my early and mid 20’s I had a very active social life. During the week I’d just go to work, hit the gym after, read (mostly technical books), and chill with my girlfriend. Almost every single weekend I’d hang out with my friends, go to bars and clubs, concerts and festivals, and other events. Gradually I stopped caring about having a social life. The idea of going out bored me. I don’t text anyone and no one texts me and I don’t stay updated on social media aside from Blind. Not having weekends plan, talking to anybody, forgetting to check my phone for hours on end is so liberating. Not waking up on Saturdays/Sundays hungover is great. I can get up early, go on a run, hit the boxing gym, meal prep food for a few days, read some books, do some leetcode, spend time with my girlfriend, go to bed early and get a good night’s sleep. Basically the only thing thing that excites me these days is self-improvement. Being completely detached from having to talk to anybody or do anything socially engaging. I’m not afraid of “missing out” on anything anymore. I’ve stayed in every weekend for about 2 months now and feel great about only focusing on pursuing my hobbies. There’s not much point to this post but I was wondering if anyone has gone through a similar situation and if its just a temporary phase or if its a normal thing that happens in your late 20’s.
I think it’s normal, priorities change as you get into your 30s and beyond.
A part of self-improvement is socializing. You learn a lot from conversations - experiences, opinions, thoughts, decision-making, etc. But, yes, apart from that, you have a solid life and it's normal to stay detached.
What happened to the girlfriend?
She dumped him which is why op is on a self improvement quest
We’ve been dating for about 5 years now so we’re comfortable with each other doing our own thing for most of the day. In the evening we’ll cook dinner together, or go out to try a new restaurant, then watch TV before bed. Sometimes I go on a run and invite her to come, so she’ll run with me for a bit. We loop back to the apartment and I’ll finish the rest of the run alone. If she does yoga in the morning she’ll also bring me along. She’s not a runner and I’m not into yoga but it’s things like that that helps develop new bonds and hobbies together.
Totally relatable, except the gf part 😂. I stay indoors, do my own things, and have a narrow but close friend circle. No social media. Weekdays are consumed by work and gym. Weekends are just about watching a few Netflix shows, running errands, studying, and occasional dinner with friends. Clubbing is a once or twice an year thing now. Yesterday I met a few 18 year olds at a coffee shop (I was studying there) and they seemed so excited about life. Talking, laughing, giggling, wearing cool clothes, and showing off a little bit in front of the opposite sex. I could relate to my younger self 😂. So I am guessing things just change with age.
Thanks for the insight man and glad you’re doing well.
Agree with @rat race. We all grow with time
Its a little early for late 20s. It should ideally happen in late 30s. Your priorities tend to change. Music shifts from hard rock to jazz and chill. You like massage more than clubbing. Politics more than Hollywood. You realise the rat race you are in and start accepting the cards you have been dealt.
You reached 35-year-old level in your late 20s. This is self improvement :)
I guess this is a good thing. I went through this recently but I'm in my late 30s. I still drink occasionally, once a month or two but there better be a good fucking reason to do it. I approve
Get laid, nerd
Reading not your strength eh?
You are getting old. That's the sign of aging. Soon the next symptom will be erectile dysfunction.
Don’t curse me with that nonsense, witch.
0-100 real quick.