Title says it all. I live by myself and feel like long weekends I go days without talking to anyone. Career is great but all alone for the most part. Coworkers don’t really hang out after work and nobody from my school or hometown around here. As more time passes, feels like this could be the rest of my life. Edit : I’m overwhelmed by the responses, looks like SV has a lot of good people after all - and everyone else not in the Valley. I’m also saddened by the number of responses that seem to identify with exactly what I posted above. It’s ridiculous that so many people are feeling this way. This can’t be a good thing, I don’t know what the numbers used to look like historically but this sounds like an epidemic that needs to be addressed.
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Have you tried joining interest groups or meet up groups in your area?
I’ll need to give this a shot. I can’t honestly say that I tried it for real. Went to some tech ones but that’s not really it is it
tech ones could work too or maybe sports ones? I find going to such groups help me meet ppl who have similar interests to begin with and therefore common topics to talk about or things I can enjoy doing together!
Is that why you join blind? Got bad news for you. Wrong place to look for friends here.
You know what it might surprise you but it actually helps that I got responses to the post. That’s one more interaction than I’m currently having.
There are people that have friends and there are people that don’t have many friends. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you as a person want to not continue like this. So figure out how to make friends and hang out with them. It’s certainly harder to make friends as you age into the job life so you will have to push yourself sometimes instead of getting comfortable sitting at home
This is real. I’m new to the area and it’s legit hard as an adult.
Nah, making new friendships as an adult sucks. I legitimately found my current best friend from bumble bff. I went on there as a last resort and ended up with an amazing friend lol. I recommend going to local networking things, meetup groups, and joining a recreational activity where you can meet people. My brother made a ton of friends at his local crossfit and they plan happy hours together.
Haha. That’s actually a funny story, nice way for it work out haha. I see a few other posts about hiking groups or people that watch sports together. Will give those a shot.
Lol, I’m not the only one!!! I found a really good friend through the BFF app as well. 😆
Do you have some interests? Like sports, hiking/climbing or board games? In both the Bay and Seattle area there are a lot of people with random interests. You can certainly find some group if you want to...
I would add, if you were at Microsoft, I'd help you join some Facebook groups or find a board-gaming weekly meetup. Not sure where you are located though
This is shit advice. People in Seattle are super cold and cliquey. They will not hang out with you after the activity. They are also super racist and also super against techies. Unless they are techies. And you don't wanna hang out with most techies.
Get a hobby and join the community Ex join local SCCA if you want to go auto racing. Head to a track on the weekend make friends talk about driving. Go out to eat etc (e.g. after championship weekend). Disc golf club Book club DND club Longsword fighting Take blacksmith classes at local forge. Depending on the car you have, local car meets. If you have some high end car, local cars and coffee meetup. Or just play world of Warcraft. Classic is back finally 🙌
The car thing sounds fun, I’m sure there’s a GTI group. Thanks for the idea! I had no idea about SCCA, sounds fun
If you enjoy it it's one of the greatest hobbies ever. SCCA autocross is the cheapest safest way to get into auto racing (This message is brought to you by the Sports Car Club of America)
Socialize, go out. Don’t sit at home.
The fastest way to depression is feeling like you need someone else around to make you happy. I see it all the time with people that have to be around friends to be happy. Don’t feel like you have to have any or many friends. Quality over quantity is best. If you want to have a good friend that you connect with, join a club or take up a sport that you enjoy. There you will meet like minded people. Plus, if you are happy now, then don’t worry about acquiring friends. People come in to your life at different times and it is mostly unplanned. Enjoy life.
To be fair I think it's really easy to get down if you're an extrovert. You need to be around a lot of people to get energy
Agree with fps_doug, I’m not super extroverted but just like to be around folks. 5 days alone seems hard to me. It’s an interesting thought experiment nonetheless.
Do you know anyone from your school/hometown/college in your area?
Unfortunately no. In the bay, nobody I know from earlier but I’ll have to put myself out there and make an effort I guess. Never done that
Ah that would have been a great first step. Do you have any clubs or groups at your workplace? You don’t necessarily have to befriend your teammates. You could be great friends with someone in a different team!
Yes, the rest of us are all best buddies with one another.
Hey, long time no see! How’ve you been?
Let’s hangout Friday.