She moved to a new city and is meeting new people. She is an engineer so most of her friend circle is males. She often goes with them to the beach, to parties etc and although I hate to admit it, it makes me insecure especially because she is so far now. Is it normal to feel insecure? At the same time I don’t want to tell her to spend her weekends alone without friends
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- I'm glad I found this post today. OP, being the exact same girl, I can tell you one thing. My boyfriend and I have been in long distance for 4 of the 8 years we have been together. He's finally come to Seattle now :) I love partying and all my friends are guys . I even have partied alone and got drunk and told him stories on the phone. The sweet person that he is, he never said anything about how I told that I was blacked out, don't know how I got home etc . But I'll tell you one thing, I wish he told me and expressed that he won't like me to go. Often before leaving , I would try to gauge his reactions..I'm a very empowered woman, but I don't think it's unempowering for me to adjust to my boyfriend's insecurities ( actually let me not use that word. It is completely normal for him to feel a bit out of the loop). But yea..not saying I would have heard him 10/10 times. but most of the times . It's a bit sexy to be concerned sometimes . Just tell her your feelings irrespective of what Blind is telling you . Surprise her. If you really love her, and you have the slightest Inkling that she loves you, don't hold back your feelings :) hope you tell her. Let us know how it goes
- Honeywell that1guyThis answer will tell you everything you need to know:
Do you trust her?
- Google tormun_dEmded nano gyroscopic sensors to her thongs and panties and monitor readings for unusual activities.
- Is it normal to feel insecure? ==> It's natural, given you most likely care about your relationship and worry you'll lose her.
To tell her to spend weekends alone ==> this is the first thing that comes to mind, but don't go for the naive approach. Offer solutions on how you can spend time together, don't just prohibit things without replacing them with a better alternative.
Cook together, play, create opportunities for both of you to laugh and enjoy "your time".
Perhaps let her know, you feel this way, so she knows you care, but don't over do it. Trust is always the key for both sides, and it means a lot to know someone fully trusts you.
- She's obviously going to break up with you, wouldn't you prefer sooner rather than later?
- New SuitsLong distance is difficult and trusting is even more painful. it's okay to feel insecure but what you can do is keep yourself aware. Like does she talk to you normally, does she ignore your calls? Has her behavior changed at all? And yes, you don't have to worry if it's a group of guys, I'd worry if there was just one guy she's hanging out with. 😉
- Trust her. Know that she'll come back to you after the day. If she moves on, it's her life, bad luck for you i'm sorry. You should not control her, it's her life after all. What you should do indeed is make decisions and communicate your thoughts clearly.
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- Start looking out. Look for a long term date locally. Do this until your "long distance" is over, gf relocates with you and the date ends with time, ...or the relationship ends and the date becomes a gf. I learned this from girls only.
As we know from the past, majority of the girls always have a boyfriend and a male friend (~ long term date).
- Nothing good would come out of trying to control her but if you really worry and don't fully trust her then check on her. Usually people give subtle hints if they are upto something. Long distance is super high maintenence but if she is worth it then do the maintenance and prepare for the worst emotionally. Also, visit in person at least once every three months. That's an absolute necessity.