She moved to a new city and is meeting new people. She is an engineer so most of her friend circle is males. She often goes with them to the beach, to parties etc and although I hate to admit it, it makes me insecure especially because she is so far now. Is it normal to feel insecure? At the same time I don’t want to tell her to spend her weekends alone without friends
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- I'm glad I found this post today. OP, being the exact same girl, I can tell you one thing. My boyfriend and I have been in long distance for 4 of the 8 years we have been together. He's finally come to Seattle now :) I love partying and all my friends are guys . I even have partied alone and got drunk and told him stories on the phone. The sweet person that he is, he never said anything about how I told that I was blacked out, don't know how I got home etc . But I'll tell you one thing, I wish he told me and expressed that he won't like me to go. Often before leaving , I would try to gauge his reactions..I'm a very empowered woman, but I don't think it's unempowering for me to adjust to my boyfriend's insecurities ( actually let me not use that word. It is completely normal for him to feel a bit out of the loop). But yea..not saying I would have heard him 10/10 times. but most of the times . It's a bit sexy to be concerned sometimes . Just tell her your feelings irrespective of what Blind is telling you . Surprise her. If you really love her, and you have the slightest Inkling that she loves you, don't hold back your feelings :) hope you tell her. Let us know how it goes
- Honeywell that1guyThis answer will tell you everything you need to know:
Do you trust her?
- Google tormun_dEmded nano gyroscopic sensors to her thongs and panties and monitor readings for unusual activities.
- Is it normal to feel insecure? ==> It's natural, given you most likely care about your relationship and worry you'll lose her.
To tell her to spend weekends alone ==> this is the first thing that comes to mind, but don't go for the naive approach. Offer solutions on how you can spend time together, don't just prohibit things without replacing them with a better alternative.
- Microsoft T KilvishIf you guys like watching movies and TV shows, you can spend time together on rabb.it (there are some other similar websites as well). You can schedule GOT dates 🙂
Regular phone/video sex - very important!
Surprise visits! Meet her friends as well.
Trust her and also your gut! 🙅♂️
Cook together, play, create opportunities for both of you to laugh and enjoy "your time".
Perhaps let her know, you feel this way, so she knows you care, but don't over do it. Trust is always the key for both sides, and it means a lot to know someone fully trusts you.
- She's obviously going to break up with you, wouldn't you prefer sooner rather than later?
- New SuitsLong distance is difficult and trusting is even more painful. it's okay to feel insecure but what you can do is keep yourself aware. Like does she talk to you normally, does she ignore your calls? Has her behavior changed at all? And yes, you don't have to worry if it's a group of guys, I'd worry if there was just one guy she's hanging out with. 😉
- Trust her. Know that she'll come back to you after the day. If she moves on, it's her life, bad luck for you i'm sorry. You should not control her, it's her life after all. What you should do indeed is make decisions and communicate your thoughts clearly.
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- Start looking out. Look for a long term date locally. Do this until your "long distance" is over, gf relocates with you and the date ends with time, ...or the relationship ends and the date becomes a gf. I learned this from girls only.
As we know from the past, majority of the girls always have a boyfriend and a male friend (~ long term date).
- Nothing good would come out of trying to control her but if you really worry and don't fully trust her then check on her. Usually people give subtle hints if they are upto something. Long distance is super high maintenence but if she is worth it then do the maintenance and prepare for the worst emotionally. Also, visit in person at least once every three months. That's an absolute necessity.
- Zillow Group GilFoyle1Her actions are out of your control, even if you ask for her to not go, she has the free will to go. Nothing stops her from going and lying about it too.
I suggest you either trust her, which requires yourself to be vulnerable to her hurting you (that’s life).
Or you tell her how you feel, and be frank with where she sees your relationship 3-6 months from now and longer and tell her about your insecurities, and that you don’t want to be strung along if she finds something else out there.
And a bit of life advice, controlling things you cannot only frustrates you more. Be rational, realistic, and honest with yourself. Best of luck man.
- New prodigy48You know there is a saying if you love something let it go and if it’s meant to be it will happen. But you need to tell her how you feel and what would help you both feel more secure. But no matter what you can’t control anyone the best thing to do is love her but enjoy your life too and have a good time. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than someone who is doing ok without them. Keep her guessing a little.
- Indeed ioi82pIt's normal to feel secure. It's also not going to help anything. Even if everything is actually fine, letting your insecurity get the best of you will be frustrating and alienating to her.
But, realistically, a massive amount of relationships end like this. "She lies in a different city than I do and constantly goes out drinking with other guys" is a situation that has obvious outcomes. Maybe your relationship is incredibly strong, and you're the exceptional couple. But just, playing the odds, it doesn't look good.
But seriously, being insecure about it is the worst thing you could do. Be stoic about it instead