Are very close friendships detrimental to one’s personal growth

Citrix Systems stcky
Jul 8 13 Comments

Do any of you feel “trapped” in a close friendship and think you’d be better off without it? By this I mean talking every day, hanging out every weekend, knowing everything about each other’s lives, advising each other on silly to significant decisions.

While I valued these kind of friendships in my early 20s, I’ve been avoiding getting too close as I get older. I’m now in my mid 30s and happy to have more good acquaintances than close friends.

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  • Amazon / Eng nycsucks
    Don't abandon close friendships. You need your space, say you need your space.

    Because when you're in a jam and you need someone to help you, do you think your acquaintances are going to lift a finger? No. Keep your close friends even if you need to distance yourself every now and again
    Jul 8 0
  • Google Marsian
    I've changed the nature of my close friendship. I talk weekly and hangout twice a month or so with my close friends. I do share important things and seek advice when we hangout. Anything more frequent than that is too much for me now. I'm in early mid thirties.
    Jul 8 0
  • Oracle k-9
    Bcoz you’re growing up and learning how to act in public
    Jul 8 0
  • Intel Spikiera
    It actually sucks so bad that friendships deteriorates as you get older, the bond becomes less tight over time. Personally I would prefer close friendship, good to have a brother from another mother if you know what I mean
    Jul 8 0
  • Oracle k-9
    Many people get busy in 30s due to married life and career
    Jul 8 0
  • Charter / Data
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    gbdjd87more
    What the actual fuck?
    Jul 9 2
    • Citrix Systems stcky
      OP
      What?
      Jul 9
    • Microsoft / Eng Eyree
      what kind of question is that, sticky? you're an adult, you should know how to manage your relationships. asking random ppl on blind is plain strange.
      also, how much time do you have since you have time for all these philosophical questions?
      Jul 9
  • Intel / Eng RTL_
    Having good friends is always good
    Jul 8 0
  • Axtria DesiLaunda
    This mindset is the reason we tend to lose good friendships as we get older
    Jul 9 0
  • Amazon echo $?
    Close friends are great. A spouse or SO cannot meet all your needs and if something hits the fan then you have a broad base of support for help.
    Jul 9 0
  • Microsoft / Eng Eyree
    you definetly should have close friends.
    Jul 8 0
  • New
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    Cut ‘em all off. Online friends and family is what you keep. Actually, your in software, ignore the family. Your logical not emotional.
    Jul 8 0