Are you friends with your co-workers?

Pacific Northwest National Lab kntbu
Aug 28, 2018 19 Comments

I miss my college days where I had friends.

I'm not sure if it's the environment of my company, or maybe everywhere else is like that, but I have no friends at work.

Now, I have coworkers and colleagues, but not at the level where I would trust them in simple stuff like 'I really hate this aspect of the company'. Too much politics and bullshit, never know who to trust and I constantly have to screen what I say out loud. I really really hate to have to watch my back 24/7.

Is it just this shitty company and their culture?

Do you have friends at work? Or do you keep everyone at a distance?


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TOP 19 Comments
  • New / Eng sc@l@
    Do you realize that your coworkers are your competitors?
    Aug 28, 2018 5
    • Oracle XSIK31
      No, they're not. And this is an absolutely absurd thing to say
      Aug 28, 2018
    • Microsoft KidEgo
      That has to be the least mature comment I've read on Blind. Competitors. LOL.
      Aug 28, 2018
    • New / Eng sc@l@
      Many people in IT lack social analytical skills. That's really their own disadvantage. Thay can LOL all day long.
      Aug 28, 2018
    • Puppet pqXV61
      Found the person working at a toxic company among toxic people!
      Aug 28, 2018
    • Google bugaboo
      Found the four people who are still at their first jobs!

      The idea that your coworkers AREN'T your competitors is ridiculous.
      Aug 28, 2018
  • HPE / Eng Faaak
    No. I’m the only white person on the team, everyone else breaks up into their own ethnic groups (Chinese/Indian). The people are decently nice, but they’re also old enough to be my parents (I’m in my 20’s) and we have nothing in common. I’ve tried to befriend them but our small talk never translated into anything substantial. There are days when I show up to my desk, do my work, and go home without saying a single word to anyone. I spend most days on Blind or chatting with friends on Facebook and taking walks alone during the day to clear my mind. It’s really lonely and I feel pretty sad. Don’t worry you’re not the only one who feels that way.
    Aug 28, 2018 3
    • Amazon RBzh76
      You'd be amazed what you have in common, but you've shut yourself out. Here's a newsflash, older people like to hang with young people because of their energy.
      Aug 28, 2018
    • Dell k7$9+oV
      I would switch team/company if I were you. No point being miserable 6-8 hours a day.
      Aug 28, 2018
    • HPE / Eng Faaak
      I’m actively leetcoding and interviewing but recently failed all my phone screens and onsites. Some day I’ll be out of here...some day...
      Aug 28, 2018
  • Cigna HealthSpring NotMe!
    Newsflash! If you are looking for any kind of promotion or to position yourself for recognition and/or a raise, your coworkers are your competitors.That’s not to say that you should be working against them but you should definitely be trying to establish yourself as an individual that stands out above others. And that does not mean that you work against other people or do not work well in teams, it’s simply a statement to say that you need to look out for yourself regarding your career development.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Uber / Eng hotboi
    Best to have work friends. Doesn’t mean we hang out all the time after work but we can definitely bitch about things or grab a drink every now and then.

    If you don’t have work friends I think you’re fine so long as you have actual friends outside of work.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Cigna HealthSpring NotMe!
    Trust me I’ve been in management for 30 years, I know that managers are watching what everyone’s doing their making note of who is excelling and who is just stagnating. So if you think that your coworkers are not your competitors, I think that’s the immature comment. Why do you think when there is an internal opening that there are interviews. That’s because you’re competing against other people in your company.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Sirius XM PtCebx4
    Start asking people that you think you might be able to trust to lunch or to get a beer after work. Screen what you say for a while at first and then drop something fairly innocuous and see if they pursue it and echo it. Build that up over time over several interactions with that person. If you’re super concerned and don’t want to have it damage you professionally if it backfires, start out by confiding some low level personal issue that has nothing to do with work and wait a while to see if that information was spread around the team or kept in confidence.

    Some companies are just full of bullshit and politics but there are always people who hate it as much as you do. I think longer term, the fact that nobody talks about it openly either in a joking way or as a problem with possible solutions at your company is a bad sign and maybe it’s time to seek greener pastures.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Samsung scorp.sam
    Get another job and check the team members during onsite...
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Microsoft / Eng Muski
    I'm the only Indian in my team and I'm surrounded by whites and Asians. Apart from small lunch talks, I don't have much to do with them.

    Neither I invite them to hangout outside work nor they do. But I'm doing fine.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • Amazon


    Until this is real you can’t be like college friends ever in professional places. Looks like Jack Welch invented and GE is paying for it now.
    Aug 29, 2018 0
  • Microsoft KidEgo
    Become a manager and "encourage" your team to hang out.
    Aug 28, 2018 0
  • eBay YAgV34
    Very few not working directly with me
    Aug 28, 2018 0


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