To those who have spend 5+ years in this country do you look back and think you made a mistake leaving your home. I came to US 1.5 years ago, still doing my masters. All my life I dreamed of working at one of the top companies and landing that huge package. Thankfully I got the top tier offer and I will soon start the corporate cycle. It just hit me now I have achieved what I wanted, whats next? Before coming here I had high expectations regarding US. But after spending this much time, I think coming here might be the worst descision of my life. There is nothing here other then high TC. After 2-3 years I think money is just gonna be a number in my bank account. I don’t see myself ever needing this much amount of money. You have to live in constant fear of when some new rule is gonna kick you out. Meanwhile you see posts of your family/friends gathering at some social function, enjoying. I know people who couldn’t attend their sister’s wedding, Grandma’s death. I am scared as shit thinking this is gonna be my whole life from now on. Does it ever get better?
Well your home country, and shit TC, are always waiting to welcome you back with open arms.
I think the same. Been 5 years here, not sure if I'll stay or not. I'll try to get the GC and see how I feel. Other than that, I feel shattered not to be in my home country, but when I remember my state of mind when I left, I feel happier. I wasn't feeling proud then, and my family wasn't proud of me neither. Now I feel a certain pride. I definitely don't have it all but I believe I'm better here.
TC or GTFO. Please do the needful.
Probably more than you.
If you value family a lot it doesnt make sense to leave your country. Most people who are happy in the us have always been immigrants fleeing economic or some other kind of adverserity who worked hard to make the american dream, if you want okayish money and great benefits/family life europe or your own country is the best bet. Be here because you want to work on some really cool Google/Amazon team only situatued here. I am an Indian and a lot of people dont adapt here because they keep on holding to Indian things. If you keep on watching cricket/bollywood and Indian food 100% of the time you are obviously going to miss India, if you are here you need to start enjoying the sports which people follow here, the music they follow, evnen the food. Basically to be happy here you have to be an American not whichever country you came from the and that makes perfect sense, society here is built for Americans and to enjoy it to the full extent you have to become one.
I don’t have problem adapting. I don’t even like indian food or I am not that big cricket fan too. But I get what you are saying. I thing is something is missing, it just doesn’t add up.
Also most tech jobs though pay a lot of money are boring af. We are paid not because we are doing hard things but because of free market, try to transition into doing that kind of teams where work is more challenging. For eg teams in amazon optimziing deep learning training or amazon dyanamo teams or teams writing their cdns.
Same experience as you, OP. I moved here few years ago because I was career oriented. After moving I soon realized , career is a shit show with moving goalpost. In the meantime, I missed spending years with my family, celebrating little joys with them, being around them during hardships, helping them out everyday, moved away from close friends, broke up with my partner, spoiled my health by eating out often. I am already bored of the shallow people here with monotonous boring work life where people weigh everything on money. But for some reason, I am afraid to make the leap back and I keep justifying my fear and procrastination with stupid reasons about how it won't be a good idea to go back.
I feel the same. Also 1.5 years here, already graduated. America sucks, it pains me to see how everything here is about money. People don’t value good in other people. Even here they say “TC or GTFO”. But I don’t understand how you can head to your fancy office stepping over homeless people and be happy. But I don’t have an offer not even from FAANG, from any other company too, so it doesn’t matter
Men. Same situation I had. I came to Dublin 2 years ago, and I regret, and decided to go back to my home country. Considering why we are working at top tech company, and seeking high TC, wlb, good care plan etc. It's just because we want to be happy. Yeah, in this world, we really can't be happy without money. but wait, how much money you REALLY want to live decently? Money is just ONE factor in your life. If you are going to sacrifice your happiness because of high TC, you are putting the car before the horse. Don't misplace your priorities.
You can move back anytime but you will never be home. It will never be the same, you have looked behind the curtain.
Thats what I afraid of. I know people who went back and in couple of months they wanted to come back here.
Well, simple answer is remembering why did you move here ? For me, I did because of the better career prospects. And that hasn't changed yet.
If you are really scared and not care about money get out