How do you appear confident and still not come across as someone with a lot of pride or arrogance? I get feedback that I come across as someone not very confident.. even though I am and its my demeanor that gives that perception. How do I fix this? What helped you?
Ask more specifically what specific aspect of your behavior make people feel that way. Without knowing that the feedback is not quite actionable. But once you know that some deliberate effort will make it easy to improve.
Because I am soft spoken and my voice does not sound like âpassive yellâ .. not sure i want to change that.. Also the stakeholders I generally deal with are much older than me and sometimes I do feel that I am not taken seriously even though what I bring to the table is meaty. And later get this kind of feedback when I ask for it. âYou had a point but you should learn to influence betterâ đ/ âbe confidentâ
Ask questions. Not personal questions, but professional questions thatâs related to the personâs expertise.
Dont understand how that will help.. can you please help with an example?
Make the conversation about other person. So for e.g when someone asks what do you do? Give an elevator pitch of your work. Then turn the question around and ask them what is that they do? Listen carefully, and the. Ask a follow up question which has more than a word answer for e.g. what do you find hard about your role. Or how did you end up doing what you are doing. Where do you see the industry going from here ? This will make you sound more interesting and take the focus away from your demeanor. Practice voice modulation in front of a mirror by yourself. If you are coming across as a certain personality type, you are that. Remember perception is reality and it will take work to break it
Thanks that was helpful.
Stop worrying about shit like this. Confident ppl donât
I got that feedback a few times :/
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