My site used to be a startup that was recently acquired by Amzn. Before the acquisition they had no technical women. After the acquisition there was some extra considerations about diversity, and under that background I was hired.
Having only one technical woman, the team is very careful around me, for example they swear a lot in meetings, but when they realize I’m in the room they apologize right away. So I can see that they don’t feel comfortable around me. They go out to lunch or hang out after work for drinks and never invite me, which is understandable. However, a lot of work related discussions happen at these occasions. Decisions are made without me, and I’m only informed of changes in project direction after the fact, this even with things I proposed. Another frustration is that I think men do not want to be challenged by women in technical areas. Or, perhaps partly because men think differently, when I disagree they all seem to band together to defend each other, so my ideas never come through. I was only expected to take direction from the men and do the grunt work, even though I have just as many yoe as them.
It’s been frustrating. Does anyone have similar experience?
Previously I was at a slow moving legacy tech company where they pursued diversity aggressively. And as a result there were many women. But the guys blamed the slowness of the company on having all the women.
Let me guess: Intel? 😁