My site used to be a startup that was recently acquired by Amzn. Before the acquisition they had no technical women. After the acquisition there was some extra considerations about diversity, and under that background I was hired. Having only one technical woman, the team is very careful around me, for example they swear a lot in meetings, but when they realize I’m in the room they apologize right away. So I can see that they don’t feel comfortable around me. They go out to lunch or hang out after work for drinks and never invite me, which is understandable. However, a lot of work related discussions happen at these occasions. Decisions are made without me, and I’m only informed of changes in project direction after the fact, this even with things I proposed. Another frustration is that I think men do not want to be challenged by women in technical areas. Or, perhaps partly because men think differently, when I disagree they all seem to band together to defend each other, so my ideas never come through. I was only expected to take direction from the men and do the grunt work, even though I have just as many yoe as them. It’s been frustrating. Does anyone have similar experience? Previously I was at a slow moving legacy tech company where they pursued diversity aggressively. And as a result there were many women. But the guys blamed the slowness of the company on having all the women.
You can talk with your manager directly and openly about your concerns. Meanwhile, pay less attention to those aspects and build your technical credibility by Showing your strength with solid work. Think through your proposals and defend them technically. You’ll earn their respect.
It sounds like your team has work to do to be more inclusive . Don’t hesitate to offer feedback . To your last point - I was in a company that made a big diversity push and it seemed that anyone female and an engineering degree got hired , and talent was disregarded so the quality of work suffered immensely . There’s only so many women in tech so when upper management decides to bump up the ratio of women , it can sacrifice quality .
I was an intern at a start up, and was told to never wear makeup or be alone in a room with anyone since I was the only woman in a company of 20. They had other interns that were guys, but made me clean the office and bathrooms in addition to tech work. Since I was an intern, I didn’t have much say to begin with so I can’t comment on them listening or not listening to my ideas. I’m sorry your situation is terrible :( I would look for another job, as I’m assuming HR won’t be much help ha
Aha! Finally someone from Intel here! That place is infested with SJWs and incompetent women hired and promoted aggressively to maintain diversity numbers.
Your part of the problem. I have results that are better than every effin guy on my team, and yet because I’m a woman I’m labeled as incompetent. This is why so many women quit the tech industry as it’s so much harder to make your voice heard and have the same respect as a guy when we walk into a room.
They are scared of “me too”, don’t want you to misinterpret their actions incorrectly.
Yep. Blame liberalism for that
Regardless, it’s worth asking to join a few times. Plan a team happy hour yourself and invite them.
“They go out to lunch or hang out after work for drinks and never invite me” - smart guys; in today’s world you never know what can get someone in trouble.
Dont worry. Maybe change company as thise guys are like high schoolers!
File a discrimination case and make loads of money
Since this blind I will give you the truth. Because of the metoo movement, I will also exclude my female colleagues from all non essential activities. No offense but women brought it on themselves. Guys will be increasingly unwilling to interaction with women.
“Guys will be increasingly unwilling to interaction with women”— well there goes the human race 🤣
In a professional setting....
My best friend at work is a man. Coworkers are very polite to me. We go out to lunch a few times a week.
“Previously I was at a slow moving legacy tech company where they pursued diversity aggressively. And as a result there were many women. But the guys blamed the slowness of the company on having all the women.” Let me guess: Intel? 😁
Intel did really lower hiring bars for women . I interviewed , rejected several candidates for being dumb as fuck and they got hired . Several smart male candidates I recommended got denied .
I know - Intel is the example that warns others on the dangers of letting SJWs go out of control.