I like a girl in my team. She likes another guy in my team. Not sure if that guy likes her or not but they are good friends since they are from same country and have same culture.
Both are good friends with me too.
I want to break this triangle and want to make her mine.
Can someone please tell me how can I do the needful? I will revert back once the task is done.
- Do you spend platonic time with her outside of work? Try that to gauge interest, make intentions clear from there
- You can't do this the more senior you grow.
50% of your work is collaboration with other engineers after say 1 yoe, otherwise you are not growing.
A nerd/genius coding in a corner at night is a myth.
If all I see after 1 yoe is implementation work and config changes, I'll support your managers decision for PIP.
- Dude let me give you some real candid advice. You be yourself, live your life, don’t try too hard, don’t try to win her over, focus on your well being and happiness. The girl decides. If you force anything or try to make other guy look bad, it will backfire on you and will end up badly for you. It can make you miserable. Just focus on your life not about how to push or remove others. Let things progress naturally if they do. Always act with good intentions.