We will get married soon (hopefully). A. cantankerous issue between our families is religion
Inter-religious couples, what religion would you want your kid to subscribe to?
Even if you are a couple within the same religion, feel free to choose and leave an opinion
- GE CorumIf you let your kid decide, someone else will decide for them, especially if it's a relative or friends who think their religion is better that yours. Kids are impressionable and they need direction from their parents. "No religion" is an option also, but you as a parent should have more say than a stranger. My wife and I have different religions and our daughter really doesn't have a religion, but people tried hard to make her Catholic or Mormon, or some type of Christian. I just told her if a particular religion doesn't make sense to her, that's the only confirmation she needs, her own. It's okay to say a religion is nonsense if you see it as nonsense.
My religion helped here make good choices while she navigated her teenage years, by pointing out to her that she she should not work to get the approval of others, and it's always okay to fight back, being competent is a good thing, and respect to the religious beliefs of others, She is her own best council... etc
- You missed the options: expose them to a range so they can decide and if nothing else have exposure to what others do.
- Salesforce BhootmoreWhatever you do, please figure this out before you marry or procreate. If it's Islam and Hinduism you are talking about, it'll be much easier in the US then in India. People are more accepting of going to various types of worship places and not subscribing to any. In India it's harder.
I would basically view spirituality as the core, religion as a tool for spirituality, and find other methods to explore spirituality like music. Also both of you could explore a third faith like Sikhism - it's a symbol of being family with each other and not taking sides.
No religion at home is ideal but since your asking this I assume faith is important to both of you.
- Deloitte / ConsultantweirdflexmoreIf you can’t agree on it, expose them to none and let them figure it out for themselves. Instill in them a capacity for critical thinking and the need to challenge when their peers or parents of their peers attempt to proselytize (because sadly the brainwashed go to great lengths to perpetuate brainwashing).