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Children and religion

Microsoft Ranveer
Dec 3

We will get married soon (hopefully). A. cantankerous issue between our families is religion

Inter-religious couples, what religion would you want your kid to subscribe to?

Even if you are a couple within the same religion, feel free to choose and leave an opinion

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  • Microsoft 5'8"gl
    I'd just let my kid to decide.
    Dec 30
  • GE Corum
    If you let your kid decide, someone else will decide for them, especially if it's a relative or friends who think their religion is better that yours. Kids are impressionable and they need direction from their parents. "No religion" is an option also, but you as a parent should have more say than a stranger. My wife and I have different religions and our daughter really doesn't have a religion, but people tried hard to make her Catholic or Mormon, or some type of Christian. I just told her if a particular religion doesn't make sense to her, that's the only confirmation she needs, her own. It's okay to say a religion is nonsense if you see it as nonsense.

    My religion helped here make good choices while she navigated her teenage years, by pointing out to her that she she should not work to get the approval of others, and it's always okay to fight back, being competent is a good thing, and respect to the religious beliefs of others, She is her own best council... etc
    Dec 31
    • Amazon KHCr70
      Sounds like you did parenting correctly
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  • Microsoft Gallen
    I'm pastafarist, my spouse is from raptor Jesus' church.
    Our kids, if we adopt some, will be equally split between the two religions.
    Dec 30
  • Microsoft cout<<
    You missed the options: expose them to a range so they can decide and if nothing else have exposure to what others do.
    Dec 32
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      OP
      Thats fair. However some religions are more intertwined than others. There are a few religions that are very different and exclusive and practicing both could just end up being an ordeal. But yeah I think an introduction to both is absolutely beneficial
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft cout<<
      Well you can be selective on parts from each. Or make things as elaborate or simple as you’d like.

      Seeing the core similarities can be nice too. It can help teach tolerance.
      Dec 3
  • Amazon KHCr70
    Was always super jealous of a kid in elementary school who celebrated birth Hanaka (spell fail) and xmas
    Dec 30
  • Salesforce
    Bhoot

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    I am blind to something and you are too.
    Bhootmore
    Whatever you do, please figure this out before you marry or procreate. If it's Islam and Hinduism you are talking about, it'll be much easier in the US then in India. People are more accepting of going to various types of worship places and not subscribing to any. In India it's harder.

    I would basically view spirituality as the core, religion as a tool for spirituality, and find other methods to explore spirituality like music. Also both of you could explore a third faith like Sikhism - it's a symbol of being family with each other and not taking sides.

    No religion at home is ideal but since your asking this I assume faith is important to both of you.
    5d1
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      OP
      Thanks! I think no religion at home is ideal. And we will both work on maintaining that. But both of us grew up in fairly religious households and I imagine that is going to come into play, inadvertently. Staying away from India, definitely has made it easy.
      4d
  • Deloitte / Consultant
    weirdflex

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    If you can’t agree on it, expose them to none and let them figure it out for themselves. Instill in them a capacity for critical thinking and the need to challenge when their peers or parents of their peers attempt to proselytize (because sadly the brainwashed go to great lengths to perpetuate brainwashing).
    Dec 30
  • Amazon Fetch
    My parents let us choose. They exposed us to a variety of religions, but never took us to church. All of us chose differently, just depended on what worked for us/our spouses.
    Dec 30

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