College girlfriend cheating? Help!

Amazon / Eng Froogle
May 8, 2018 63 Comments

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We both lost our virginities to each other, and we have both planned to get married one day. Our families are pretty good friends too.

So this brings me to my current situation. My girlfriend goes to college 4-5 hours away from me, close to my hometown. We Facetime a couple times a week, and on vacations we often hang out with each other. I was recently visiting my hometown and my girlfriend was still in school, so I went to hang out with her at her college.

We ended up going to an apartment party with some other people from her dorm. There was this one guy in the group that supposedly slept with a majority of the girls from that floor. Not only that, I remember hearing from one of her friends that the guy has a huge dick. And that if she “is drunk and horny, that it’s okay if she goes home with him.”

I didn’t really think much about it at first. My girlfriend’s attention was on me the entire time we were there, and we went on to have great sex later that night, which really took off whatever edge I had.

Okay, so now this is where things start to get a little fishy. The next week, I notice that my girlfriend started following this guy on instagram. Okay…

Then I see a snapchat story of her in his dorm room with 2 other girls drinking. Hmm...

I then see her in a FB photo with this guy, and she is dressed up in a tight dress and he is holding her by the waist. I talked to her about this, and she tells me that it’s nothing, and then all of a sudden - everything on social media with him and her goes quiet (she’s hiding?).

Now, this is the thing which really made me worry - my girlfriend recently started came to visit me and then we go to have sex. Usually she moans a good bit, and is vocal when we do it...but now? Barely anything. After this happened a few times, I asked her if something’s wrong as to why she’s been so quiet lately. She says that it’s because she’s been worn out recently and tired cause she hasn’t slept well. And then the next time we did it, she starts being super vocal, to the point where I feel like she is faking it.

I’d like to believe my girlfriend didn’t cheat on me, but right now all the evidence is pointing to make me believe that she did. She is away in college, so I really have no way to confirm it.

Another thing is, this other guy is really attractive. His Instagram account is filled with girls flirting with him, and his most popular photo is of him in swim trunks where you can see the outline of his dick. 😧

I don’t think my girlfriend would leave me for him, simply because this guy has so many options. But I do think she might be sleeping with him on the side.

I don’t know what to do..when I tried to bring this up to her, she told me that I’m being crazy and reading way too far into things. This whole thing is stressing me out big honestly feels like I’ve already lost her. Am I really crazy to be thinking this way?


TL;DR- I think my girlfriend is cheating on me with her hung floormate.


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TOP 63 Comments
  • Pinterest ctMu21
    Just break up and move on. Yawn
    May 8, 2018 0
  • Facebook llama
    Lol honestly you should dump her. She has done more than enough to make you feel distrustful of her, and that's enough to dump her ass. For reference I'm on a 6 year relationship and we had 3 years long distance. My woman never did any of this bullshit, and I never had any reason to think she ever cheated on me. I also make it extremely clear to her that she is free to see whoever she wants, but the moment she does, I'm out and I ain't looking back. And this goes both ways, if I start acting funny she'll call me out.
    My experience is that the moment you start suspecting something, it's usually too late already. If she's cheating, it's probably because she's getting something you ain't giving her. And I'm sorry to break it to you, but if you don't find and fix that, your next one might do the same. Here's what I'd do:
    She clearly wants to play, so let's play. Join a gym and get real about working out. Meet some meathads and get jacked. Become a motherfucking player. Work on your game every day and pull different girls. Make her feel jealous of you. Make more friends, get on tinder and meet more women. Get good at talking to people. When she's super jealous and begging to come back, you dump her cause you'll have plenty of options.
    Also, please stop obsessing about his dick. She didn't cheat on you because or your or his dick, she cheated because he gave her a rush, a feeling that you didn't. And trust me, it didn't come from his dick.
    May 9, 2018 3
    • New baQn60
      Yea his gf
      May 9, 2018
    • Although I agree with you OP should work on himself, I don't agree on the motivation: he should do it because he wants to be a better, more desirable man, not to make his soon to be ex jealous.
      May 9, 2018
    • Facebook llama
      Well said @tiketike
      May 9, 2018
  • TI / Product IOlOl0
    Delete fb, hit the gym, and lawyer up
    May 8, 2018 1
    • Salesforce Heimer
      Lawyer up for a girlfriend?
      May 8, 2018
  • Sapient Razorfish

    Sapient Razorfish

    TensorFlow. Deepmind. DARPA
    You already know what’s going on. Your instinct is clear. You’ve lost your first GF.
    There are MILLIONS of other women. Take your pick.

    On the bright side, you’ve learned to trust you intuition. Absorb these breadcrumbs of information and learn so next time this happens. And trust me, it will.

    Cut the relationship short. Life is too short for someone who doesn’t respect you.
    May 8, 2018 1
  • Twitch CamGirl
    Look, if you plan to get married, you need to trust her.

    If you feel insecure, you ask her. You accept her answer or you don't. You can't be a happy couple if you are stressed about her cheating, it will never go away.
    May 8, 2018 0
  • Shopify / Eng

    Shopify Eng

    Infrastructure Engineer
    It sounds like you’re insecure af - and that’s kind of a turn off. But it also sounds like she hasn’t been sexually attracted to you lately. Sit her down, make her feel okay to be vulnerable and tell her it’s okay if anything happened but you want to try and get to the bottom of what’s going on together, and that you’re aware she hasn’t been into it when you are together - and go from there. If she has done something and you cannot find it in yourself to stay with her - leave. If not - figure out how to address the problem. Good luck
    May 8, 2018 2
    • Amazon / Eng Froogle
      Not insecure..sounds like most people on this thread think that she really is 😔
      May 8, 2018
    • Shopify / Eng yurigagari
      Fair maybe I misread that. I do think it’s worth having a hard honest conversation with her. It’s really the only way through this. If she is unable to engage with you in that conversation - leave. This is what your
      Youth is for. Don’t feel guilty if it doesn’t feel right.
      May 8, 2018
  • Amazon wwqwwq
    Why dont u just invite the dude out , and just ask him. Bro to bro ask him to tell u the truth. He has no reason to lie to u
    May 12, 2018 0
  • Amazon JtRi38
    If you don’t trust each other you should probably just break up anyway. Be frank, do it quickly and know that it’s a lot worse if you prolong things.
    May 8, 2018 1
    • Amazon HardtDick
      This ^ it’s already over
      May 8, 2018
  • Cintas ButtHol3
    Bad news. I would get out.

    I had a girlfriend who I suspected of cheating on me. She also told me not to worry about the dude that would hit her up on the weekends. I tried to play it cool when I knew they were at parties together. I stayed with her.

    It finally took my digging and digging to find the dirt that she had a three some with this guy and some other chick that was her friend. Find out just hurt even worse.

    Maybe she’s cheating and maybe she’s flirting with the idea of a new college guy. Leave before you find out something that you don’t want to.
    May 8, 2018 2
    • Please do share how did you find out about the threesome
      May 8, 2018
    • Cintas ButtHol3
      The guy she had a three some with was also seeing someone. The guys GF reached out to me on Facebook. She had found out that her boy friend had cheated on her with my girlfriend. The GF reached out to me on Facebook telling me the exact details of how everything went down. It crushed me.

      I also had a not so close friend tell/warn me that he thought she was cheating on me. @tiketike
      May 9, 2018
  • Nvidia / Eng sexytime!

    1. She went drinking in this dude's dorm room.

    2. She chose to wear a tight dress and there's a picture of this other man holding her by the waist.

    Let's flip the scenario.

    What's going on if OP went drinking over at some random hot female co-worker's apartment? How about if there's also a picture at the club of the same attractive girl wearing a tight dress and he has his arm around her waist?

    Is that really just "being friendly" or is something more going on? And when trustful girlfriend remarks about it, no more pictures of the two of them together. Did they really stop being friends or just hiding it?
    May 8, 2018 1
  • Amazon thereyago
    I can’t believe so many people are saying it sounds like she’s cheating. I don’t think it sounds like that at all. I get that you are young but you have some serious trust and confidence issues you need to work out before you settle down for good.
    May 8, 2018 1
  • Microsoft / Product Chamonix
    I would say from experience that she did cheat on you. Key reason is behavior changes from guilt and her lack of naturally moaning (then fake moaning) is a key indicator. Also, the deleting of her social media. Personally, I'd take a long-term break. If you're meant to be together one day, you will. Good luck and go gave some fun.
    May 8, 2018 0
  • Cintas ButtHol3
    You should make this a poll.
    May 8, 2018 0
  • Cisco / Eng Gucci Mane
    I've been on the flip side and banged with a ton of thots who then see their boyfriend. Is it Facebook official? Is she officially dating you. Girls in 2018, date multiple guys at once and never call it dating.
    May 8, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng Am A Bot
    What matters most in relationships is trust and open communication. If you could forgive her for cheating tell her that. If you can’t forgive her for it, be open about that as well. Having someone on the side may seem romantic and amazing but that’s a “grass is greener” mindset. She wouldn’t settle down with that other guy because he has options - but because he is an attractive jerk and many women like that in a sex partner (but not a long term relationship).

    We all make mistakes, especially when we’re young and dumb. Even if you break up, try to forgive the mistake so it doesn’t damage you long term. My first girlfriend cheated on me as well and it took me at least a few years to recover and forgive her.

    Good luck, and if you want to, feel free to PM me to chat.
    May 9, 2018 2
    • Nothing kills the attraction for a man than open communication. Why are mysterious men more desirable? Not because they spill their beans on how they feel.

      Also, what if she thinks it was not a mistake? Nothing to forgive then IMO
      May 9, 2018
    • Amazon Scuut
      ^^ uh... open communication has led to fantastic times and relationships for me with really great women. I’m guessing there was a bigger failure
      May 9, 2018
  • Microsoft / Product cXeu01
    Have a threesome and see what all the fuss is about
    May 8, 2018 1
    • Nvidia / Eng sexytime!
      No way, dude. He would be totally traumatized comparing to the other guy.
      May 8, 2018
  • OpenText / Eng no_scrubs
    Tough situation. Any snapchat employee here able to comment? Feel free to forward this to your CEO for advice as well.
    May 8, 2018 1
    • New baQn60
      One frat bro to another
      May 9, 2018
  • Cisco / Eng

    Cisco Eng

    Don’t bring anything this to her and just breakup
    Even if she is not doing it, you might loose trust in future if you continue this relationship.
    Trust matters in relationship. Once you get doubt on it then even if you bring this argument to her there is no use.
    May 9, 2018 0
  • HCL 1s2r
    That big dick mother fucker.
    May 9, 2018 0
  • UJET iamsamiam
    If you love something, let it go.
    Especially if you haven't fully integrated your lives... It's one thing to be married with children and up and change your mind about what you want, it's another to be in college and reevaluate your situation.

    Sorry for the hurt—that bits never easy.
    May 8, 2018 0