Coping with Personal Issues at work

Netflix ilybyam
Jan 8 17 Comments

Has anybody ever had to work through serious personal problems such as dealing with a potentially fatal disease or something equally intense? If so, what techniques do you use to just plow through work and not turn into a puddle of mess? Thank you

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  • New / Eng
    remus808

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    I had a medium term life threatening condition as well as panic attacks. I failed to balance it with work, so I ended up quitting and taking a lot of time off. On the surface employer claimed to be very supportive of employees with personal issues but the reality is that I was hounded for doctors letters, insurance papers, expected return date etc. until they said I had to return to work part time so I just quit instead. Best decision I ever made TBH.

    TC at the time $250k
    Jan 8 2
    • Netflix ilybyam
      OP
      That sucks. I have thought about quitting but I relocated from the east coast so it would be hard to up and move back
      Jan 8
    • New / Eng
      remus808

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      If I could give you advice it would be to go to therapy ASAP. That's the thing that probably could have saved me if I started going sooner.
      Jan 8
  • Google floppybird
    Pm me.
    Jan 8 1
  • Netflix enjoylyfe
    Keep your manager in loop but be ready to be let go. I've seen some people use the leeway and come back roaring and others be let go because they couldn't perform to team standards due to the personal issues. It's a double edged sword.

    Depends on manager, team, severity of issue and how long you've been here and how much career clout to cash on. If I were you and the severity is high, I'd quit, take care of myself and come back to work. Life is too short to shortchange ourselves.
    Jan 8 1
  • CA Technologies TonkarBell
    Haven’t faced anything big, but when life gets crazy or hard, I compartmentalize my sheet and deal with each part separately, like leaving behind life while entering office and leaving behind work while stepping out. I even leave my mobile at home during such times and hit bed as early as possible. Things will settle in a week or two usually.
    Jan 8 2
    • New / Eng
      remus808

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      I wish I knew how to do this. I often find myself accidentally thinking about work late at night or on the weekends. Any tips?
      Jan 8
    • CA Technologies TonkarBell
      I used to do that too. One day, I made an honest list of things that are keeping me unproductive at work. Some things were horrible to admit to myself and write, but once written, it was easy to work on those items. Once a day’s honest work is done, I rarely think about it.
      Jan 8
  • Spotify KXAo87
    Therapy. Take medical leave if it's too hard to work. It's there (along with job protection) for a reason
    Jan 8 2
    • Netflix ilybyam
      OP
      But I’m supposed to take maternity leave later this year so I can’t imagine I could take both.
      Jan 8
    • Spotify KXAo87
      Not a lawyer, but I wouldn't think that's true. You might not have paid leave, but FMLA should at least protect your job I think
      Jan 8
  • Amazon Fetch
    Therapy is one of the best things I’ve ever done, totally worth it. Be sure to find a good therapist you click with.

    Check with your HR person on leaves. You may have other options, but you’d certainly have FMLA (assuming you’ve been there a year). Usually FMLA and maternity leaves are two separate things, but typically run concurrently (but they don’t have to).
    Jan 8 0
  • Medallia unicorn2
    I haven’t been through this personally but I know people who have negotiated working remotely/part time work and using short term and long term disability. Sorry if this isn’t that helpful
    Jan 8 0
  • Netflix ilybyam
    OP
    Thank you I think I will do that
    Jan 8 0
  • Quest Diagnostics AMO0912
    Life Coach🙌🏻
    Jan 15 0

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