Health

Coping with loneliness/depression

Apple py1
Feb 24

I live by myself. I am yet to get over a failed marriage from a few years ago. I am not interested in getting into a new relationship.
Some days then, I feel lonely/depressed.

I am lucky to have extended family near by that look me up, continue to invite me out even when I decline, sometimes come home and drag me to a movie and so on.

I am not as lonely these days. A combination of interesting work in the office, new manager who encourages us to go after work that uses our skill sets have been key drivers.

I do wonder though about others afflicted with loneliness/depression and want to share a few things that have helped me.

There are a lot of ways to get out of the “funk” but if you are struggling getting out of the house, the below might help you.

A. Routine
A routine of having a few consistent interactions/people in your life. Saying hello to the receptionist, exchanging small talk, having your breakfast made by the same person in the office cafe and the little chit chat.

B. Get out to get groceries or food (if you can’t get yourself to cook). Avoid home delivery unless you are physically sick.

C. Get a house cleaner! The cleaner/neater my place, the better I feel. I consider it an investment! The lady comes twice a month and I’m so grateful. Sometimes I’m so thrilled I do a little jig after she leaves :)

D. If you feel a cold/cough/fever/nasal congestion coming, take a medicine immediately. Don’t wait for it to blow up. You are alone and being physically sick makes it worse. I arm myself with DayQuil/NyQuil capsules, cough drops and electric vaporizer with vapopads. Together they quickly do their job.

E. Find a walking buddy at work. Helps with getting exercise, and talking/listening to someone’s day.

F. Schedule lunch with someone at least once a week. My energy is quickly drained when I’m in a group. I end up not joining my team during lunch. I do love interacting with people, so schedule one on one lunches. Scheduling helps because it’s so easy to just have lunch by yourself at your desk and miss out on social interactions.

G. Most people have kids or a better half. It’s difficult to find people you can make spontaneous plans with. No doubt. But do try to reach out to people you think you can count on to listen to you when you’re having a particularly hard day. Stay strong if you didn’t judge well and someone does not appear to have the time or inclination to listen to you. Everyone has their own preoccupations.

Related, find a friend you can ask for a hug. I have the luxury of having 3 people at work I can go to and say, ‘I need a hug’. Sometimes that physical contact helps heal. They reach out to me when they need one too. I can see this being difficult for men :)

H. It’s hard to remember to do this, but treat yourself to a massage or some flowers or chocolate every now and then.

I. Get a few drought resistant plants. I didn’t water my plants and they would keep dying. A patch of green can really lift your heart.

J. I did not do this for a really long time. Please find yourself a therapist. It may take a while to find the right fit but it is worth the struggle.

K. If you can afford it get a personal trainer. It’s on my to do list :) Nothing like getting fit to feel better, the release of endorphins will improve your mood too.

Finally, if you have a friend who could you use some companionship, there are so many little ways you can make their day: a small bunch of flowers, a surprise knock on the door, a call or text, sharing a fruit or snack (a coworker got me a single mango once, another co-worker got me some Indian snacks she made at home, they did these in a very matter-of-fact way, but I was so touched!).

And, pay it forward! :)

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  • Veritas xWfa06
    Tip from the old me, you don’t need company to watch movies, go to malls or parks. Being around people even if they aren’t part of you group helps. As does something do engage your attention - window /real shopping, the movie plot.
    Feb 241
    • New / Eng
      BogoSort

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      BogoSortmore
      ^^ this.
      Feb 27
  • Autodesk Peets@1
    Thank you for your thoughtful advices and your kind heart. I am currently dealing with my divorce. There are some days I feel normal and I can put my bad marriage behind while some days are tough. This weekend has been one of those down days.

    What’s more challenging is that I got a new job and I find myself anxious about my performance.

    Good news is that I am following some of your advice. I am still struggling with self doubt. I feel like I am not good enough and I need to do more for my job and my career but I find myself doing nothing about it. I already feel I am being a downer....
    Feb 246
    • Apple py1
      OP
      Please don’t worry about being a downer. Everyone has bad days and most would understand. It is natural to feel anxious and self doubt in a new job setting, more so when you are going through a life change such as divorce. Please keep the faith, it does get better. Cliche, but take a deep breath and tell yourself one day at a time. It helped me calm down when I was similarly overwhelmed. Sending you healing thoughts.
      Feb 24
    • Autodesk Peets@1
      Thank you! I will keep that in mind. So kind of you. Bless your heart.
      Feb 24
    • Cerner / EngZenobia
      Peets@1 - this was me for past 1 year after me getting out of bad relationship. Had hard time to perform and even do bare minimum at work... not only that I never felt like getting out of the bed and going to work. I had self doubt over everything and was constantly blaming myself for whatever had happened. But time heals everything. Put little efforts everyday and things will get better with time. I had completely engrossed myself in job search and staying busy had helped me. If you need someone to talk to you can message me any time.

      Hope things get better soon.
      Feb 24
    • Autodesk Peets@1
      Zenobia - thank you for your thought and your offer! Very kind of you. I may message you later.
      Feb 24
    • Veritas jstSomeone
      Same situation... initial phases of divorce.. also have a child to take care of... it's going to be tough but I m willing to face as continued compromise encourages my spouse to be further bad and it's causing serious health damage to me... I hope I can do justice to my child
      Feb 25
    • Facebook tGTv63
      Stay strong my man. Stay strong
      Feb 25
  • LinkedIn / Eng
    howd

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    howdmore
    K. Find a "Third Place". We spend our lives between home and office. I believe that it is important to visit a "third place" on a regular basis. That could be a gym (better if it involves interactions with other people and not just "weights"), a dance class (Latin American dances are great to meet people), or some other sort of activity that involves other people.
    Feb 251
    • Apple py1
      OP
      Thank you, this is great advice.
      Mar 2
  • Microsoft EDBTZ
    Genuinely curious and not trying to troll, but I come from abroad and it seems to me that depression is a lot more common in the US... So many people I know are on medication of some sort. Does anyone know why that is?
    Feb 258
    • LinkedIn / Eng
      howd

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      howdmore
      Capitalism + social pressure?
      Feb 25
    • Twitter eoCp41
      I’m not from the US and I suspect it’s pretty common everywhere it’s just more ok to talk about it in the US, hence the perception that it’s more common
      Feb 25
    • Amazon
      🤪☺️

      Amazon

      BIO
      Engineering + Analytics + Tech Entrepreneurship
      🤪☺️more
      My 2 Zimbabwean dollars - Abroad, people know shit about depression. It’s treated as a non-thing. There are bigger issues such as polio, malaria etc. that depression is not given a serious fuck.
      Feb 25
    • LinkedIn / Engxfactorial
      In India (where I'm from) it just doesn't get diagnosed. You're just being moody that's all
      Feb 25
    • Microsoft Eyree
      capitalism is the cause for depresion? the dumbeat thing I heard
      Feb 25
    • Microsoft CastleRaid
      There are studies that support that depression is fairly consistent among different cultures.

      I used to think it’s a very western culture (first world) thing but I was pointed to medical research that proved me wrong. Sorry, I don’t have links to the research anymore.

      There’s a book I’d highly recommend though. The noonday demon.
      Feb 26
    • Google / Eng
      lena33

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      lena33more
      I think in other countries there are so many problems that people don't have time for depression. You constantly have to survive on that low salary. And people are more social and care about others. Here it is individualistic country. That's why there are more depressed people.
      Feb 26
    • Microsoft CastleRaid
      ^ This is what I used to think too. But it’s not true based on what I read.
      Feb 27
  • Apple / Mgmt
    j3ffB3z0s

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    j3ffB3z0smore
    What about embracing being alone and becoming comfortable with it? You free up an incredible amount of time to focus on yourself and your hobbies. You stop feeling lonely and it ceases to be an “affliction”.
    Feb 245
    • Apple py1
      OP
      When you are depressed, there is a big risk of embracing loneliness/becoming comfortable with it. There were times when I stayed at home binge watching. You get too comfortable. And it is difficult to be motivated to take a course or focus on hobbies. It is important to stay socially connected in such a situation.
      Feb 24
    • Apple / Mgmt
      j3ffB3z0s

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      j3ffB3z0smore
      It becomes depression when lack of social connection -> feeling unhappy. While I can understand that’s the majority, I believe embracing loneliness and deriving happiness from that is a totally valid alternative. Besides, unless you’re living on a remote island in with no way of communication, then you’re not really “alone”.
      Feb 24
    • Apple py1
      OP
      Hmm. I agree that accepting the state of things and deriving comfort/solace from such a state is a great step. At the same time, in my experience, it is important to be socially connected and have a sense of belonging. Yes, none of us are really alone the way you describe, but there is a difference between having your breakfast made by a different chef every day in the cafe vs the relatively meaningful small talk with the same chef every day. Let’s just agree to disagree :)
      Feb 24
    • Apple / Mgmt
      j3ffB3z0s

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      j3ffB3z0smore
      I am in agreement that if sense of belonging is something that your derive meaning from, then absolutely you need to nurture it. Life is full of alternatives! I’ll request a different chef (or none at all) and that’s ok too :)
      Feb 24
    • One Click Politics disnotHR
      This.
      Feb 25
  • Zillow Group salad🥗
    Thanks for the wholesome content. I found integrating into a community to be really beneficial personally. Religious people have it easy. They can just go to church..
    Feb 241
    • Xilinx / MgmtCalm00
      Spot on.
      Feb 24
  • Netflix / ProductThats_It
    Looking at a lot of spare time (new to city, still finding my community, etc) I’ve challenged myself to start volunteering. It takes me out of my comfort zone (which I like as a learning exercise) and gets me meeting folks that have nothing to do with my career or typical circle of friends.

    It’s giving me more purpose. It’s giving me something to do a couple nights a week. It’s making me feel better about myself and keeping me from wallowing.
    Feb 252
    • Microsoft bWmv13
      This is a great idea. It's not than just another way to fill time, there's the gratification of helping others that gives deeper meaning.
      Feb 25
    • Netflix / ProductThats_It
      Thanks! For anyone interested check out www.volunteermatch.org. You can find a bunch of different volunteer ops based on your skills,interest, availability.

      I’m only a couple months in on this but am really enjoying it.
      Feb 25
  • Amazon ally28
    Is there a risk of getting depression if you feel lonely all the time? Ever since moving to Seattle I’ve felt very sad that I don’t have friends to go out and do social things with. I’m in my 20’s and I spend my weekends alone at home. It really bugs me because thats no way to live up your youth. I have friends but they never go out to do anything. Over the months I’ve been getting more and more lonely.
    Feb 257
    • Microsoft EDBTZ
      I'd say yes... Seattle is a pretty lonely place. The Seattle Freeze is real...
      Feb 25
    • Zillow Group salad🥗
      Love to you, sweetie. I've been there. Keep putting yourself out there.
      Feb 25
    • Expedia gordonlion
      Seattle is a very good place to be for families. Definitely not the best if you are young and single
      Feb 25
    • Hubspot gQcP26
      Have you tried Meetup or Bumble BFF? Both can be hit-or-miss, but they can be good for at least getting out from time to time.
      Feb 26
    • VMware / HRiNwX20
      For what's it worth, seasonal depression in the north is really a thing. I encourage you to google, "Seasonal Affective Disorder"
      Feb 26
    • Amazon / Product
      AmzgGrace

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      AmzgGracemore
      Try to get an assignment to live elsewhere for a bit—I had the good fortune to do this a few years ago and it was life changing. Back in Seattle now and tempted to find another assignment.
      Feb 27
    • Amazon ally28
      Thanks for the kind words. I tried meetup once but it didn’t seem to go anywhere. Ironically it ends up being a bunch of boring tech people
      Feb 27
  • Airbnb chilll
    Things that have worked for me:

    - work out 3x/week
    - spend time with ppl who lift me up
    - self-care
    - no alcohol
    - healthy, nutritious food
    - at least 8 hours of sleep
    - an enticing book
    - knocking things off the todo list
    - cleaning my home
    - spending quality time w/ bf
    Feb 274
    • Microsoft Mlife
      no alcohol? 🤯
      Feb 27
    • 6sense jehbeb
      Book recommendations??
      Feb 27
    • Airbnb chilll
      @mlife, yeah, no alcohol if I'm feeling really low. Alcohol is a depressent. We've made it socially acceptable to be alcoholics and it makes us feel worse. I don't need alcohol to be social, and you shouldn't either ;)
      Feb 28
    • Airbnb chilll
      @jehbeb Bad Blood, Becoming, An Astronaut's guide to life on Earth
      Feb 28
  • Twitch CREAMCHEEZ
    This is the best post I’ve read on Blind.
    Feb 250
  • Salesforce Heimer
    There’s still hope for Blind.
    Good post, dude/girl.
    Feb 255
    • Amazon
      🤪☺️

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      It’s a girl.
      Feb 25
    • Salesforce Heimer
      How do you know that
      Feb 25
    • Roche DwxD41
      It says in the post
      Feb 25
    • Salesforce shaman
      If you couldn't tell it was a girl that's something odd on your end bud
      Feb 26
    • Salesforce Heimer
      Where does it explicitly say in the post that it’s a girl?

      I could tell it was a girl, but didn’t want a “don’t assume my gender” reply
      Feb 26
  • Amazon / EngjC2w0x
    Just leave the fucking Seattle and go to NYC. My life is 10x better. Especially for foreigners.
    Feb 252
    • Facebook pkigvfh
      How so?
      Feb 25
    • Amazon / EngjC2w0x
      Only NY can meet enough friends from my home country and gender ratio close to 1:1. I'm not self segregation, but it just makes me much happier. Seattle is like the old CA import Asians to build rails, although the salary is good.
      Feb 25
  • Twitch zugzug
    Are you me.
    Feb 251
    • Microsoft / Eng
      Gal13

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      Gal13more
      😂😂
      Feb 26
  • Amazon sadpants
    If you don't have a personal mission in life you'll never be truly happy. No matter what.
    Feb 264
    • Microsoft oeUv00
      Whats urs? I somehow started feeling like this. Feel privileged to have amazing job, kids, husband and dream home. But still smthing is missing. I am not depressed though.
      Feb 27
    • Vistaprint GGLQ22
      Try helping others...
      Mar 1
    • Amazon sadpants
      @Microsoft, I strive to be myself, in sync with my personal dreams and goals every single day. It's not an easy task for me to ignore all the negative energies and noise floating around. But when I manage to pull it off it feels very liberating. It might sound nonsensical, but it works for me.

      I do a lot of solo travel, hiking, nature lovin'. Silence, nature and disconnect from 'silicon obsession' helps me to connect my thoughts and realize what I truly want in next few months.

      I don't keep in touch with lying, stressful, superstitious, dogmatic, in general lost and negative people(no matter how hot they are) and relationships that turn sour pretty soon. I work out twice a day, eat healthy, play instrument, and volunteer to stay mentally flexible and healthy. I've had failed relationships. I no longer place my hopes/dreams/love/peace in others and bet on the feedback loops. I don't force/project expectations on others anymore.

      I was under depression. Got out of it without therapy/medicine/faux-socializing. Took me some time. My friend circle is small but strong.

      I guess what I'm trying to say is if you look back, spend some time with yourself, get in touch with your thoughts and feelings, there's a good chance you'll figure out what to do. There's no one trick wonder. A lot of self-reflection and experimentation is required see through the mess. I'll quit my preaching now...
      Mar 5
    • Microsoft oeUv00
      Wow such fantastic detailed reply. thank you for taking time out to reply.
      Mar 6
  • Microsoft Username43
    I’m dealing with same issue. All your comments are true but you’re missing a point. When i’m depressed its not really under my control to get out of bed and do these stuff...
    I’m really struggling these days :(
    Lucky you, you have families nearby
    I don’t have it and i can’t even talk to them about my issue, they can’t come here so i don’t want to make them worried. So i have to fake laugh all the time we speak.
    Life is so hard these days :(
    Feb 283
    • Microsoft Username43
      Btw, unlike you i want a relationship but its so hard here :)))) (guess where i live)
      Feb 28
    • Facebook / OtherOkjngcgfd
      > when I’m depressed its not really under my control

      I’ve been struggling with depression for the last three years and I used to believe this too. I started feeling better only after realizing this is a cognitive distortion.

      The irony of depression is that you don’t feel like doing anything and doing nothing makes you feel depressed pushing you down a negative cycle. Push yourself to do something, anything remotely productive and you’ll start feeling better.
      Feb 28
    • Apple py1
      OP
      @username43 I agree. The tips I list are for people who are moderately functional. If you are struggling as much you may need medication before you are able to make small lifestyle changes. The good thing is you have a desire to be in a relationship. I’m hoping that translates to a desire to get out of the house and participate in activities. Wish you all the best.
      Mar 2
  • Oath FMzR44
    I'm an immigrant just like many of us here. I'm in my late twenties and being away from my parents gave me a good taste of depression.

    To overcome it, I tried going out whenever I can, during the weekends. But, it doesn't work most times. I find social interactions exhausting. It just feels better to sleep and forget you exist!

    Over the past few months, I have learnt to live alone and not feel lonely. I have accepted my circumstance and myself and then it feels much easier. I have accepted the pity that comes with eating alone in a crowd. Going alone to a movie or anything to do alone.
    But, I try to be a deaf/blind person whose has a short term memory. You just look inward and be content. A feeling of Maya...where you don't emotionally attached to your surroundings.

    Our happiness is tied to our perception and if you can control your perception, you can control your happiness (and anger, jealousy etc). I still empathize with the weak and the suffering but I insulate myself from the negative emotions around me.
    Feb 251
    • Apple py1
      OP
      “Sleeping it off” feels good in the moment but I always feel terribly after, just as one might after overeating or binge watching.
      Please do consider that you may be imagining the pity when you are out by yourself. When I see someone out on their own, I see confidence and the ability to enjoy their own company. Even if you are attached, it’s not practical to have company always.
      Mar 2
  • Apple / Mgmt
    j3ffB3z0s

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    j3ffB3z0smore
    The second that your happiness depends on someone else, whether that’s a significant other, spouse, or that tinder stranger that you’ve somehow framed as the messiah to fix all your problems... then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
    Feb 251
  • Uber ZombieZoo
    You forgot to mention a root of most problems - stop using and be obsessed with social sites.
    Feb 250
  • 23andMe Icgb16
    Hey man, sorry you’re in a funk... but you just might need a cat 😺
    Feb 255
    • Facebook ....?....
      Or two
      Feb 25
    • Market Track pmnote
      I too was surprised they didn't mention getting a pet. It's something you can always look forward to after a day at work, and the cuddles are unlimited 🤗😻
      Damn i miss my cat 😿
      Feb 25
    • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
      Or seven 🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱
      Feb 26
    • Monster unholy!
      Or a dog. Will force you out of the house for walks and invites conversation
      Feb 26
    • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
      Or seven 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐱🐶🐶
      Feb 27
  • Magic Leap lllereep
    <3 struggled with suicide and depression all my life (since 2nd grade) and this helps a lot.
    Feb 254
  • VMware theuser01
    Good job OP! Blind needs more people like you.
    Feb 271
    • Microsoft oeUv00
      The world needs more people like OP
      Feb 28
  • Microsoft Robot2
    Pick up a new Hobby, like Tennis for example. Anyone can play Tennis at any age and different level, great social game and very healthy.
    Feb 251
  • Cirrus seahawk1
    I read this post and it reminded me that I have drought resistant plant that I haven’t watered in like 3 months. You saved them. Thanks
    Feb 250
  • Salesforce / Sales
    Tpaq02

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    Tpaq02more
    Dealing with depression is one of the hardest battles you fight in life . It is miserable to go through a day feeling hopeless and unhappy . I am dealing with the same now . All I keep longing for is one normal day to feel happy and excited again .I am trying a ton of things right now to deal with it . Constantly trying to be amongst people (the ones you know and the ones you don’t) , trying to read , giving meetups a try. Working from home fucks me up more than anything else , I try to not do it at all . I hope you can slowly get back to leading to a happy life again . Stay strong !
    Feb 250
  • Pinterest poppler
    Massage every two weeks. Preferably stoned.
    Feb 250
  • Cerner / EngZenobia
    Thanks for sharing!

    I too had followed some of these while I was working on healing. Couple of things to add that helped me was playing with my pets, watching some motivational videos, going to meetup events and traveling.
    Feb 243
    • Expedia gordonlion
      Hi Zenobia, I found that traveling and owning pets at the same time while being by yourself is not easy. I tried Rover or similar arrangements but I figured I can't fully trust random strangers to take good care of the pets. How did you arrange your travels while having pets?
      Feb 25
    • Cerner / EngZenobia
      I have birds and they stay out of their cage during weekends and sometimes during evenings too if they are in mood. If I am going out for couple of days my friend would come home and watch them one time a day.

      There are services which takes care of your pets while you on vacation. It can get expensive sometimes though. Best would be to take help from friends
      Feb 25
    • Facebook tGTv63
      That's were Facebook has been a great help to bunch of my friends. If you are in Bay area there are a bunch of dog sitting communities, you sit their dog as an exchange for when they are on vacation.
      My friends have like 5/6 people they trust their dog with
      Feb 25
  • Clover Health / Engdoenfh
    Damn how do I print this out?!

    You are seriously amazing for sharing this. I'm not depressed right now, but I'm still going to do these things to remind myself that I'm important to me.

    Thank you for this. Wish I could hug you for the kindness.
    Feb 260
  • New / R&Dzorkan
    What a thoughtful and relatable post.
    Feb 250
  • Snapchat trd6cy
    I can't imagine what you've been through but let me tell you what I did:
    1) eat healthy
    2) go to a gym and work your ass off (go to a group class so you don't slack🤗)
    3) surround yourself with friends
    4) surround yourself with family

    In that order. If you do "1 and 2" ... 3 and 4 will come naturally.
    Also, try to sleep well. That will come naturally with 1-4 but try to force yourself to sleep well.
    Good luck. I'm praying for you.
    Feb 250
  • Google hobbateeto
    That post hit home really hard..
    Feb 250
  • Nordstrom byfo02
    If you're ever in Seattle, hit me up and let's hang out. Low key, it go crazy. I'm here. Been through depression and anxiety losing my parents, rough patches with my marriage, the works.
    Feb 253
    • Microsoft Username43
      For a sec i thought i wrote this comment :)) same story
      Feb 28
    • Nordstrom byfo02
      Ha! Unfortunately it's the reality if life. We can't control it we can only control ourselves and fight to be personally stronger and healthier.
      Feb 28
    • Apple py1
      OP
      Thank you. Likewise, if you are in the Bay Area. Cheers!
      Mar 2
  • LinkedIn Eng155
    Gym has been my saving grace. Ever try it? Same as taking an antidepressant daily
    Feb 251
    • Google hobbateeto
      I used to workout 3-4 times a week, I maintained it even on my worst days; until I was hit by never ending chronic pain. Anything that hurts, now stays for a long time. Regular work out recovery now drains all the energy out of me and can take over a week. Any simple injury will take weeks+ to heal. I now live with chronic back and neck pain, and I stopped working out for months because all of these frustrations and failures make me spiral way further down my depression hole.

      It's not as easy as people in this thread make it sound...
      Mar 1
  • Facebook / OtherOkjngcgfd
    Thanks for spreading some positivity in this shithole
    Feb 260
  • Lockheed Martin / Other
    Schz3

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    Schz3more
    Regular sleep , regular meals, daily exercise, and meditation are the best armor
    Mar 10
  • Cisco / Product
    ajnabee

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    ajnabeemore
    You’d be surprised to know how many people go through the same stuff that we feel only we’re going through. It’s a pretty good list you’ve put down. In addition to this, I’d join a workout/yoga group, any art/music group if you’re into that and maybe a trekking group for the weekend.
    While you may want to stay single, life’s not easy staying single. And just cos it failed the first time doesn’t mean there isn’t a person who’d love to be with you. Take your time and get back out there. Don’t keep yourself from the joys of having a partner. Lastly, we’re all here for you (your work family)
    Feb 260
  • A10 Networks ertong
    Get a roommate. Saves money and you get a friend to annoy you
    Feb 250
  • Pandora w0MbAt
    Very human advice, thank you for sharing this as people in low points often forget that there are ways to work on getting out of the funk. Advice to all: Please please please talk to someone if you feel that it's just getting worse and worse. There is a light at the end of that dark hole, but you have to fight to get to it.
    Feb 250
  • This post hits home in more ways than you’ll ever know. Stay strong OP!
    Feb 250
  • Microsoft Dr. Root
    Wow this is great advice indeed. Stay strong OP. 🍻
    Feb 250
  • Microsoft Harc62
    Omg I love this. Good on you this advice is so lovely and thoughtful ❤️
    Feb 250
  • Amazon mWsP43
    Going to therapy and doctors to get the help you need is one of the hardest steps, and in a lot of cases I think the most important. The stigma can be hard to get over, but for me it was realizing that there is a chemical imbalance in my brain and that's no different from a broken arm, or the flu. If your body isn't well, theres no shame in medicine to help.
    Feb 250
  • Amazon Dssa
    Hi op, thanks for sharing. Good advice. May I ask if you are a male or female? I know we're supposed to be breaking gender stereotypes and what not, but some of the advice (like having people who hug you) isn't quite as easy to find as a male and in the worst case could inadvertently come off as creepy.
    Feb 252
    • MGM Resorts BionicMan
      I think it may be slightly different strategies for men and women
      Feb 25
    • Apple py1
      OP
      I’m female. Agree it’s not easy for men to ask for a hug. If you have female friends you are close to, it may not come across as creepy. My former carpool partner, a guy, is very restless these days - waiting for his girlfriend to get a visa and get here. He asked me for a hug (I haven’t asked him!), so I guess this is not uncommon. Needless to mention, it is important to establish that rapport first.
      Mar 2
  • Vistaprint GGLQ22
    How do we know if we are depressed ?
    Feb 252
    • eBay thatsit
      When you don't (want to) do any of the things OP mentioned
      Feb 25
    • AIG / Product
      Raging

      AIGProduct

      PRE
      Deloitte Digital
      BIO
      Counseling CxOs for AI-first strategy !
      Ragingmore
      There are tests for it. Talk to your counselor or physician
      Feb 28
  • Vistaprint GGLQ22
    टूटा टूटा एक परिंदा ऐसे टूटा
    के फिर जुड़ ना पाया
    लूटा लूटा किसने उसको ऐसे लूटा
    के फिर उड़ ना पाया

    गिरता हुआ वो आसमां से
    आकर गिरा ज़मीन पर
    ख्वाबों में फिर भी
    बादल ही थे
    वो कहता रहा मगर

    के अल्लाह के बन्दे हंस दे
    अल्लाह के बन्दे
    अल्लाह के बन्दे हंसदे
    जो भी हो कल फिर आएगा
    Feb 261
    • Apple py1
      OP
      I’d love it if someone could translate this. I think I get the gist, but not sure.
      Mar 2
  • PayPal DoOrDie
    For those that feel lonely, where does the feeling come from? I feel it because I’ve been in love before and I miss it.
    Feb 261
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      For me it's coming from no one to bounce things off. No one to be vulnerable to. No one to share responsibility with, etc.
      I've been in love before where none of the above were met and I still felt lonely. Our society just makes it hard to be single unless you have gazillion family members who get in your business.
      Feb 26
  • Overstock.com / MktgT3ch.g0d
    Let's talk, pm me, almost identical situation and I know you'll be amazing. Trust me dude, we've got this!
    Feb 261
  • Apple industry
    How old are you OP?
    Feb 241
    • Apple py1
      OP
      Lol. Could you share some context to your question, please.
      Feb 24
  • Oath FMzR44
    Music/dance and group fitness sessions have worked like magic for me.

    I listen to this song when I feel low these days:
    https://youtube.com/watch?v=IPXIgEAGe4U

    Had to have high, high hopes for a living
    Shooting for the stars when I couldn't make a killing
    Didn't have a dime but I always had a vision
    Always had high, high hopes
    Had to have high, high hopes for a living
    Didn't know how but I always had a feeling
    I was gonna be that one in a million
    Always had high, high hopes
    Mama said
    Fulfill the prophecy
    Be something greater
    Go make a legacy
    Manifest destiny
    Back in the days
    We wanted everything, wanted everything
    Mama said
    Burn your biographies
    Rewrite your history
    Light up your wildest dreams
    Museum victories, everyday
    We wanted everything, wanted everything
    Mama said don't give up, it's a little complicated
    All tied up, no more love and I'd hate to see you waiting...
    Mar 30
  • Pactera / SalesexcN16
    Exercise is underrated - truly one way to get you out of your funk
    Feb 260
  • Microsoft / Eng
    alletuN

    MicrosoftEng

    BIO
    The original, the one and only.
    alletuNmore
    Cannabis
    Feb 260

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