I'm one of the many folks here on an H-1B and have fallen for a girl who doesn't belong to my nationality and is on the same visa. My home is India, hers China. We both won't get permanent residence in the US forever because of the backlog for both Indian and Chinese nationals. In this situation, it looks like we'll have to end things between us because the future is uncertain with the H-1B and we have different home countries to return to, if we need to for some reason. This, among other things, like, our friends and families will find it hard to connect because of the different languages, cultures, food, etc. Am I missing something, or would this be a logical decision and should we just move on? Did any of you make things work and what was your story?
China takes only 5-6 years for GC, so it's faster. If it's true love, don't let visa issues phase you. Both of you can work in India or China or Singapore or Europe or Canada. Lots of options to explore
It's really hard for me to work in China and for her to adjust outside of work in India because of the language barrier. Other countries and continents is something that's on my mind.
Love is forever....transcends national borders, relative incompatibilities, visa issues.....remember people live long now....if she is someone who want to share life for next 70 years, then everything else is temporary. Who knows, you 2 might end up raising family in switzerland.
Well, we've dreamt quite a bit to say the least. It's just that this a life changing decision and have gotta be triple sure before making any serious move.
Love is not forever. See Jeff Bezos divorce
Do Indians ever try to find someone they actually love, to marry, or is it always just a logical based decision? Obviously, love isn't involved at all in the decision of arranged marriages, but does that mindset also impact all Indian marriages and decisions to get married? From what I've seen, it seems like a lot of Indians on blind don't actually love their spouse, which sounds to me like a long unhappy life.
Concluding too soon?
Well, the Indian scenario on marriage is a different topic of debate. We could've been just about any two other nationalities and the post would still be the same. So, there's nothing Indian about this post other than the GC backlog. The point that you mentioned about a leading a long happy (or unhappy) life in the long run is exactly why this post exists, which is why there's a need to inject rationality into the equation.
Your TC and her TC?
Move to third country together.
China GC is much faster... Marry her if you are in love
Er... no one asked about your GC dude..z
Dude seriously move to Canada or Europe.Dont let some stupid visa Spoil this
Canada is the obvious solution. There may be other similar options as well, like Australia. Ending the relationship isn't the only option. Not by any stretch. Also, she may get her work based green card a lot sooner than yours. So that worry may not even be an issue after a few years. If either of you are worried about your current jobs, jointly discuss Canada's Express Entry and how you both can make it work. Living in Vancouver isn't so bad. Or even Toronto if you prefer that part of the country. I'm married to someone from another culture. Different languages, food or whatever aren't an issue at all. It actually gives both of us lots of new experiences and activities to introduce each other to. If you two really care about each other, all that other stuff will fall into place. I also know an Indian-Chinese couple who are happily in love and married for several years. They've both embraced each other's cultures. It's not as daunting as it may seem. I wish you both the best.
Thank you for sharing those examples. How do you balance out traveling to your home countries or towns, or do you instead have your folks travel to the country where you live? I'm asking because you probably get about a couple of weeks off per year and you have to choose between a holiday destination and your home countries. Just curious to hear how you handle it.
We live in the US and her folks live in the US. So visiting her family and having her family visit us isn't that big a deal. I see my folks once a year at the moment, either they travel here or I travel there. I've got siblings that are not in the US, so we generally try to travel when possible to all see each other. But yes, at the moment at least I don't see my family as much as she gets to see hers.
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Or like you move to a different country. If you really care about that chick staying in the US will be the least of your worries...
Yeah, that kinda seems like one solution.
Move to Canada.