Dating a 40 year old

Microsoft BigMoves
Feb 4 48 Comments

I’m in my early 30s and started seeing a 40 year old man some weeks ago. I’ve never dated someone outside the millennial bubble. So far it’s been pretty great (he actually knows how to set up and go on dates!)
I worry that I’M going to be the one to mess things up. How do Gen X men approach dating? What are some dos and donts that the Instagram generation might forget? And how do I keep him interested?!

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  • Microsoft 4655434b
    Don’t be glued to your phone
    Talk about things other than yourself
    Show some skin
    Feb 41
    • Oracle / Eng
      exAmzn2018

      OracleEng

      PRE
      500 Startups
      BIO
      no nonsense guy 😂😎
      exAmzn2018more
      show a lot of skin.. and show only if you are in good shape.
      if you are not in good shape and you end up showing skin...be ready for nasty comments :-)
      Feb 7
  • Google / FinanceMoltisanti
    We need to know both your races to provide the best advice possible.
    Feb 44
    • Microsoft lumba86
      And both your tc. For all we know we could be helping a gold digger by helping you...
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      Shoddy assumptions
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft lumba86
      If you give us more info, we could rule it out
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      Seem like you’re an incel. If you give me more information I could rule it out. But it turns out I don’t want any advice from you.
      Feb 4
  • Splunk vroomx2
    So...I think it varies between men. I'm 40 and my girlfriend is 24. We get along great so long as we talk openly. I love her lots. Keeping off phone when together is reasonable but I'm on mine more than she is, so who knows
    Feb 46
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      Do you feel like there’s a generational divide between you and 30 year olds?
      Feb 4
    • How did you get a 24yo girlfriend?
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft BcrX06
      He must be chad.
      Feb 4
    • American Express _________!
      are you divorced? or commitment problems for 40 years?
      Feb 8
    • Splunk vroomx2
      @BigMoves maybe. I'm pretty easy going and a very good listener. I love new things.
      Feb 15
    • Splunk vroomx2
      @______! No, never really dated.
      Feb 15
  • Apple h4krBell3
    Girl, whatever you do, don’t ask his TC or NW.
    Feb 42
    • New / Design
      preece

      NewDesign

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      preecemore
      What’s NW?
      Feb 4
    • Apple h4krBell3
      Net Worth
      Feb 4
  • Microsoft lgda
    gl hf🤗

    I’ll pardon the TC thing this time.
    Feb 41
  • MathWorks CHop75
    Maybe stop caring so much about generation X or millennials, and just look at him as a person and see what he likes and dislikes?
    Feb 41
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      Doing that. But I wonder if there are differences in dating approaches I don’t know about.
      Feb 4
  • You're pretty much almost too old for him. At 40, he should be looking at 25-30.
    Feb 79
    • Microsoft aai617vaL
      Lmao who is this ugly incel
      Feb 7
    • Amazon Deedadoo
      Lol what a dumbass. Some relay this info to JeffB.
      Feb 7
    • I didn't mean to summon a coven 😂 but unfortunately for you it's true. Why would a successful 40 year old man bother with someone who is becoming sexually obsolete? 🤷‍♂️
      Feb 7
    • Microsoft aai617vaL
      You feeling bad about yourself bro? It’s ok, not everyone is meant to have a woman and it’s fine if you have issues.
      Feb 7
    • We clearly don't know each other ... bro
      Feb 7
    • Microsoft aai617vaL
      Then why you commenting on people’s things like you know
      Feb 8
    • My suggestion would be for you to go back to school first, then travel a little bit. You can then come back here and have an opinion worth reading. So far your response to a very reasonable comment was an insult followed by a display of anal discomfort. Is that all you've got?
      Feb 8
    • Microsoft fujeezus
      Hmm yeah it sounds like you’re the uncomfortable one and also weirdly fixated on something anal. You know your own opinions seem laughable right stuY? Probably need to go hide in a cave for a few decades.
      Feb 8
    • Do you have anything to back that up?
      Feb 8
  • Microsoft
    Tier 1

    Microsoft

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    #1 in Prestige
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    So what you’re saying is that you’re going on a date with someone less than 10 years older than you, and you’re in your 30s?

    Just act normal. This is no big deal
    Feb 40
  • Amazon bezosboi
    If you are in your really 30s you are closer to gen x than to some millennials.
    Feb 42
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      I was thinking that too. But I definitely vibe with the millennial thing a lot more and I think the cutoff for millennials was 1981
      Feb 4
    • Oracle fatalflaw
      Don't analyze so much! Evolution and human behavior are like continuous functions, not discrete like the definitions of labels for generations. 😁
      Feb 4
  • Amazon Deedadoo
    Don’t take it personally if he has issues getting it up. Dick problems are a thing at that age. Don’t feel bad if you start craving some 20-something action on the side. 💁‍♀️
    Feb 44
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      Oh no! At 40?!
      Feb 4
    • Amazon Deedadoo
      Yup. I’ve seen it at as early as 36. It really depends on the guy and his health. The ones that have been fit their whole lives are way less likely to have this problem based on what I’ve seen.

      There’s also a mellowing out of the sex drive that can happen to even the fit ones. It really depends on the dude. I’m a fiend so I like the young ones. Just look out for your needs. 😊
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft BigMoves
      OP
      👍🏼
      Feb 4
    • I wonder what was the sample size for this determination. This might be true for an average tubby American but it certainly isn't accurate for the rest of the attractive world. I'm thinking you might be reading too many magazines rather than getting a first hand experience.
      Feb 7
  • Salesforce tensorchic
    At least he won't take N years to decide if or not he wants to make a commitment. Hopefully.
    Feb 141
    • LinkedIn joshmohak
      I like this one, she is right.
      Feb 14
  • Daimler #1OffMgr
    Stay off your Cell phone.
    Feb 40
  • Oracle fatalflaw
    There's less of a generational gap than you might think, especially for people who grew up on/with tech.
    Feb 40
  • ServiceNow lilcheeto2
    Jesus H Christ. 40 is nearly dead.
    Feb 100
  • Google AynRand
    OP’s username checks out!! 🙏🏿
    👍🏿
    Feb 60
  • Cerner / DataKil*p*
    If he is tech aware then you'll be fine. If not then would be tricky cause you'll be talking 2 languages. I'm on my late 40s but I do Snapchat, Instagram, FB not that much anymore, Twitter, Blind, Skype, rooted phone and the like so I probably would understand. But if not would be basically if you can deal with him not knowing...
    Feb 40
  • New @(^_^)@
    Eh, 40 is already near millennial. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials
    Feb 40

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