I have been on a few dates with a religious girl. She wants us to be in love triangle with Jesus. What does this mean ?
Note: I am not an American.
- Also, what exactly does being in love triangle with Jesus mean ? What do I need to do to do that ? Start loving Jesus ? What does that mean too ?
- Microsoft / Product@zzzNaah lot of people get married because they are horny. Then they either adjust (be it religious or some other whims), learn to get along with their differences, or just separate eventually.
From what I have seen, religious people tend to get even more religious as they age, even more ideological and illelogical at the same time. Which is why I avoid them.Nov 252
- Amazon younghovIn Christianity, you're supposed to have Jesus as part of your married life. What does that mean? It varies from couple to couple. I take it as you want Jesus to be part of your decision making, lifestyle, finance, etc. Nothing weird really, everybody is disproportionately influenced by someone else they find inspiring, in this case it's Jesus. Source: I used to go to church a lot when I was a kid, and there was a preacher that talked about this exact topic.
- I hope she does not have another motive of converting you because growing the religion is the part of Christians religion.
- Intuit dumb@ssIf she is extremely religious and you are the opposite it will create long term problems in compatibility. Her decisions will be guided, solely for most part, by her religious beliefs and your logic won’t help much irrespective of whether your reasons make sense to you (or anyone else who can think logically and objectively and see everything for what it really is rather then from a religious perspective and beliefs).
It’s one thing to have religious beliefs/faith in God, etc. which I respect but quite another to force others to follow their beliefs blindly/without questions, which I don’t like and so stay away from extremely religious people from any religion including my own religion.
- You have to be careful. Know what you’re getting into. Sex is going to be metered. No abortions if you have an accident. They care more about religion than you.
- Two Sigma YCDxKYNMy understanding of this analogy (the love triangle thing) is that the top of the triangle represents Jesus and the bottom two corners represent you and her. The farther you are from Jesus the farther you are from her and the farther she is from Jesus. When this was explained to me (by a girl who Was religious while I was not Christian) this meant if I was far from Jesus, she would also end up being far from Jesus because I guess in this saying the triangle has edges that are all the same length. So it also meant I would be far from her. The only way we could all be together is by both of us being close to Jesus.
- eBay dis2shapasLove triangle with Jesus, haven’t heard of that. Though it probably means she wants to be in a serious relationship with you. In Christianity, marriage is a sacred covenant or a contract with God as the witness. It’s a long term commitment between two people and God. Jesus about divorce - “Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
- Microsoft RockoutmoreShe's probably just being up front with you. Her beliefs sound really important to her. If you want anything serious you need to know what she believes and she needs to know what you believe. Being in a serious relationship with someone who's a different religion is hard.
- New / Productfalcon3moreLove triangle with Jesus... interesting! What would that mean when it comes to sex? Threesome?
- Thanks guys. In my few dates, I really like her. But I just don't want to be asked something that's weird and then be heartbroken later on. I guess, I wanted to figure out if such relationships work out, and if yes, in what cases
About me: I don't mind her beliefs, and willing to support her, but I would rather not do something weird and too much out of my way.
- Salesforce BhootmoreHer being religious isn't a Problem. Her expecting you to be religious is. It's ok if she wants you to go to midnight mass once a year on Christmas, baptise your kids, and have a church wedding, and the rest of the times is a normal person. But if she expects you to start accepting Jesus as your Savior and subscribing to her beliefs more than what I mentioned above you might not be compatible.
Secondly, is her sense of morality connected to religion? In an ethical conundrum, does she look at religion for a reference point, or logic, or something else?
Lastly how important is religion in daily decision making? Is she homophobic? Is she pro choice? Can she have a drink once in a while if thats important to you? How does she view other Faiths?
None of this is easy. You have to take a call depending on all these considerations.
PS: I'm a practicing Hindu. But I use religion as a tool to deal with my emotions and life, and do not consider it as something everyone in the world must necessarily subscribe to. When I'm emotionally overloaded or missing my family, I feel spending time in a temple or saying a prayer helps me gain balance. It's a private thing and doesn't interfere with my ideological standpoint or my ethical decisions. I would expect my partner to respect Hinduism (not be dismissive of my faith) but not necessarily subscribe to it.