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Dating a religious girl ?

Google overlook
Nov 25

I have been on a few dates with a religious girl. She wants us to be in love triangle with Jesus. What does this mean ?

Note: I am not an American.

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  • IBM gösser
    Just make sure Jesus isn't some side 'gga
    Nov 250
  • Oracle / Productedxks
    You’re saved. You would be going to heaven after death.
    Nov 252
    • Google overlook
      OP
      But what do I need to do ? I don't want to convert to Christianity.
      Nov 25
    • Oracle / Productedxks
      Don’t convert. Just say you are open to know more and sometimes might not even like it.
      If she is fine with that go ahead.
      Nov 25
  • New tLFu71
    Go along with it to get laid if she’s hot.
    Nov 253
    • Nielsen / Eng
      userperson

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      userpersonmore
      Isn't this called manipulation
      Nov 25
    • Google overlook
      OP
      Sorry, I can't do that.
      Nov 25
    • Clover Network
      iaJT60

      Clover Network

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      iaJT60more
      That is a solid advice
      Nov 25
  • Google overlook
    OP
    Also, what exactly does being in love triangle with Jesus mean ? What do I need to do to do that ? Start loving Jesus ? What does that mean too ?
    Nov 258
    • Dell / Eng
      trx00

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      trx00more
      It means you will need to accept jesus as your Lord and saviour. If you're into It, that's cool, I can't do it no matter how hot she is. (And boy, are they hot more often than not!)
      Nov 25
    • Google overlook
      OP
      So whether or not she likes me depends upon whether or not I like Jesus ? That sounds weird.

      So love for Jesus overrides all cultural, personality differences ?
      Nov 25
    • OpenTable Meliodas
      Yes. No one said religion was rational.
      Nov 25
    • Google overlook
      OP
      Damn, this sounds weird honestly. I am considering getting out.
      It's lucky there are so many Christians, otherwise these girls might not get married ever.
      Nov 25
    • Dell / Eng
      trx00

      DellEng

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      trx00more
      Yes. It's one of those things you either accept 100% or not at all. And expect others to buy into the same thing. Cognitive dissonance is a thing.
      Nov 25
    • Microsoft / Product@zzz
      Naah lot of people get married because they are horny. Then they either adjust (be it religious or some other whims), learn to get along with their differences, or just separate eventually.

      From what I have seen, religious people tend to get even more religious as they age, even more ideological and illelogical at the same time. Which is why I avoid them.
      Nov 25
    • Google overlook
      OP
      Although now having second thoughts about getting out based on suggestions from blind :(

      Fuck my life. Sorry for the emotional dump.
      Nov 25
    • Amazon younghov
      In Christianity, you're supposed to have Jesus as part of your married life. What does that mean? It varies from couple to couple. I take it as you want Jesus to be part of your decision making, lifestyle, finance, etc. Nothing weird really, everybody is disproportionately influenced by someone else they find inspiring, in this case it's Jesus. Source: I used to go to church a lot when I was a kid, and there was a preacher that talked about this exact topic.
      Nov 25
  • Facebook BaseFook
    She probably meant Hey-soos from the auto shop
    Nov 251
    • ServiceNow lilcheeto2
      Oh god. I am laughing so hard I can barely breathe 😂👏🏻
      Dec 1
  • OSIsoft
    Qvd

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    Qvdmore
    I hope she does not have another motive of converting you because growing the religion is the part of Christians religion.
    Nov 251
    • Google overlook
      OP
      Haha, I think she almost has made it clear, just not spoken it yet.
      Nov 25
  • Intuit dumb@ss
    If she is extremely religious and you are the opposite it will create long term problems in compatibility. Her decisions will be guided, solely for most part, by her religious beliefs and your logic won’t help much irrespective of whether your reasons make sense to you (or anyone else who can think logically and objectively and see everything for what it really is rather then from a religious perspective and beliefs).

    It’s one thing to have religious beliefs/faith in God, etc. which I respect but quite another to force others to follow their beliefs blindly/without questions, which I don’t like and so stay away from extremely religious people from any religion including my own religion.
    Nov 251
  • Qualcomm / EngLazyPro
    Run as far away as you can. Then run some more.
    Nov 251
    • And little more after that. Then stop.
      Nov 25
  • Apple KGHP41
    You have to be careful. Know what you’re getting into. Sex is going to be metered. No abortions if you have an accident. They care more about religion than you.
    Nov 251
    • Google overlook
      OP
      Oh, "they care more about religion" --- this made me shiver. Not worth it. Thanks a lot.
      Nov 26
  • Two Sigma YCDxKYN
    My understanding of this analogy (the love triangle thing) is that the top of the triangle represents Jesus and the bottom two corners represent you and her. The farther you are from Jesus the farther you are from her and the farther she is from Jesus. When this was explained to me (by a girl who Was religious while I was not Christian) this meant if I was far from Jesus, she would also end up being far from Jesus because I guess in this saying the triangle has edges that are all the same length. So it also meant I would be far from her. The only way we could all be together is by both of us being close to Jesus.
    Nov 253
    • Sound logic.
      Nov 25
    • Google overlook
      OP
      OMG, this is what she was trying to explain, but I didn't get. So basically, I need to be equally religious as her, otherwise she ends up losing. She clearly cares more about her Friend in a supposed heaven than her friend here. Thanks for the explanation.
      Nov 26
    • Google overlook
      OP
      I thought that just being a good and compassionate person is usually sufficient. Looks like not the case here.
      Nov 26
  • Love triangle with Jesus, haven’t heard of that. Though it probably means she wants to be in a serious relationship with you. In Christianity, marriage is a sacred covenant or a contract with God as the witness. It’s a long term commitment between two people and God. Jesus about divorce - “Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
    Nov 250
  • New / Engcato
    Run away, not worth it
    Nov 250
  • Microsoft
    Rockout

    Microsoft

    BIO
    This is my bio.
    Rockoutmore
    She's probably just being up front with you. Her beliefs sound really important to her. If you want anything serious you need to know what she believes and she needs to know what you believe. Being in a serious relationship with someone who's a different religion is hard.
    Nov 250
  • New / Product
    falcon3

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    Startup enthusiast. Trying to make the world a better place! :)
    falcon3more
    Love triangle with Jesus... interesting! What would that mean when it comes to sex? Threesome?
    Nov 255
    • Williams Lea Tag / MktgGayDude
      This is such a groundbreaking question ! Congrats 🎉
      Nov 25
    • Apple KGHP41
      It’ll be a devils threesome if Jesus is involved. OTOH, I can have a threesome if Virgin Mary was involved instead of Jesus.
      Nov 25
    • Williams Lea Tag / MktgGayDude
      OTOH ?
      Nov 25
    • Oracle Potemkin
      JFGI.
      Nov 25
    • OSIsoft
      Qvd

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      Qvdmore
      On the other hand
      Nov 26
  • Google overlook
    OP
    Thanks guys. In my few dates, I really like her. But I just don't want to be asked something that's weird and then be heartbroken later on. I guess, I wanted to figure out if such relationships work out, and if yes, in what cases

    About me: I don't mind her beliefs, and willing to support her, but I would rather not do something weird and too much out of my way.
    Nov 251
    • OneMarket cryptoczar
      Knew a guy in the exact same situation as you. Got married, had kids, things got even more, weird, got divorced, pays alimony, childcare and drives to LA every 2 weeks to be with his kids. Bottom line is get out quick. Good luck!
      Nov 25
  • Salesforce
    Bhoot

    Salesforce

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    I am blind to something and you are too.
    Bhootmore
    Her being religious isn't a Problem. Her expecting you to be religious is. It's ok if she wants you to go to midnight mass once a year on Christmas, baptise your kids, and have a church wedding, and the rest of the times is a normal person. But if she expects you to start accepting Jesus as your Savior and subscribing to her beliefs more than what I mentioned above you might not be compatible.

    Secondly, is her sense of morality connected to religion? In an ethical conundrum, does she look at religion for a reference point, or logic, or something else?

    Lastly how important is religion in daily decision making? Is she homophobic? Is she pro choice? Can she have a drink once in a while if thats important to you? How does she view other Faiths?

    None of this is easy. You have to take a call depending on all these considerations.

    PS: I'm a practicing Hindu. But I use religion as a tool to deal with my emotions and life, and do not consider it as something everyone in the world must necessarily subscribe to. When I'm emotionally overloaded or missing my family, I feel spending time in a temple or saying a prayer helps me gain balance. It's a private thing and doesn't interfere with my ideological standpoint or my ethical decisions. I would expect my partner to respect Hinduism (not be dismissive of my faith) but not necessarily subscribe to it.
    6d0
  • Expedia Glued
    If you’re planning to get out, I’d suggest getting laid. Else you will regret it after you break up. Just tell her, “Thy shall get laid with me”
    Nov 260
  • PayPal 7STAR
    Are you Indian? Is the girl white?
    Nov 250
  • Microsoft userg7
    Love Jihad! Run away from conversion!
    Nov 250
  • ServiceNow lilcheeto2
    Run as fast and far as you can. 🏃🏽‍♂️
    Dec 10
  • New gazm40
    How religious is she?
    Does she expect you to go to church with her?
    Does she expect you to convert?

    If the answer is yes, run
    Nov 260
  • AMD
    5nm

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    5nmmore
    Do what you want, just done marry her. Them girls be cray cray 😜! (Oh yeah and as 👆 always use a condom.)
    Nov 250
  • New / Other
    Call Me.

    NewOther

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    Turned my beeper on.
    Call Me.more
    Shes asking you to get married in the lord. Marriage is between man, woman, and god... another type of trinity. Run. #agnosticsdoitbetter
    Nov 250
  • Amazon / EngIAmJob
    Be honest and tell her what you feel. Be clear that you dont want to convert. It it doesn't work, on to the next one.
    Nov 250
  • Clover Network
    iaJT60

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    iaJT60more
    Jesus is her neighbor friend
    Nov 250
  • Amazon Ososooffjb
    Dump
    Nov 250
  • Facebook public2
    Love triangle eh...
    Nov 250
  • VMware BobbleHat
    Let her ‘save’ you or move on. Don’t try to mislead her or live with a false conviction. What would you want you kids to be?
    Nov 250
  • Lyft rpMF46
    Why the note? What do they use to manipulate people in your part of the world if not religion?
    Nov 250

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