Dating divorced men/women

Mar 1, 2018 30 Comments

If you were never married and are in 20s/early 30s, would you even think of dating a divorced person of opposite sex (assuming you are straight) eventually leading to marriage.

The reason is I have been getting several such invites on dating apps. Some of them even explained that their partner had deadly disease which they did not disclose etc.

I usually decline them immediately even though the profile is good.

What do you think? Would love to hear from divorced people on why they think a never married person would be interested in them?

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  • Mgmt
    idiot45

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    I get things done in real.life. On blind I switch between trolling and sharing my experience on serious topics. At times its hard to differentiate between two.
    idiot45more
    Open box items often offer great discounts.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
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    • Facebook bookfc
      Life happens. Doesn't meant they're failures
      Mar 1, 2018
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    • Microsoft / Eng kaas
      lmao
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Microsoft LPiV33
      Good luck for leading your life with such BS thoughts. Hope nothing happens in your life. Success/failures are called life. It had/has/will happen to everyone once in our lifetime. it is just about time.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Veritas Overit73
      Failure? I seriously want to say fuck off. I’m certainly not a failure bc my husband had a cheating disorder from the moment we met and knocked up another woman.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Oracle Nutelła
      Looks like lot of people had opinions about my comment. I will change my word, not a failure.
      Mar 1, 2018
  • F5 Networks / Sales
    UrMomma

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    Just lurking...
    UrMommamore
    When you get up past your mid 20s / early 30s the ones that are still single and haven’t been married is a red flag. Something is wrong with this person or they would have gotten married. I would hesitate to date a woman who has never been in a long term relationship.
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • Amazon MaybeBezos
      Long term relationship != marriage.
      Mar 3, 2018
  • Lyft sUPA43
    Get them to talk about their divorce. If it was only their partner's fault, run away.
    If they initiated divorce after having a child, run away.
    Mar 1, 2018 3
    • OP
      Isn’t it recommended to not talk with anyone about their past?
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Lyft sUPA43
      Recommend by divorce lawyers
      Mar 1, 2018
    • AMD
      Jab473

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      Jab473more
      BlongeGold is 100% right. Only date someone show fully understands why they got a divorce and takes some responsibility for what went wrong in the relationship. It is perfectly ok to ask WHY someone got a divorce.
      Mar 7, 2018
  • New nrzc15
    I'm divorced and now engaged to a man who was never married. He's with me because he and I have a lot in common and have a ton of fun together. My ex and I never had kids, so I didn't have that baggage. He and I just had different priorities in life and sometimes brought out the worst in each other. My fiance understood that and also knows that I wasn't vindictive or nasty during the divorce (I basically only asked for my share of the equity in the house my ex and I shared, and a split of our savings. I didn't request alimony or a chunk of his side business despite being "entitled" to it). In fact, my ex and I are still great friends and I sometimes use him as a personal reference.

    Relationships end. It happens. Unmarried couples break up, too; they just don't have the stigma of having "divorced" as their marital status as opposed to "single."
    Mar 2, 2018 2
    • CareerBuilder hdanon
      This is an incredibly healthy attitude and also the correct answer
      Mar 2, 2018
    • New nrzc15
      Thank you, I do appreciate it :). My ex has gone out with women who completely shut everything down when he says he's divorced. It's really a shame and I feel terrible for him. He's a great guy and it sucks that some women are too close minded to try seeing that.
      Mar 2, 2018
  • Microsoft ZuckB
    If you are a woman in your 30s, and interested in marrying someone older than yourself, given divorce rates and the fact that older man can date much younger women, you’d be limiting your market size considerably if you reject divorced people right off the bat.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Veritas Overit73
    I think you should base a dating or relationship decision on who the person is on the inside. I got divorced bc my husband cheated regularly and got a woman pregnant. I’m now happily married to the man of my dreams.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng ⬛️DownVest
    Look into present and into future. We all have all sorts of past and as long as the person doesn’t carry/holding to heavy baggage why would you care?
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Facebook dXy349
    I got divorced when I was 32.

    Dated a few women my age and a bit older. Tbf, that fact that they had never been married in their 30s was more of a red flag to me.

    Divorcing is trying a failing. Never having been in a relationship is not trying.

    Women of SF, don't panic. I am now married again 🙂
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Airbnb hcftjmk
    Divorce, marriage are just legal constructs of a relationship. If you go by that logic you should only be dating virgins
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Facebook / Eng lnrv22
    Marriage is just a social and legal construct. I’m married because of legal benefits, however neither of us believes in marriage.
    So yes.
    Unless kids. That complicates things. But that’s regardless of the fact if they were married before or not.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng
    Hooliganss

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    Hooliganssmore
    I’d be hesitant I think, but not opposed right off the bat.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Facebook banmiester
    I wouldn't care. Think of it as a long term relationship with legal implications that no longer exists.

    Some people have religious or social norms reason to not consider.

    Different story if they have a kid.
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • Pure Storage PSPS
      Yeah it would make it hard if they had kids. But if they don't i'm open to it.
      Mar 1, 2018
  • AMD
    Jab473

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    Jab473more
    Totally depends on the situation. If man in close to 40 and has not been married that to me is more of a red flag. As long as there are no kids involved you are fine! If he has kids it’s a lot more complicated because those situations usually involve crazy ex-wives.
    Mar 3, 2018 0
  • Intuit VGhl56
    If they don't have any children I would consider it.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Intel traderking
    I'd consider it. Just make sure everything is genuine, all previous emotions are in the past, and don't rush it a single bit.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • CareerBuilder hdanon
    Yes, I would have
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • CA Technologies / Sales lBqw66
    As a divorced person myself, I have to agree with everyone who said it’s fine but no kids. Even without all the extra complications that come with ex-wives, step kids are a whole other ball of wax! Sometimes people get married too young or for the wrong reasons. It happens. It’s actually an incredibly good way to get a quick handle on a person’s character - how they handle their divorce.
    Mar 7, 2018 0

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