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Mar 1, 2018 62 Comments

Early-twenties female; Indian (never lived there though); Bay area. Never dated before and turned down everyone before because dating seems time consuming. I should try out dating now I know. Anybody in the same boat? Plus any advice on a good app/way to meet guys? I would prefer to avoid any apps but open to it

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  • LinkedIn Changeling
    There is an effing buffet of indian guys in bay, what are you talking about?
    Mar 1, 2018 3
    • Cisco / Eng
      gprotein

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      She literally asked how to find Indian guys lol
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Yup. Falco9805 can't read and just want to yap
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Yeah but where exactly would you get s chance to talk to people if you are new here?
      Mar 1, 2018
  • New / Eng
    ol’ dirty

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    ol’ dirtymore
    „Dating was too time consuming” - LOL
    I hope you enjoy your 6fig salary without having any nice experiences and memories from your youth.
    Mar 1, 2018 7
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      I don’t think dating is the only kind of memories you can have. I think I have had a pretty good youth with just friends.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New / Eng
      ol’ dirty

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      Well, sex as a small part of it. With every relationship you learn something new, how to treat people, how to be a good partner, how to interact with your S/O, what makes people happy and what makes them sad, what you expect from a partner and what you want give to your partner, how to be supportive. And interacting with friends will give you some of that but not all.

      Then you have these people in their mid-20’s who are emotionally crippled and can’t have a relationship longer than 3 months, asking dating questions on forums.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New numtu
      ^ this. That said, just start and enjoy the journey of learning more about yourself and others. The longer you wait the harder it becomes and the more set you become as a single person. Approach dating with an open mind. Mentally designing the perfect match and going out to try and find that person will most always lead to failure, frustration and ‘wasted time’. Be open. Let yourself be vulnerable and trusting at moments in the pursuit of getting to learn more about others and share about yoursef. Prepare to get hurt but know it’s part of the journey and will make you stronger and ultimately more compatible.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New / Eng
      ol’ dirty

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      ^ this.

      Be happy, be hurt, take lessons out of both. It’s all about the journey - *real life is NOT wasted time*. Your career, bonuses, promotions, interviews will NOT give you lasting, happy memories.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Thanks for this advice!!
      Mar 1, 2018
  • Google / Eng stubby
    I'll give you the perspective of an Indian guy. I spend most of my time at work because I enjoy it. Consequently, I get to meet very few people outside work. And my hobbies are mostly playing sports (Cricket, Tennis, Volleyball) and working out. I find very few to no Indian women there.
    What can you do to increase your chances of me (or any guy) approaching you?
    Strike a conversation and smile while having lunch with people you don't know.
    If they start a conversation, don't respond with just one word answers and contribute to driving the conversation.
    You can ask what they do on weekends and of you find it interesting, say something like 'wow that's cool, can I join you?' or something.
    Wherever you are, just have an open body language so that people feel comfortable striking a conversation with you.
    Mar 1, 2018 8
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      True yeah, I didn’t think of that. I guess just with talking you can pretty much tell yeah, keeping the conversation going is a good sign
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Google / Eng stubby
      Should I consider this as 'keeping the conversation going'? ;)
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Facebook dXy349
      Christ, just ask her out stubby.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Aon Hewitt qTXq04
      Lol that was the whole purpose of stubby contributing here
      Mar 2, 2018
    • Google / Eng stubby
      Lol! 10 years from now, I'll be saying this like Ted Mosby: "Kids, I thought she was keeping the conversation going. She wasn't."
      Mar 2, 2018
  • Compass / Eng
    Pwyu55

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    The Bay Area has such a shortage of single women that you will literally have your pick of men in the area. There’s something called the 4-9ers (not the team) look it up.
    Mar 1, 2018 3
    • Yup. Chicks that are 4's but think they are 9's. Most SF based women.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Cisco Lowlow
      What is 4-9ers . Couldn’t get a good result on google
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      Pwyu55

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      Due to the extreme shortage of single women in the Bay Area women who would be ranked a 4 in most areas become 9s. Look up scarcity value.
      Mar 2, 2018
  • Microsoft falco9805
    You never lived in India but only want to date Indian guys? That’s your first problem right there.
    Mar 1, 2018 5
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      Expleiamus

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      Why is that a problem? I thibk I am still pretty Indian with morals and stuff
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Microsoft falco9805
      Indian with “morals and stuff”? My fiancé is Indian and I’m not. She never lived in India either. Just saying you’re limiting yourself a bit don’t you think?
      Mar 1, 2018
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Fair enough, thanks! I will consider it
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Microsoft Fan C
      The fact that your considering it is a great growth mindset! Go inclusivity! You’d be surprised how many Americans are conservative in morals without being assholes. Asshole needs no nationality or any other social or religious invisible boundary/constraint. We all are capable of being assholes, but we’re all also capable of being great human beings.
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Aon Hewitt qTXq04
      Indian female here and have to agree with Microsoft
      Mar 2, 2018
  • Wells Fargo bpiS06
    Plenty on this board
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Facebook / Eng E12
    “Turned everyone down because dating seems time consuming”. Is this why all my Indian guys friends complain so much about the dating market here?
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Depending on the age. I thibk early 20s everyone starts thinking of getting serious about dating
      Mar 1, 2018
  • Capital One / Product ~hotdog
    Start dating and figure it out. Advice from others won’t be of much value in this area. You’ve to explore and learn your lessons, and find the one you like.
    Mar 1, 2018 3
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      Expleiamus

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      Where would you go in the Bay Area to date?
      Mar 1, 2018
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      Expleiamus

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      Work is just hard to find someone
      Mar 1, 2018
    • Capital One / Product ~hotdog
      Anyone that asks you out if you find them interesting. There’s Indian dating app too, and of course any one of million dating apps. It’s still regular people like you and me on those apps. Some are creepy which means some people are creepy in real life too.
      Mar 1, 2018
  • New Xzyqw
    I see a lot of people asking why only Indian men, I think you made a mistake by mentioning that in your post. You should do what white girls usually do, act like you would consider any race but then date only the race you want to.
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • Aon Hewitt qTXq04
      I think she was smart it narrowed down the guys who will message her privately to Indian
      Mar 2, 2018
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    idiot45

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    I get things done in real.life. On blind I switch between trolling and sharing my experience on serious topics. At times its hard to differentiate between two.
    idiot45more
    This is a troll post to honey trap all desperate introverts.
    Mar 1, 2018 4
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Actually though, I didn’t expect people to start messaging me
      Mar 1, 2018
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    • Samsung statarb
      OP is click baiting.
      Jul 5
  • Google / Eng KBkc57
    You can start by PMing me, I can ask you out ;)
    Mar 1, 2018 2
    • EPAM Systems StrngBlnd
      I'm also open for her Direct Message ;)
      Aug 16, 2018
    • eBay maybeno
      Both of you mention your TCs then she will decide
      Sep 5
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    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      I would give myself a 5 or a 6 yup. But like I don’t eat Indian food as much soo
      Mar 1, 2018
  • Uber qgiQ78
    Dil Mil is supposed be a decent app to find south Asian mates
    Mar 1, 2018 0
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  • DocuSign chemistry
    Enjoy your age and opportunities available at your age and location. Bay Area is girl’s market.
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Verathon / Eng
    FANG

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    Leetcode
    Mar 1, 2018 0
  • Samsung justavrage
    My suggestion is why only consider Indian guys? Why not try other race? I mean dating is just so u get to know a person and figure out if u are compatible. So I don't think there is anything morally wrong if u don't end up marrying the person u date. At least it will give you some experience.
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • New / Eng
      Expleiamus

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      Completely agreed there
      Mar 1, 2018
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    truthdr007

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    Everything only after marriage plz !!
    Mar 1, 2018 1
    • Microsoft falco9805
      Live a little, buddy.
      Mar 1, 2018
  • Shopify / Eng
    teeth

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    teethmore
    Try Tinder.
    Mar 2, 2018 0
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    andjdbamba

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    andjdbambamore
    ABCD? Avoid the foreign dudes, they’re terrible just sayin
    Mar 1, 2018 0