Dating for people in tech?

Microsoft H89iyj
Jun 4, 2018 25 Comments

Since all dating apps are mostly about looks, and since most tech people didn't care about their looks that much, what's the best way to solve this problem for us now?

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  • Counsyl / Eng
    They

    Counsyl Eng

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    Mechanical engineer + software
    Theymore
    Start caring about your looks or start lowering your standards. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    Jun 4, 2018 0
  • Intel Womancoder
    Start going out and meet new people instead of relying on dating apps
    Jun 4, 2018 3
    • Microsoft H89iyj
      OP
      So there's no real solution to this dating apps problem?
      Jun 4, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      No
      Jun 4, 2018
    • Bread qwertyasd
      You can improve your looks/pictures.
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Facebook / Eng TCYOE
    A girl isn’t going to magically appear. Either make the effort (apps, meetups, friends, coworkers) or keep dreaming.
    Jun 4, 2018 0
  • Microsoft frub
    Op, based on your comments, you sound like you would do well in the incel community. Have you heard of the 80/20 rule?
    Jun 4, 2018 1
    • Microsoft frub
      Fyi I'm actually voluntarily promiscuous, not involuntarily celibate
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Microsoft H89iyj
    OP
    I think I worded my post wrong. My post is to find out if there exists a solution to the dating app problem. That is, is there a way to make a dating app which overcomes this problem.
    Jun 4, 2018 3
    • Facebook / Eng TCYOE
      Are you asking is there an app? Because there is obviously a way to make an app... You just make it, tech dating app with professional photos, TCYOE, and more personal bios.
      Jun 4, 2018
    • Microsoft H89iyj
      OP
      Will people use it though? Apps like Ok cupid tried to incorporate "personality", but people just swipe off based on first few pics.
      Jun 4, 2018
    • Braintree bogan
      So you want an app for unattractive people because you're too lazy to go to the gym and buy nicer clothes, is that right? Instead of searching for a technological solution, why not just get your shit together?
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Apple / Eng Marijuana
    You have to put yourself out there. Political advocacy is a great place to meet women (provided you’re advocating for liberal/democratic principles).
    Jun 4, 2018 1
    • Amazon / Eng
      Kfkddbsb

      Amazon Eng

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      IBM
      Kfkddbsbmore
      Political advocacy? Like how?

      I’ve been wanting to do this anyway
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Intuit yecGetk
    Why aren't you caring about your looks or health/fitness? What does tech have to do with any of this? Just sounds like an excuse to not put any effort in. There's a reason you have a gym at work and get paid enough to shop at Nordstrom.
    Jun 4, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng Am A
    Get a picture taken by a professional. It will make you look your best which would help a lot. An attractive photo is valuable professionally too.
    Jun 4, 2018 0
  • Tinder / Eng
    meowimacat

    Tinder Eng

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    Im a cat! Meow 🐈
    meowimacatmore
    Go workout
    Jun 4, 2018 2
    • Microsoft Kjj5585
      Meow meow
      Jun 4, 2018
    • Tinder / Eng
      meowimacat

      Tinder Eng

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      Meow 🐈 purr🐱
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Sapient Razorfish
    AL4NTUR1N6

    Sapient Razorfish

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    Google
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    TensorFlow. Deepmind. DARPA
    AL4NTUR1N6more
    Better pics:
    - iPhoneX portrait mode
    - Snapseed retouching (skin smoothing, face spotlight, eye clarity)
    - gym & cardio
    - no sugar or salt
    - connect with anyone on app and hone texting skills
    - repeat above with high frequency
    Jun 4, 2018 1
    • VMware BobbleHat
      No sugar or salt causes death...
      Jun 4, 2018
  • Amazon Jexx
    Dating apps are kind of reflecting basic humanity here. It sounds like you are saying “I’m unattractive and people on dating apps want attractive people. How do we fix the apps?” The problem likely isn’t the app itself.

    You can totally game the app by getting better pics. Get some professional shots - at minimum that also shows that you’ve got the judgement to work the system
    Jun 4, 2018 1
    • Software AG / Eng
      lqv4ehul

      Software AG Eng

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      VMware
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      Junior developer. Seeking opportunities in Dublin.
      lqv4ehulmore
      Attractive irl and attractive on a dating app are different things. Irl it’s a combination of qualities, combined with the visual aspect, the voice of the person and the way he moves + 10000 other things. On dating apps it’s purely the visual appeal of a static image.
      Btw before I met my current bf I saw his fb pictures and if I’d seen him on a dating app, I would have ignored him. Then we met irl and it was instant attraction. And his pics weren’t bad, he just didn’t look like my type.
      Jun 24, 2018
  • Barracuda / Sales
    YourMama

    Barracuda Sales

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    YourMamamore
    OKCupid used to segment their users by attractiveness. There was one bucket for the top 50% and one for the bottom 50%. You got promoted/denotes based on the interest you got. Not sure how well it worked or even if they still do it, but it was an attempt at the problem you’re alluding to.
    Jun 4, 2018 0
  • Visa Ga*do
    O(n)2 best case. If one says its possible with O(log n) then ask them if you can shoot their video for money!
    Jun 4, 2018 0