Dating in the bay area

Cisco X.O.X.OO
Oct 2 108 Comments

Why is dating so hard in the bay area? I had this conversation with a couple of coworkers and they were complaining of the same thing. How do you sort through all the bad eggs to get your prince charming? These beautiful ladies at work have been trying to date successfully for a few months with no luck. I recently moved to the bay area and decided to set up a profile on CMB a few days ago. First message I got was from a guy working at Google who asked if I wanted to hook up that night 😱. Next day, another message from another guy who claimed to be a PM in Google asking if I wanted to hook up. I was super disappointed and a bit traumatized. I expect such attitude from guys at Amazon not Google. I closed the account immediately.

It's worse because my team is mostly women and I'm stuck in one spot all day long. And I spend my weekends reading and cuddling my teddy bear all day long.

Where are all the gentlemen in the bay area? Dating sites can't work for me. Where do good men hang out?

No insults please 🙄🙄. Also don't tell me My TC is the reason why I can't get a boyfriend.

F. TC 110k.

P.S I don't in anyway think Amazonians are douchebags. It's just a joke.

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TOP 108 Comments
  • Amazon real bezos
    You expect such attitude from guys at Amazon and not Google?

    Yeah, with your attitude you’d get matches like those.

    And to start with, there are a lot of parameters to consider while dating. How many matches did you get? How many dates have you been on before finally concluding that?

    Looks like you want to date Googlers and look low at people from other companies. That narrows down your search. So be open minded before judging others.

    Maybe it is better for nice people not to date shit folks who judges them based on what company they work for.
    Oct 2 5
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      The Amazon vs Google thing was a joke. Calm down bro😂
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      How can I look down at people from other company when I work for Cisco? Seriously 🙄
      Oct 2
    • Amazon real bezos
      Your explanation doesn’t justify. You making joke on a serious post, more importantly that post being yours, really does make you a troll like one other person commented.
      Oct 2
    • Infosys BRY47
      Well it didn’t come of as a joke. I honestly thought it was a troll post at that point. If you want actual advice, get some hobbies that will involve other single men but don’t do them for the sole purpose of meeting someone. You’ll have better chances for a relationship that way vs OLD. OLD will get you many matches, perks of being a woman, but a majority of them will just want to hookup from what I hear.
      Oct 2
    • Google / Eng GlassBear
      Lol look at these dudes who can't take a joke 😂
      Oct 2
  • Facebook public2
    It's incredible if you are a straight Male as you've found. The quantity and quality of awesome women make bay area guys super lazy. Keep searching and you will eventually find the nice guys when they are between relationships. Apologies on behalf of the gender that so many are lazy.
    Oct 2 9
    • Facebook public2
      Assuming op is referring to SF where the ratio is 5x and not man jose etc where women would never live.
      Oct 2
    • Amazon / Eng prestige🧐
      “i apologize for my gender, m’lady”
      Oct 2
    • Facebook public2
      I don't get it but ya, many of my friends are so lazy wrt dating.
      Oct 2
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      Where are you getting these numbers from? The ratio in some of the smaller cities in the country is way better than Bay Area.
      Oct 5
    • Facebook public2
      Census confirmed by simply looking around
      Oct 5
  • Susquehanna International / Eng Kristaps11
    Did you make it apparent you’re looking for something serious on your profile? It doesn’t have to be super direct but it shouldn’t be completely ambiguous. Otherwise horny dudes are going to assume what works for them.
    Oct 2 4
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Yes I did. My profile stated I was looking for a relationship. Which was why I was surprised. There were other non sexual messages of course. But I specifically stated on my profile that I was looking to date someone in tech. Unfortunately the only tech guys I got were assholes.
      Oct 2
    • Amazon kebab
      So you stopped after 2 guys? Also shouldn’t the dating market be heavily skewed in favor for female in the Bay Area ?
      Oct 2
    • Intel Zumbaki
      Maybe you're not attractive enough for guys in Tech. They may probably have a different image of the ideal woman they would want to get serious with and you DIDN'T fall into the ideality.
      Oct 4
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Yes @intel. I am super ugly😸. That's why I can't find a boyfriend. All the pretty girls have their prince charming and the ugly ones like me are single and addicted to their vibrators 😸😸
      Oct 4
  • Cisco ec20
    Good lord. A woman trying to date in the Bay Area has to: (1) breathe (2) nothing else. This is an obvious troll.
    Oct 2 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      You're obviously living in your head if you think this is true.
      Oct 2
    • Symantec oocla
      You forgot (3) lower her standards. Every average-looking woman in the Bay feels entitled to a 6'2 White tech guy who goes whitewater rafting on the weekends and constantly talks about Big Sur. There is a gender imbalance, but it's not that extreme.
      Dec 3
  • Uber / Eng travis_k
    Meet a guy at church, not on the internet. SMH.
    Oct 2 4
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Atheist.... so no church for me. I will burst into flames 😸😸
      Oct 2
    • Uber / Eng travis_k
      Well, that’s your first problem. You need to find God before you can find a mate.
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      😂😂... yes daddy
      Oct 2
    • Uber / Eng travis_k
      You’re the one asking for dating advice on blind 💁🏼‍♂️
      Oct 2
  • Amazon pattutu
    On a serious note, try to meet potentials through friends and coworkers. Haven't heard any woman meet a date serious guy on dating apps and meetup groups. Most guys especially Indians in these sites are looking for free sex and food. Be extremely careful.
    Oct 2 7
    • Northrop Grumman Tacoabout
      Yassss actually I have 2 girlfriends that met their husbands on Tinder. It is possible. I met mine online also.
      Oct 2
    • Amazon pattutu
      Yes, Tinder does have high success rate.
      Oct 2
    • Workday cfjc7,$&:4
      Free food on tinder how ?
      Oct 2
    • Amazon pattutu
      Sounds contradictory..eh?. Tinder shows you people within x mile radius of ur current location. So, u can date people in other locations you visit. Issue is mainly in bay area, too much anonymity going with 7M population just in sf bay area.
      Oct 2
    • Amazon mmmehhhh
      I met my husband on an online dating site. Married 9 years now. I know other people who have too. In this day and age of transplants and people moving around, online dating isn’t bad. I also met him after several bad, good and meh dates with other guys. Can’t give up after two messages.
      Oct 3
  • Cisco ec20
    Troll
    Oct 2 1
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      You say this all the time🙄.
      Oct 2
  • Apple / Eng MrSwole
    If you can’t deal with false pretenses in the online dating world then I suggest you stay away from that environment for your mental health.

    There are plenty of women in the world of online dating that say they are looking for a casual encounter but really are looking for a long term relationship or marriage. You also have women who are adamant about finding their ‘soulmate’ yet they screw you before the first date starts.

    It’s very easy to wear multiple masks online than it is in person which is why you will most likely be met with deception when trying to meet someone for a romantic relationship.

    What I’m saying comes from personal experience. Your experiences may vary 👍🏾😎
    Oct 2 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Your experience sounds about right. Thanks.
      Oct 2
    • Apple / Eng MrSwole
      You’re welcome. Stay safe ✊🏾💪🏾
      Oct 2
  • Intel Zumbaki
    Well, men are realizing that there is NOTHING to benefit from getting serious with American women. Most American females have nothing to offer other than feelings of entitlements, always nagging, rude, and seeing men as scum and trash. Seriously for men, the juice ain't worth the squeeze anymore! Most of us go on vacation to countries where women are feminine and respectful.
    Oct 4 1
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Feminine and respectful sounds like a plate of patriarchy. Enjoy your dish😌
      Oct 4
  • Google onetechguy
    Ping me lol 😂
    Oct 2 5
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      No way😂. Traumatized by google guys.
      Oct 2
    • Google onetechguy
      I don’t bite, probably fit more in the too nice for most woman category.
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Akkkk://www... ok. Sliding into your DM.
      Oct 2
    • Spotify pirate()
      While you’re at it, you could dm me too
      Oct 2
    • Axtria jyZ82b
      How is someone too nice for women?
      Oct 2
  • PureCars hello836
    (Female here) Dating is hard in other major cities too...I don’t think it’s about the Bay Area... I think unfortunately this is a common thing...
    Oct 2 3
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      It was so much easier and better in Dallas.
      Oct 2
    • PureCars hello836
      Oh really? Interesting. I’m a SF native and just moved back after living out of state for 9 years... (In Atlanta for 7 years). Dating in Atlanta was awful haha
      Oct 2
    • Lockheed Martin / Eng holy shit
      I have trouble here in dallas
      Oct 4
  • Fast Enterprises / Eng nskcjx4
    Damn that’s tough.

    Pics?
    Oct 2 1
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      😂😂.. that's me.
      Oct 2
  • Facebook HoodWink69
    So welcome to the dating game. You’re gonna have to toughen up for starters. A few foul messages shouldn’t scare you away. There are people on these apps for a variety of reasons including hookups and relationships. You can easily delete messages and move to the next. And also to debunk the myth that google men are superior and amazon are dogs - that’s just wrong. People are people regardless of which badge they swipe in the morning. I’m assuming your a new grad so put your ego to the side and handle this like an adult.
    Oct 2 1
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      I don't think Amazon men are dogs😂. But thanks anyway
      Oct 2
  • Northrop Grumman Tacoabout
    Sometimes hooking up is how you find your significant other. Happened to me and several girlfriends.
    Oct 2 0
  • Amazon pattutu
    Now tell me why you would think amazonians would be douche bags and not google?. Amazon employees are not the kind who are after free stuff; we work extremely hard and results oriented. If you become open minded, you might find a nice guy.
    Oct 2 3
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      I don't think Amazonians are douche bags😘
      Oct 2
    • Amazon pattutu
      Then please edit your original post. It irks me especially given how most of the guys I work with are awesome. They may be boring since they are nerds but I would vouch for them any day.
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Yes boss😎
      Oct 2
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    • Google ayUFoundMe
      She's at Cisco 😒
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      😂😂😂.... common, my TC might not be high enough, but I am very well educated 😋
      Oct 3
  • Deloitte / Product
    V.Y

    Deloitte Product

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    Hi There! How can I help?
    V.Ymore
    DM me, and no I won't ask you to hook up on the first go
    Oct 2 8
    • Deloitte / Product
      V.Y

      Deloitte Product

      BIO
      Hi There! How can I help?
      V.Ymore
      Rather not live if it's not dangerously on the edge. What's the point of all the TC in a mundane life 🤓. Jump in, buckle up.. But only if you're up for it.
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Oh a man after my own heart😱. Willing to risk his life for one last rendezvous. Where have you been my whole life ?
      Oct 2
    • Deloitte / Product
      V.Y

      Deloitte Product

      BIO
      Hi There! How can I help?
      V.Ymore
      Life's always a matter of those moments. For the right one, it's worth waiting a whole lifetime. 🙇‍♂️
      Oct 2
    • Deloitte / Product
      V.Y

      Deloitte Product

      BIO
      Hi There! How can I help?
      V.Ymore
      Bruh...
      Oct 2
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      Wow a dick😂
      Oct 2
  • The RealReal weare138
    Try bumble
    Oct 2 1
    • Cisco X.O.X.OO
      OP
      I hear it's worse
      Oct 2
  • Apple WOZ19
    > I spend my weekends reading and cuddling my teddy bear all day long.

    Cute, but that's the source of your problem. You don't find a good relationship by explicitly looking for one through apps or churches or whatever systems other people built. You go out and do activities that interest you, with other people. Make it clear to people if you like them, but never press them any further. Eventually, two such souls will click.

    That's how I met my wife.
    Oct 6 0
  • New Ab44
    Guys on a hookup app wants to hookup?

    Craaaaazy !
    Oct 3 0

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