Dating is hard

Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
Oct 31, 2017 97 Comments

I keep getting matched up with a guy friend. We’ve been matched on match, eharmony, and now I’ve come across him on tinder. The problem is he isn’t into me. So each time I get matched with him, it’s like a stab in the heart. All I want is someone with an English accent and in tech. Why is it so hard? 😜 By the way.. I see him at work every single day.

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  • Uber midpoint
    those two requirements are so insignificant in the overall picture of who someone is! maybe you should expand your horizons
    Oct 31, 2017 15
    • Backplane abysmal
      Date someone in a different occupation. You might not like sports, but finding someone who can introduce you to new things is part of what makes relationships exciting after so many years. I've been married for almost 11 years -- I shared with him my love of opera and musicals, he shared with me his love of baseball and punk rock. Don't be so closed minded.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      It’s obviously not my complete list of items.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Salesforce Baaaaaahah
      Guys actually hate chicks that talk about sports. Especially tech nerd guys
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      See why I like nerds? Haha
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Tinder / Eng
      imacat🐈

      Tinder Eng

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      imacat🐈more
      Well, if you are in the Bay, you will have a lot of options.
      Jan 21, 2018
    • Akamai Technologies / Other Techrulez
      Haha unfortunately, I am not. But I was out there recently interviewing and saw a lot of attractive men on tinder.
      Jan 22, 2018
    • Tinder / Eng
      imacat🐈

      Tinder Eng

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      imacat🐈more
      Ah I see. Good luck then! I think you should be able to find a tech guy on a dating app
      Jan 22, 2018
    • Akamai Technologies / Other Techrulez
      Again, not really. Most of the guys here on the dating apps seem to be “military men looking for a wife to come home to”. It’s pretty pathetic. Or short. So many short guys here.
      Jan 22, 2018
    • Tinder / Eng
      imacat🐈

      Tinder Eng

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      imacat🐈more
      Ah I see, I guess you are in an area without a lot of tech guys.
      Jan 24, 2018
    • Akamai Technologies / Other Techrulez
      There are some. But not like the Bay Area.
      Jan 24, 2018
  • BlackBerry ShittyWok!
    Perhaps you are in denial.
    Dating is not hard, it’s the people on the date who make it hard
    Nov 1, 2017 11
    • BlackBerry ShittyWok!
      Nah. If you think it’s hard then you are doing something wrong. Smoke some pot (it’s legal now) and have something interesting to talk about or go do some fun activity.
      What do you mean by “doesn’t like you like that”?
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      lol. I don’t smoke. I always have interesting things to talk about.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Oracle Pogosticks
      Don’t listen to unsympathetic jerks on here. Dating, especially online dating is hard. Everyone is so judgmental and a bad photo or one slip up in your profile can turn a potential match away.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha I didn’t find them unsympathetic. And regardless of their opinion, I have found dating to be hard, especially since the entire universe is telling me that I need to date my friend (all of our friends and his family) feels the same. But for whatever reason, I don’t do it for him.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • New / Mgmt WiSoSerius
      Dating is hard.... especially when you are focused on your career. I’d say the universe can be wrong (many theories have been disproven) and there is so much that we don’t understand. I’ve been down the path you are currently on and my advice to you is to move on from the “friend” and open yourself up for someone else to steal you. His loss for you “not doing it for him”.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      I am trying to move on. And I was doing that by joining all these dating sites that some how always point me back to him haha. We do have a lot in common though. And his parents love me. So sucks to be him 😝
      Nov 1, 2017
    • New / Mgmt WiSoSerius
      I can help you move on! 😎
      I’m sure once he gets to see you move on, he will realize what an idiot he was.... and it will be too late.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha I’m sure as well. And it is already too late.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • NAVEX Global LndMnstr
      I think dating is hard too. I’m a woman in her 30s who still doesn’t have the hang of it.
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      @lndmnstr the older and wiser me get, the sillier men we date get haha. It’s hard to hone a skill when the subjects are ever changing.
      Nov 2, 2017
  • Amazon / Eng QVHz54
    I feel like the actual problem here is that you have a thing for this friends (why else would it be a stab in the heart?) and he's not interested in you. Am I mistaken?
    Nov 1, 2017 11
    • Amazon / Eng QVHz54
      If he's doing all that, is it possible he's actually interested?
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Nope. We talked. He doesn’t have romantic feelings for me.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Amazon elnuebo
      Sounds like commitment issues or immaturity. Move on, for your sake.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      I know I need to! It’s hard when I try, it all takes me back to him 🙄
      Nov 1, 2017
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      He won't realize you're important unless you move on first.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      I know. I’m trying to move on. I promise! :)
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Amazon / Eng QVHz54
      Is he British and in tech? Is this where that restriction comes from? Are you trying to find someone like him?
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Amazon / Eng SDEEE
      Looks like he friend-zoned you 😂
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Thanks captain obvious :p
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      @QVHz54 no. He’s not British. But he is in tech. The “restrictions” comes from preference. Obviously not a hard rule.
      Nov 2, 2017
  • Microsoft Weeed
    English accent? How about this guy dear Watson?
    Oct 31, 2017 3
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha yes on accent alone!!!!
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Microsoft
      Effie T 🌟

      Microsoft

      BIO
      Goddess of sexual pleasure and other pleasant things. I have left Microsoft and am working at Amazon but, of course, my opinions are my own.
      Effie T 🌟more
      But he looks like Beavis... that’s got to be a deal breaker... 😉
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Uber 6god
      But he’s not in tech... dealbreaker yeah?
      Oct 31, 2017
  • T-Mobile trpn73
    I think it’s essential you find people who have the same value system as yours and who think in similar ways but may have different interests. It’s about quality of conversation and that emerges not only from topic but also from how you engage and how you think. I bet you will love to talk about human psychology ranging from kids to criminals if someone could pose a question that made you think and then took you down this path of curiosity that completely engaged your mind.
    Nov 2, 2017 11
    • Cytel sonicview
      Yes, change to Verizon or AT&T
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      🤣😂
      Nov 2, 2017
    • T-Mobile trpn73
      One problem at a time hon, one problem at a time ;)
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Hahahaha you made me lol literally. I’m a multitasker
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Cisco / Eng Ywrfjd1x4
      Someone is having way too much fun on Blind!
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      First time really using it too.
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Cisco / Eng Ywrfjd1x4
      Lol, good for you! You seem like a fun person to be around perhaps we should chat sometime.
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha let’s do it
      Nov 2, 2017
    • Cisco / Eng Ywrfjd1x42
      Sure let’s. It seems the T-Mobile guy didn’t pick up your cue!
      Nov 3, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Story of my life 😭
      Nov 3, 2017
  • Cisco cuck
    Now you definitely are getting blind matches.
    Oct 31, 2017 5
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha British and geek though!? ;)
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Cisco cuck
      I can be one
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha can be..... that’s not suspicious at all ;)
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Cisco cuck
      Not at all. I prefer tea and brunch.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Oracle Pogosticks
      What a cuck.
      Nov 1, 2017
  • Apple HkunaMtata
    What makes you think you won't have any common interests with someone who isn't in tech? Unless your only interest is tech...
    Oct 31, 2017 1
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      It’s not. But I spend a lot of time working and have found that having that in common is important.
      Oct 31, 2017
  • Oath / Eng
    attittie

    Oath Eng

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    attittiemore
    English people can be real dickheads and look down on everyone. Google some of their public figures. Also most people in the UK do not sound like the TV British accent.
    Oct 31, 2017 1
    • Uber iamsusan
      They totally do. When I was there everyone talked like they do on TV, only even more polite
      Oct 31, 2017
  • Facebook fuTW70
    You should be more specific about the type of English accent you’re looking for or you’ll end up with a Manc
    Oct 31, 2017 3
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      You think that’s a good idea? People are giving me shit for just requesting generic English accent haha.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Facebook olol1234
      Wtf dude. Manchester accent is the BEST!
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha I prefer the Londoner one tbh
      Nov 1, 2017
  • LinkedIn Microsoft
    Are you sure he's not in to you? Maybe he's worried about dating a co-worker.
    Nov 4, 2017 4
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      I’m positive. We’ve had many conversations about it. He’s not.
      Nov 4, 2017
    • LinkedIn Microsoft
      Oh, okay. There's a girl I like at work and I'm too scared to tell her. *sigh*

      At least you guys talked about it. :)
      Nov 4, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Well, I got a ton of mixed signals and finally told him. But my results were not good. My original plan was to just stop hanging out with him so much and move on. I regret saying anything. Now, we are both being weird as shit because he’s treading carefully as am
      I. The working together bit definitely complicated things.
      Nov 4, 2017
    • LinkedIn Microsoft
      Yeah, ouch. I guess that's why they say it's never a good thing to mix office and romance. (or don't shit where you eat, but no idea where that saying comes from lol)
      Nov 4, 2017
  • New / Mgmt WiSoSerius
    Where are you located? No English accent, but in tech!
    Oct 31, 2017 4
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      South Florida!
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Cisco / Eng Ywrfjd1x4
      Why has just happened here? Blind match?
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha nah. Unless they are British and in techn;p
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Cisco / Eng Ywrfjd1x4
      Ok. Good luck!
      Oct 31, 2017
  • CareerBuilder hdTI13
    Stop trying to date people in tech. Opposites attract.
    Nov 1, 2017 4
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      Personally, I don't get along as well with guys not in tech
      Nov 1, 2017
    • CareerBuilder hdTI13
      That's unfortunate
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Facebook / Eng faceboot
      They do, but similarities endure.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      I have dated someone not in tech.. I had to always fix his computer 😏
      Nov 2, 2017
  • WRKSHP / Eng
    You should tease him about swiping right on you 😜
    Oct 31, 2017 3
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha he hasn’t swiped right! I’ve gone on a diet from home.
      Oct 31, 2017
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      Ahhh.
      Well, there are many fish in the sea. Keep fishing!
      Oct 31, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      You’re right! I just need the right bait 😂
      Oct 31, 2017
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    • Microsoft Weeed
      She didn't say a fake accent you wanker
      Oct 31, 2017
  • Uber rfPB87
    Move to London
    Nov 1, 2017 0
  • Cisco cuck
    You will find a ton of indian accent in tech for sure.
    Nov 1, 2017 0
  • Oracle Pogosticks
    I legit found a British guy from amazon and he super liked me on tinder. He even gave me his number after chatting. For some reason he ghosted me the next day, never found out why. Bummed I didn’t get to hear his British accent.
    Nov 1, 2017 3
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      That’s unfortunate. I don’t get that either. Why give out your number just to ghost? At least meet once.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Oracle Pogosticks
      Maybe he internet stalked me and found my naked photos. Jk idk.
      Nov 1, 2017
    • Akamai Technologies / Product Geekychick
      OP
      Haha possible
      Nov 2, 2017
  • Cytel sonicview
    Matched on tinder! Means he swiped right too, what are you waiting for, go and get him 😊
    Nov 1, 2017 0

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