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If you are a native English speaker would you ever date (for the purposes of a long term relationship) a non native speaker? Even if they are fluent, they are unlikely to understand every nuance that comes to people who grew up with the language.
Do you even date?
Use *data* and look at the statistics for the success rate of dating & languages.
He has lots of stolen data
As long as she/he ia fluent, don't run into major communication issues, and you guys can connect well, I don't see it as an issue.
From my experience, the willingness to communicate and empathy are more important to the language barrier itself. I’ve dated many people who speak my mother tongue but didn’t understand the subtleties due to their lack of empathy and incompatibilities and vice versa.
This!
In my experience many non native speakers actually communicate more thoughtfully and they get the subtleties just fine if they grew up with American television ..
But there are certain turns of phrases that one needs to keep in mind to use, to be understood easily by the local American.
Not a native English speaker, but I do find it easier to feel a connection with someone, whose first language is the same as mine. Was it ever a barrier to date a guy? Nah. Language skills is a very basic requirement, and is easy to pass. As long as we can understand each other, talk about topics we both find interesting, then it's not an issue anymore. Language is only a tiny part of a successful communication.
It also depends on your cultural and language background / upbringing. I have been dating for 1 1/2 years, my Thai g/f who speaks Thai (native), but she is also fluent in Korean, knows Japanese and we communicate together in English. Even though English is my native language, I also speak two dialects of Chinese. I am learning Thai and have a deeper understanding of the Thai culture. Is it harder to communicate and are there nuances that make it harder for the relationship? Of course. But sometimes it isn’t the actual words, but the thought and feeling that you are trying to communicate that is most important. It does make it harder, when you want to lean on your partner and vica-versa, that it isn’t as easy to communicate about the situation. It depends on what you need from your partner. If your preferred language is “words of affirmation” (The Five Love Languages), a recommendation would be to also inform your partner, how you want to be communicated to, about certain topics. It is a 2-way street, so be sure be open with your own feelings, preferences, and communication styles. Your partner is taking the extra effort to date you, and it is their second language.
No I wouldn’t date them, unless they had something else to really make it worthwhile. Could be anything, I’m open to ideas. But non-native is a huge price.
Depends on the culture of the non-native English speaker. English speaking cultures are usually pretty open to dating non-English cultures. This is why you see a lot of Americans, Australians, and British dating or married to non-native English speakers (eg. British married to French/Spanish/Polish, Australian married to Indonesian/French/Chinese, American married to Russian/Mexican/Filipino). So the key element here is actually the culture of the non-native English speaker. The more traditional cultures may make it a bit more difficult for dating people outside their culture because their traditions dictate they can only marry someone within their own culture. So native English speakers usually don’t care about language. It is the culture of the non-native English speaker that actually matters.
It is also because in those areas, people tend to be exposed to multiple languages already. (ie. Austrialia, England, etc)
Exactly. Being exposed to different languages and different cultures across generations makes that culture more open to cultural differences.
Are you for real? That's your biggest concern in dating someone?
Not my biggest concern but I think language and communication and all its subtleties are crucial
Yeah, it’s totally unreasonable to want to be able to communicate with a potential mate. Must be racist.