Do you ever feel weird dating people who make 5-10x less than you make? I almost wonder if it’s better to stick to dating people who are on similar levels. I find myself purposely hiding facts that show I what money I make. I almost feel guilty, but not enough to donate my cash. 500k tc.
Don't bring it up as a topic unless they ask, and if they do just give your base. You don't need to give every detail about your tc if you're just dating.
If you are dating giving your base is not necessary. I don’t even tell women where I work unless it is very serious which is very seldom. They just know I’m an engineer working for a ‘stealth company’. If it gets serious they can know where I work but they still don’t need to know anything about my salary. They can do their own research using Glassdoor. All they ever need to know is that I’m an American citizen that is financially stable. 😀
Honestly, I make twice as much in TC as my immediate and most extended family. In most social situations, for the first time, I feel the pressure to establish my blue collar roots creds because a lot of people I know are barely making it right now. One friend of mine talks about hoping for food stamps. Another is pregnant with her third kid, and says aloud she doesn't know how she's going to keep paying rent. And yet, I've been taken advantage of enough that I tend to tune this stuff out. Honestly, not sure how to handle myself when people hear who I work for, and they're like---whoa, you must be LOADED!
Which company do you work for ?
If you live in a high cost of living area, when you get the "oh you must be loaded" comment, you can just tell them that a 1000 square feet house from the 1950s in Palo Alto is like two million, so about 10k in mortgage and property taxes per month.
500k ? l think it is time for me to spell my magic ✨ to make you gay and in love with me 😍😆
🤣🤣🤣
A hole is a hole ✨♥️
Marry me
I try not be a dick.
500k is a good attention seeking number. Well done !!
Thanks. I am trying not to get fired. This is a new tc for me.
I once dated an almost homeless hottie with a kid. TC was not a big deal. We were pretty much in love.
Is she still homeless ? Does she have two kids now ?
don’t leave us hanging man!
I think it's not only dates, but friends in general. Our entire circle makes significantly less and I really feel awkward around them in social gatherings. I end up hiding or minimizing some things we do, like traveling quite a bit, flying business class sometimes. Not to mention owning a nice house while some friends left the bay because they can't afford renting.
I know what you mean. I used to tell my friends about my offers at new jobs, but now that I’m higher than them in magnitudes I feel weird saying it, it makes things feel awkward.
I used to do the same OP. Now I only tell my real TC to someone who is a friend and is in tech. Most people even if they work hard cannot make these TCs in their field. Also no need to tell actual numbers to others. I pretty much lie about it because in my experience they don't stop asking unless you give a number.
You must be women thinking like this
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500k TC at eBay. Am I taking crazy pills? If I'm dating/hooking up with someone who is making substantially less than me, I just end up covering 75%-80% of the meals. I think we're lucky to be where we are. Sure, we worked our asses off sometimes, but we've got it very good and something like 43% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck. Just wear a rubber.
I traded up, I’m not at eBay now. I usually offer to pay for dates. If they insist to buy dessert or something I’ll let them. You are so right about condoms. I am pretty afraid of getting tricked by someone 😶