Dating profiles

Axtria 💗69
Jul 23, 2018 74 Comments

A request to all guys on dating apps:

Can you please stop writing your profession as your description? Are you nothing more than a software engineer? This is not a LinkedIn profile, Jeez! Do you not have interesting things to share?

You guys describe yourself as 'software engineer at Google' and then expect women to not swipe you right for money. Weird.

Regards,
A woman who just started dating in the Bay

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  • Docker H&0
    Yeah, it's not LinkedIn indeed! Post your TC!
    Jul 23, 2018 2
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      How did I not expect trolls?

      TC: $1. Now take that in your a**
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Docker H&0
      Oh wow that was probably the worst roast I've ever read. Keep trying 🤙
      Jul 26, 2018
  • Microsoft Obrigada
    Uptight much? If you can't look beyond a character limited description to find out about a person then you are the source of your own problems.
    Jul 23, 2018 3
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      There are a 100 'software engineers at Google' on dating apps. Don't you want to put some effort to reveal your true self over your profession, to get right-swiped?

      No wonder engineers always complain about not getting laid enough.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Microsoft Obrigada
      I have a partner. I met him by going out and doing things I like in my spare time. My actions reveal my personality and nature over time and lucky for me, I met someone that took some time to get to know me and me him. . I don't believe in trying to be the best version of myself in 200 words or less to try and impress someone I haven't as much as clapped eyes on. You should read blogs from match.com founder to see how impossible it is for a heterosexual man to appeal to a heterosexual woman on dating apps. It's soul destroying. You feel entitled to know the best bits of someone's life before you swipe them out of existence? No thanks!
      Jul 23, 2018
    • SAP Man
      The problem is, a generic title and place of work is not, and should not, be your character. If your entire identity is "Software Engineer at Google", that's pretty depressing.
      Jul 23, 2018
  • SAP Man
    Agreed. People feel the need to build their identity around their title and/or place of employment, instead of building upon their interests outside of the office. I know several people who bank on "Software Engineer" as a panty dropping title because they think it signals intelligence and wealth. Sorry to say, it's not nearly as impressive as you all think it is, especially in a saturated market.
    Jul 23, 2018 14
    • SAP Man
      Why, because I'm the one basing my identity on their employer? It sounds like you need to build more of a personality than "SWE at Amazon", so you have more to put in your dating profiles. Do you wear camo cargo shorts, too? Hold up fish in your dating profile pictures?
      Jul 23, 2018
    • SAP Man
      Are you actually saying Amazon is an upgrade from Google? Hmm... 🤔
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      Gosh, stop you two. This platform is just a bunch of immature engineers who think they have conquered the world just by being in this profession. While most of us would agree that we 'happen' to be engineers by destiny, not by choice. I am sure most of us would switch to a different domain if companies start paying less, just like it happened with hardware engineers, lawyers, architects, and investment bankers. Then why so much pride in being an ENGINEER, be it Amazon or SAP or Google?
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Amazon BeffJezos!
      Keep feeding more bullshit to yourself and everyone just like your company does 😂
      Jul 23, 2018
    • SAP Man
      @69, I'm saying building an identity off of "Engineer", or any occupation, is dumb in general. So many SWEs are autistic and give us all a bad image. Just read this kid's silliness.
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Google YTBs33
    it says google on my profile. I don’t have any problem getting dates, if I want it. They might like the idea that I make good money and it’s a good initial part of the sales pitch, but I don’t need that to keep them interested. If you’re only meeting boring guys, well.. you might want to look at your own profile and behavior.
    Jul 23, 2018 8
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      Gosh, can't believe your logical deduction skills, Google guy. Greater number of matches means greater probability of meeting folks you get along well with, as if that was too hard to deduce.

      I have great matches, in both quantity and quality. But it wouldn't hurt for you guys to learn something.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Google YTBs33
      I see. You’re just a frustrated altruist. How noble of you.

      JIC you didn’t realize it, some of us have tried a/b tested the occupation. If you have a good job, it works better with it, because.. surprise.. lots of women care about a man being able to win some bread.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      Looks like you didn't get my point. The point is not about a good job, it's about making it your identity and trying to find love based on it.

      Guess I am just wasting my time here, trying to explain things to you. I wish you success both personally and professionally. Bye 🙂
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Google Krimmee
      “Just a frustrated altruist” 🤣🤣🤣 YTBs33 wins!!
      Jul 23, 2018
    • EPAM Systems StrngBlnd
      @Krimmee I like your observations! I'm observing your observations on all threads for getting a quick summary.
      Aug 16, 2018
  • Apple VXmr74
    Lol woman, what’s with all the negativity? Feels like you need to stop pointing fingers and work on your own profile.
    Jul 23, 2018 5
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      I have enough guys around me to fuck a different guy everyday for next 3 months.

      You need to learn to take criticism constructively.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Apple VXmr74
      I believe you. There’s definitely a lot of homeless people around.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Staples JGjj71
      Just curious, What's your unique # so far?
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      You count? How old are you?
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Google Krimmee
      “I believe you, there’s a lot of homeless people around” 🤣🤣 I love the comebacks on this thread, OP ur getting rekt
      Jul 23, 2018
  • New / Eng
    ⚽️s

    New Eng

    PRE
    Apple
    ⚽️smore
    Right on the money, woman.
    Jul 23, 2018 0
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    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      Pic will be better
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Facebook
      just a swe

      Facebook

      BIO
      I’m just doing this until my DJ career takes off.
      just a swemore
      Feel free to slide into my DMs 😘
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Amazon Fr00pid
      Oh god 💜69 i do not envy you your Blind inbox tomorrow
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Google / Eng fSqyN91
    I put that I am a software engineer in my profile because even though there's more to me, many other interests and quirks (and some of them I put on the profile too), my profession is an important part of my life. It's something that a partner should know and respect. I write code at work, I write code for fun at home, I probably dream about code at night too, I just can't remember my dreams.

    But I never put my employer's name in dating apps. Or reveal it on the first date. It probably decreases my chances, but I'm a tiny bit paranoid about gold diggers. Or maybe I'm overestimating the general public's knowledge of TC at FAANG?
    Jul 24, 2018 6
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      @Google guy, love this response and thought process ❤️
      Jul 24, 2018
    • Google / Eng badge-in
      lol @Axtria you like the fact that it says "Software Engineer" but don't like it when people write "working at Google"? What kind of cognitive dissonance is this?

      Are you suffering from PTSD from a Google interview where you were rejected?
      Jul 25, 2018
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      First things first. Google is not the end of the world, the way you are presenting it to be. I help pharma companies form their strategies to improve lives of patients, and I love doing that. I can't imagine myself coding all day at Google with no bigger purpose in life.

      Secondly, most guys write 'software engineer at Google' for 2 reasons:
      1. Lure wome to swipe them right. It's a way of saying, yeah I have money and reputation bitch, come with me.
      2. Their identity is their job and company.

      What @fSqyN91 said above is different. Rephrasing him, "it's an important part of my life and something that my partner should know and respect". Calling a profession as an important part makes sense, making it your identity doesn't. Also, I loved his thought process about how he doesn't want to get dates based on the company he works for. I also do not see this guy will look down on anyone if they do not know much about faang/tech (read his last statement).

      I would love to date a guy like him, but hate to be with a guy like you.
      Jul 25, 2018
    • Google / Eng fSqyN91
      @💓 69, you've made a dude blush. I appreciate the compliment and appreciate that you do get where I'm coming from. It's too bad you're in SF and I'm in NYC.
      Jul 25, 2018
    • Google / Eng badge-in
      @Axtria you seem to have an axe to grind specifically with Google. "Coding all day with no bigger purpose in life" that's just sad and laughable.

      As for the other Googler, you do realize that he wasn't saying he doesn't look down upon other people; he's just wary of golddiggers.

      It's cool you feel fulfilled doing what you do (power to you). I'd swipe left in a heartbeat though 🤷‍♂️
      Jul 25, 2018
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    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      I believe you have the option to edit the description always, even if it gets picked up from another socual media by default. If you are in the dating market and you can't make the effort to edit the description, then I am sorry to say that you don't deserve any dates.

      You mean saying 'software engineer at Google' gets you more dates than saying 'An outgoing guy who loves adventure sports as much as reading books'?
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Google Krimmee
    I avoid putting anything personal on dating apps because I’d be too embarrassed if any of my friends accidentally ran into my profile and learned that “I like pina coladas” 🤣🤣

    But I do tell more about me after we match.
    Jul 23, 2018 0
  • CareerBuilder JonDoe1
    We will agree to your demands assuming you and all women agree to eliminate all duck face selfies and questions about whether or not we can "keep up." Do we have a deal?
    Jul 23, 2018 0
  • Uber / Eng
    meowimacat

    Uber Eng

    BIO
    Im a cat 🐈! Meowww...
    meowimacatmore
    What would you like us to write? Just curious, not trying to be argumentative. I am a male SWE that struggles with dating.

    The thing is the market is super hard for men here, even if we write interesting things it won't raise our success rate by much
    Jul 23, 2018 6
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      Uber Eng

      BIO
      Im a cat 🐈! Meowww...
      meowimacatmore
      Yes. I now work at Uber. Despite working at a popular dating app in the past I have had difficulties with dating, I know it's very ironic...
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Amazon Fr00pid
      Aren’t you also “feed me kibbles” guy? And you wonder why you have trouble dating... 🙄 you need to find that very very special woman who is an adult and also into role play — not saying they dont exist, but it’s an order of magnitude harder to find that girl, and then also outcompete the horde of other nerds whose dream girl is also that girl
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      Uber Eng

      BIO
      Im a cat 🐈! Meowww...
      meowimacatmore
      Lol I just do that for kicks, I don't expect a woman who is into role play and I don't do it in real life either. Cats are cool! 🐈 meow
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Amazon Fr00pid
      LOL that thread was pretty random, and I enjoy a good dose of entropy in my life.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      Uber Eng

      BIO
      Im a cat 🐈! Meowww...
      meowimacatmore
      Ya. I'm a bit obsessed with cats 😺. When I get a cat I'll post funny pics of it on blind 🐈
      Jul 24, 2018
  • PayPal !in
    Was writing essays in every app but doesn’t seem to work as I doubt most times if people even read those. You seem like one in a hundred looking to read them. Also every other profile reads, “you could spot me hiking Mount Everest 😆 or something similar in the bay” and honestly I did not find anyone in such spots so gave up on such lousy descriptions (both read and write) especially due to the possibility that one can write I’m always backpacking or hiking every week when comfortably rolled into in their beds or taking a dump. It’s unreal most cases.
    Jul 23, 2018 2
    • New / Product
      nicebot

      New Product

      BIO
      Smash that Private Message button
      nicebotmore
      In my experience, essays can be cut down to a couple of sentences usually. I think there's a lot to say, but really there isn't. Look for the bits that convey your essence. Leave everything else out.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • PayPal !in
      I didn’t mean an essay literally 😊 but I see your point.
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Cisco Hrmphg
    I know right.. all I want to see is height, shirtless pic, and dick size LOL
    Jul 23, 2018 0
  • Staples JGjj71
    This is wierd in a way but maybe not every girl finds that un-welcoming.
    Again are not sure who are in majority -
    Girls who like to like to see that brag or girls who don't like, if everyone were annoyed I am they wouldn't paste SWE @ G
    Jul 23, 2018 0
  • Apple TheCoon
    Sorry to burst your bubble here but I’ve come across hundreds of women’s profiles that have this exact same issue that you’re talking about here. Perhaps this isn’t gender related and just a Bay area trend where tech is more dominant compared to other professions.
    Jul 25, 2018 1
    • Axtria 💗69
      OP
      I see your point, maybe I am just in the process of getting used to it. Thanks.
      Jul 25, 2018
  • Google fmllmf
    Anecdotally, I went out with a girl who said the exact same thing, that she has so many guys to choose from to get laid and that being a SWE at Google is nothing special. She was wondering why I'm acting too confident lmao. She was pretty mediorce, like a 5/10. Why so pissed off OP?
    Jul 23, 2018 1
    • Teledyne Technologies / Eng
      milkboi

      Teledyne Technologies Eng

      PRE
      Nokia, Ericsson
      milkboimore
      Lmao she should go to NYC.. and then see how the roles reverse
      Jul 24, 2018
  • Amazon / Ops JefeBez0s
    I notice a lot of Indian and Asian minorities do this
    Jul 23, 2018 0
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    • CareerBuilder JonDoe1
      MRA here, tread carefully or you'll hurt his fragile ego
      Jul 24, 2018
  • Twitter Yyg8z
    Huh, and who are you to request that?

    Lots of women are looking to be in a family and a guy who makes good money is a plus. Maybe that's what these guys are after.
    Jul 23, 2018 1
    • Twitter Yyg8z
      I have a buddy who's a player. He also subtly shows that he's in tech. Girls like nice dinners, vacations, fancy stuff. He's not after the ones that look for a guy with a good heart.
      Jul 23, 2018