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Dating tips

Microsoft AvTC33
Nov 30

Hey blind folks.

Yeah I’m 24 and I’m guy looking for dating tips. I ended my relationship a few months back and then started my first ever full time job.

So the questions I have..
1. It used to be easy to find friends and meet new people in school. After a job, it’s kinda hard to find a group of people to call friends let alone meet women and date them. Any advice on how to break this loop of aloofness?

2. Since I haven’t been able to form any meaningful relationships post my breakup, I’m questioning myself in almost every area. I know it’s not healthy and I make a conscious effort to avoid it. However, my first reaction is self doubt.

3. The above points has really affected my confidence. I used to be a kinda asshole and arrogant but never lacked confidence. On the contrary, I’ve become shy and seems like I’ve lost self esteem.

For people who like to troll, please let me alone. I’ve put my heart out and want to work on this and make my life meaningful and fun.

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  • Symantec O (1)
    Welcome to Blind. Now you'll get plenty of useless advice from guys who have the same problem as yours
    Nov 300
  • Don't you get Tinder matches ?
    Nov 305
    • Microsoft DeportThem
      I always swipe right. I’m never interested in the matches I get.
      Nov 30
    • Microsoft DeportThem
      Fyi: Indian guy. But I’m 6’0 and *not bragging * kinda ripped
      Nov 30
    • I am a straight guy.
      Nov 30
    • Microsoft DeportThem
      Hahaha that came out weird sorry
      Nov 30
    • New gxqh02
      How ripped Microsoft. Post pics pls
      Nov 30
  • Same boat man. Just want you to know you're not alone. :)
    Nov 300
  • Uber J Leave
    Forget about relationships in your early 20s. Build a robust happy life as a single person.
    Nov 301
    • Google PeepsAlot
      I regret being in relationships in my 20s
      Nov 30
  • U.S. Dpt. of Veterans Affairs / Other😃😄😃meh
    Blind people should create an event and meet in real life
    Nov 303
    • Uber J Leave
      My god that would be an awkward event
      Nov 30
    • U.S. Dpt. of Veterans Affairs / Other😃😄😃meh
      It would be a fun social experiment
      Nov 30
    • Facebook / EngNopeNope!
      It’d be something, alright.
      Nov 30
  • Tesla tXSX18
    Numbers game bro, keep shooting shots! I feel the confidence issue, man u work at a fortune 500 company, you prob went to a good school, you young too, just be you man. Definitely easier said than done, but keep shooting
    Nov 302
    • Google
      JimGordon

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      JimGordonmore
      Nobody gives a fuck about those things (unless you are in India). If you need a job, you are middle class. Doesn't matter you earn 150k or 300k, lifestyle is the same.
      It's more about personality, are you what she considers a alpha (the hotter she is the higher the bar), can you protect her (eg: can you kick ass in a bar fight?), do you connect with each other, like spending time with each other, are you an out going person, do you care for her (or all you need is sex) , lastly will her offsprings be the fittest aka do you have good genes.
      Nov 30
    • Box xjsk
      Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahahaha.. fucking christ bro. Cool it with the redpill shit.
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  • New / EngTTNT
    One tips: MODELS Attract Women Through Honestly. It’s an audiobook on Audible that will teach you to date and find women by showing yourself dignity, respect, and honesty.

    Forget all these idiots saying it’s a numbers game, have some self respect. You will appear desperate and women can see that from a mile away.

    This book goes through values that will help you in more ways than just finding women. For example, not having the need to be an asshole. Not being needy or narcissistic.
    Nov 301
    • Microsoft HURi57
      I actually agree with this! Models approaches dating in a way that changed my outlook for the better. Another similar book is 'No more Mr Nice Guy'.

      OP - invest some time reading and then put those learnings into action. And if you work on your fitness, that can only help. Part of what makes Models a good book is that it doesn't just focus on dating, but on your life as a whole that helps make you more attractive to women. Though I disagree with TTNT about the numbers game thing. Increasing your number of potential matches doesn't hurt, in my experience anyway.
      Nov 30
  • Ness Technologies FkTrump
    This platform is full of nerds and you are asking for help with your socializing problems lmao
    Nov 302
    • Microsoft DeportThem
      I see your point, thanks. Will give reddit a shot as well
      Nov 30
    • Microsoft
      karmabiach

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      karmabiachmore
      Dear Ness, you are wrong lol
      Dear fellow softie, improve your personality
      Nov 30
  • Compass / Eng
    FUPayMe

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    FUPayMemore
    Where are you located? Bay, nyc other?
    Nov 301
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

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      FUPayMemore
      Send me a dm. It’s absurdly easy in nyc. I’ll show you around.
      Nov 30
  • Google PeepsAlot
    Join hobbies where u see the same group of ppl regularly. That’s the easiest way IMO
    Nov 301
  • Amazon / Other
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    AmazonOther

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    Why the fuck do you think I would put any personal information in an anonymous chat app? You seem really confused, @blind
    -more
    Yeah, just like an interview process don't go in desperate for anything.
    Don't overly-invest emotionally in the early stages of a relationship.
    And definitely don't do things because you expect something in return.
    Nov 300
  • Amazon / EngIAmJob
    Work on bettering yourself and your self esteem. Eat better, workout, dress better. Get a nice car. Try and make more money. Your confidence will attract girls.
    Nov 305
  • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
    Older married guy here. What matters is doing what you love (at work and outside of work), having a confident and positive attitude and putting yourself out there. Just like with coding, there are lots of right ways to do this. For some, it’s going to a bar and just meeting people. Or a dance club, ballroom dance lessons, the gym, netc. As long as you’re meeting like-minded people with whom you have common ground, you will find her.

    Just make sure that you take the time to discover what you want out of life and a partner so when “the one” does come around, you don’t squander the opportunity.
    Dec 12
    • Proofpoint / Eng
      No more

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      Symantec
      No moremore
      You look for like minded people and then break or divorce after 2 yrs ,.. people need to ready for compromise and sacrifice from both side.
      Dec 1
    • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
      Of course compromise is important. But having more common ground gets you off to a good start. My wife and I are very different people and very different than when we met 17 years ago. But we continue to forge ahead with common goals, values and such.
      Dec 1
  • Amazon BB!
    Tip #1 Blind is not a good place for dating advice. Beware
    Nov 300
  • Cisco / Engfuckcisco
    Hey man, I’m in a similar boat. 24 years old and broke up a few months ago. Between tinder, ok cupid, and hinge, I’m able to get dates. I think going to raves is another good way to let loose and to get at girls
    Nov 300
  • Nvidia dlee4321
    Join a climbing gym
    Nov 300
  • Proofpoint / Eng
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    Symantec
    No moremore
    I know you r looking for sex
    Dec 10
  • Apple / Eng
    c94087

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    Strong and built like an Ox
    c94087more
    Since you are tall and ripped the easiest place to meet like minded people is the gym. Work out at a variety of gyms then just pick your flavor
    Dec 10
  • Cadence Yikesz
    I think you need to go to places where there are girls. How about signing up for cooking classes, ballroom dancing? Can you sing? Do you play sports like volleyball? What are some redeeming qualities you have?
    Nov 300

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