Dealbreakers in dating?
Been dating this guy for a couple of months, things are going well, I’m comfortable around him and communication is good, he’s sweet and caring, I thought finding someone who’s so attentive in the age that people likes to play dating games is very rare. But recently I realized that because we grew up and work in very different areas (he does paperworks in a traditional industry company) our income level and ways of thinking is very different, I often get impatient and annoyed by the big gap in our experiences in life... I know some people don’t care what their partner does that much or even prefer them being in different field but I sometimes felt frustrated by how little he can relate my work (yet always want to give me suggestions on how to cope with it... I mean if he only listens and not try to jump in maybe I won’t be annoyed..) and the different level of our financial situations. I like to go out and try out some fancy restaurants for example but I feel sorry to do so with him. I don’t know if I’m been too judgemental about this or it is a legit dealbreaker. Thoughts? Would love to get some perspectives.
He deserves better.
Don't come to blind for relationship advice is my thought
Working for Amazon
I'd never date a female software engineer.
Luckily there's lots of male SFEs to date.
Not me. I can thankfully raise the bar a little higher.
Men are generally far more forgiving of massive financial differences when they are the higher earner. Women are generally not. Based on your post, it looks like that is true in your case as well.
Yes. Girls are not used to being better or higher earning than males, so when they suddenly become one, results in this kind of shitty superiority complex.
Sexybeast, the reverse is true for many men too, don't you think? It's unfortunate either way, THAT I agree with.
You are ready for a successful relationship when you can see the other person’s view of the world and empathize. Really empathize. You are not there yet.
Tell him you'll be his sugar mama and spend some money on him
At the end of the day it’s harder to find a sweet caring man and if you have that is half the battle. Remember at some point in both your lives money will come. There are many jerks out there and if he is someone who has the confidence to date a woman earning more than him, he is definitely a Feminist and that is a great quality to look for! Treasure him.
It’s clear that you’re not really into him. There are no perfect people, but you want someone who makes putting up with the imperfections feel worth it. Trust your feelings here. You don’t need us to say it’s ok to break up with a nice guy. You would feel like you’re settling if you stay with him and you both deserve more than that.
It seems like your job is way too important for you. Be careful of that, it will make many aspects of your life miserable (including dating).