Define good looking? What if someone is over weight and good looking?

Apple Farout
May 13 40 Comments

Beauty is subjective no doubt but I have always wondered how do you guys define good looking. Does weight and height factor into it? There are men and women who look cute, well dressed but might be overweight and towards heavier side or short . Do you guys put them in fat bucket or short bucket or xyz bucket but not good looking/beautiful.

Not trying to start the debate on shallowness but just trying to understand how one defines good looking/ beautiful / handsome and how weight, height , body type factors in.

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  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Sorry, but there is nothing beautiful or attractive about being fat / overweight / obese. Fat acceptance is a joke.
    May 13 10
    • Nvidia showeridea
      Did you just fat acceptance shame them?
      May 13
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      If fat acceptance's message can be diluted down to just saying that people shouldn't compare themselves to what's on magazine covers, then sure I'm all for that. But should fat people not be ashamed for being fat? I would argue that they should damn well be ashamed, and that it is very unattractive. Fat is NOT beautiful.
      May 13
    • Google antispam
      I’d argue that you should damn well be ashamed for who YOU ARE!
      May 13
    • Microsoft HudiBaba!
      People get fat for all kinds of reasons. Hormonal Imbalances, Depression, Stress induced eating disorders etc. Even the pretties of girls fail to loose weight after pregnancy. Does this make all of them shameful? Are they all unacceptable? Are they all not beautiful?
      You should be ashamed of who you are and how you think. It's this mentality that has put so many people through body shaming and feel conscious, nervous and ashamed in this "educated" and "open minded" society. Shame on you man, Shame on you.
      May 13
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      HudiBaba: Yes there are many reasons that people get fat, but that doesn’t mean I have to be attracted to them if they are nor should I consider them beautiful.

      Are they bad people? No. Do I hate them? Definitely not. But are they attractive? To me and the overwhelming majority of men, no.
      May 13
    • VMware lmbgggtyr
      @facebook: people can say you are not attractive because of your skin color, height , your shit talks etc
      May 13
    • VMware / Eng gearlt
      I don't want to comment on whether fat people are beautiful or not. But just look someone photos of before fat/fat and which one do find more attractive? It's always the slim one which looks attractive. It's wired in our brains.
      May 13
    • Google antispam
      @Facebook and Amazon: Seriously, don’t you understand it’s not about whom you like? It’s crystal clear that you can like whatever the f&&& you want! Indeed, I personally don’t date fat people and I don’t like being fat too, so what? They should be ashamed since you don’t like them?
      May 13
    • Flagged by the community.

  • Nvidia showeridea
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Especially if you really want a green card.
    May 13 0
  • Amazon Am A Bot
    When my wife and I met she was about 5’4 and 135 lbs, slightly overweight, but she was drop dead gorgeous then: a perfect 36-24-36. After having kids and such her weight redistributed and she was under weight (105 lbs) for a while. If you like boobs or butts, your girl is going to be a bit heavier than the girls who don’t and are more banana shaped.

    My only worry for her has been less about attractiveness and more about health. She was prone to eating disorders when she was younger and I don’t want her or our girls to have body image issues.

    Lastly there are many aspects of beauty. I knew one woman whose voice is so mesmerizing that I ignored that she’s completely obese. There was another who was extremely athletic yet her face looked like a pig, and was repulsive to me. Look at the entire package and you will be able to gauge a woman’s true attractiveness.
    May 13 4
    • Intel / Eng Who.Dis
      The bananas 🍌 are bleeding through your subconscious
      May 13
    • Amazon Am A Bot
      There are real body shapes... and they are really different. The western view of beauty is more banana shaped at the moment in Europe in the 1800s it was curvy, pale and overweight (indicative of being able to have a life of leisure and enough money to indulge when it came to food). Throughout history, the definition of beauty has changed. It’s one of many interesting things I’ve learned from my wife, a history major.
      May 13
    • Intel / Eng Who.Dis
      Truth. Similar things were true in Ancient Greece about wealth and weight. Also, medieval Europeans disliked large boobs. I believe this had something to do with provocation and how the culture perceived it at the time.
      May 13
    • Cadence qwer09
      Word. Something about a girl with a non-native accent and feminine voice for me goes far beyond body shape or looks. It's just so subjective, i find it hard how people think one can objectively rate a face.
      May 18
  • New / Eng
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    High tc compensates for any ugly face
    May 13 2
    • F5 Networks RRA
      If that were true we'd have far fewer posts asking about which dating app to use.
      May 13
    • New / Eng
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      The counter parts may have even higher tc
      May 13
  • Good looking is defined by the appearance of the most well-being or richest people. Want a place where obesity is good looking? Try NK!
    May 13 5
    • VMware lmbgggtyr
      100% agree with you
      May 13
    • Intel / Eng Who.Dis
      ...and Ancient Greece / medieval Europe
      May 13
    • Amazon CiJN18
      Sure, and let me know when you figure out how to get to medieval Europe. You can wax poetic about lost civilizations that loved chunky women. But you can only live and date in the world of today.
      May 18
    • Intel / Eng Who.Dis
      I think the broader point here is that the primary features of attraction change over time and vary across cultures. In America, it is a certain very thin body type. However, Latin America and Africa today trend towards a more curvy figure that isn’t as thin as the American ideal.

      No need for hostile undertones.
      May 19
    • Amazon CiJN18
      Sure, I get that what people find attractive will vary over time and culture. But that won’t help you get a date this weekend. And few people will travel to another continent to be seen as more attractive. I think body standards in the US are mostly unachievable, but it’s what I have to deal with.

      Ps my undertones were meant to be playfully snarky. No hostility intended.
      May 19
  • Microsoft yesterda
    If your forehead says 100 million $ balance , then it’s beautiful
    May 13 1
  • VMware lmbgggtyr
    Most people go with whatever capitalists sell them. For example , by watching actors, models on tv, magazines and since tv glorifies them , subconsciously we relate it with good looking.
    May 13 0
  • F5 Networks RRA
    Part of the issue is that most male software engineers I see around here have breasts. This really warps the beauty standards.
    May 13 2
    • Apple abilities
      Funny and true !! Most males in coding have a reverse V shape :)
      May 13
    • Qualcomm dynasty001
      Its called moobs
      May 13
  • Cadence qwer09
    In the US at least, it's driven by mainstream white-majority standards of beauty. E.g. Chinese/asians racial characteristics don't commonly have as prominent jaws or nose shapes as whites and they get short-changed. For US women, an average white guy is considered much more attractive than a chinese/indian considered average in his culture, all else being equal.
    May 18 1
  • Amazon CiJN18
    I like curves on a woman. But I won’t date her if I can’t pick her up.
    May 17 1
    • Amazon Am A Bot
      That’s actually a pretty good rule of thumb.
      May 17
  • Apple abilities
    Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. For me (as a male) I don’t mind overweight as long as there is not excessive cellulite 🦵
    May 13 1
    • Qualcomm dynasty001
      Baby 👶 imma rub that bodyfat all over you yeah !!!
      May 13
  • Some look good when they are fat. You are lucky marry her . Most won't date them since they are fat. So you will be free. After marriage take her/him to gym and after the weight lost she is all yours .
    May 16 0
  • Amazon ChivalryAF
    Definitely having a nice butt and breasts along with having a symmetrical face. I think most women (and men) can put in the effort to look good so no excuse.
    May 13 0

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