RelationshipsNov 16, 2019
Newaksbw

Did something crazy!!

Ok, this is crazy. I’ve been living with my (ex now) girlfriend for the past two years. For several reasons, caused by both of us, the past few months have been particularly challenging. Unfortunately, her way of expressing frustration is through extreme anger and verbal abuse, and I’ve been victim of it for a while now. Last night a very minor quibble escalated to a major scene of verbal abuse, where I was called “major piece of sh*t”, “I never hated anyone more than you”. all her scenes cause very hurtful and demeaning things to come out from her mouth. I have my faults but something I am very proud of is that I never insulted her or been verbally aggressive. I am always calm in my communication. She then said she was probably going to her parents for a few days because she couldn’t stand seeing my face, and since her parents live very far away from her work and she is the leaseholder of our apartment, I told her that I would just move out in the morning, so she wouldn’t have to leave her place. She said “fantastic, can’t wait” and went sleeping on the couch slamming doors multiple times. It also clicked on me during the night that I really don’t want to be verbally abused, I feel I deserve respect, even if I care about her. So, first thing this morning I packed up all my stuff, filled my car and I’m currently wandering around San Francisco finding a hotel for a couple weeks, hoping to find a permanent place in the meantime. I have no family in the area so it’s a bit rough, I hope I’ll manage. She texted me if I moved, and i responded I did, just like I said last night, because I couldn’t stand being verbally abused anymore and victim of that anger. her sister texted me that she is at her house crying histerically. I feel bad but I’m not going back, she had many opportunities to stop me. What a fucking day

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Uber mgktupac Nov 16, 2019

Glad you grew some.

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kamstrik3 Nov 16, 2019

What TC did your girlfriend offer?

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aksbw OP Nov 16, 2019

Much less than mine. But it didn’t matter to me.

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Probably mattered to her

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Whoa. Good for you!

Facebook 11040206 Nov 16, 2019

So what did you do that was crazy?

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aksbw OP Nov 16, 2019

I have no close friends or family in the area. I am literally a homeless overnight!

Amazon KHCr70 Nov 16, 2019

Seriously good for you. This cannot be said enough. Victims of domestic abuse aren't always women, and men that suffer it aren't 'weak'. Stay strong with your decision and dont go back. Give at least 2 weeks before you engage with either her or the sister

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ieig64 Nov 16, 2019

What you did is not crazy at all...

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aksbw OP Nov 16, 2019

I have no close friends or family in the area. I am literally a homeless overnight!

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Being homeless is usual in SF not crazy

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gg7jc Nov 16, 2019

She sounds crazy but congrats

Box ☕🐈. Nov 16, 2019

She sounds like she has more than a few issues. I know it's hard, but please don't go back to this abusive woman. Hang in there.

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scheme Nov 16, 2019

One more homeless in the SF area.

eBay PWbn34 Nov 16, 2019

You will look back in a year or 2 and be really happy that you did that. Imagine you being in a situation where you guys decide to get married have kids and this continues on you and your daughter or son. Will you let anyone in the world say those words to your kids?

LinkedIn U💰S💰D Nov 16, 2019

You lived with her for two years. I feel that you can’t just disappear one day.

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aksbw OP Nov 16, 2019

I told her multiple times that I would just move out eventually if things didn’t improve with respect to us handling conflict better. So, this was really just the last straw, and she had 16 hours to officially stop me, and she knows that I usually mean what I say.

Neurocrine try-catch Nov 16, 2019

Warnings are not usually how you handle conflicts. If she has been calling you often, it means she is worried about you. I think you are just enjoying the thrill of doing something crazy. Wait till it fades away and you miss her. Why do you expect her to stop you? If someone wants to stay, they will, they shouldn't be giving warnings and then waiting for the other person to stop them. I hope you find better ways to resolve your conflicts. If you can not, I hope you guys separate peacefully and mutually.