Do not find anything enjoyable

May 30 23 Comments

34 yo, married, don't find anything enjoyable. Work or home. Physically un-co-ordinated and socially awkward. Don't like being with anyone. Feel completely unmotivated with every, feels like running away. Anyone felt like that before?

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  • Pure Storage NowOracle
    Drink lots of water and eat vegetables. Go rock climbing. Clip your toenails. See a therapist.
    May 30 2
    • Credit Karma 🀐_πŸ’£
      I do 3/5 things mentioned. Rock climbing and therapists are boring.
      May 30
    • Pure Storage NowOracle
      Rock climbing is very fun once you increase finger strength. Therapists make you happy.
      May 31
  • New / Finance MWSt70
    Depression, burnout. Talk to a therapist.
    May 30 0
  • Twitch / Biz Dev Riw948f92
    Feel the same. Thought about renting a bike and riding around the world. But felt worse when I realized that my problems are going to stay the same when I come back and I would have even less money :(
    May 30 1
  • Uber pcGG42
    Anhedonia. Exercise more. Eat well. See a therapist. See you doctor. It can be treated but you need to commit to take action.
    May 30 0
  • New / Eng hellllooo
    Talk to a therapist. Contact your insurance provider and ask them to refer you. Tell them exactly what you have written here. You sound like you have depression. Speak to a medical professional.
    May 30 0
  • Twitch / Biz Dev Riw948f92
    I dunno about this whole gym thing. For a while, ie 2.5 months, I went to the gym twice a day. Rotated through all muscle groups and ran, even went on keto for the heck of it part of the time, and did the whole shabang. Came out with abs but felt more depressed. And then was like... Wtf am I doing? Then quit.

    I now have a six pack in the fridge but not on my tummy. Im not happier or more depressed. So I don't think gym has to do with anything...
    May 30 3
    • New / Eng hellllooo
      Overdid it. Twice a day is nuts. Try 3-4 times a week. Or just go walk for an hour.
      May 30
    • Twitch / Biz Dev Riw948f92
      Honestly it was fine when I did it. Morning was weight lifting and night was cardio. After a while, it honestly felt normal.

      But my mental state remained the same. Felt depressed that I was going nowhere in life.

      Then came to the realization that exercise doesn't help when your life is messed up. So I stopped
      May 30
    • New / Eng hellllooo
      I see yeah. Doesn't solve big problems but for me it's very helpful for low level stress. If I'm in a bad mood and go for a run it helps. Also helps me if I'm bored it's something to do.
      May 30
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    Chasing TC is what makes you that. Sorry!
    May 30 1
    • Credit Karma 🀐_πŸ’£
      TC is the unspoken rule of postings on blind. Just for fun. I quit work for long time to see if yearn to earn more was the issue. It was not.
      May 30
  • I used to feel the same till last month. Then started to hit the gym regularly, spend more time with friends and enjoy life a little more. Feels much better now. The routine was getting into me.
    I’d say find a new personal goal, (not professional) and try to accomplish it. Work to live, not live to work. Screw TC. Doesn’t really matter anymore after certain point.
    May 30 0
  • Google Naxnax
    Lol @ uncoordinated.

    Hit the gym and become useful. Im sure your wife doesn't appreciate the physically uncoordinated
    May 30 0
  • Amazon wIkP76
    Do physical workout/gym. It helps
    May 30 0
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    Therapy and meds.
    May 30 0
  • VMware iterator
    I too feel the same OP, though these days LC and interview preparation keeps me going.
    May 30 0
  • ViaSat / Design mark1650
    Like others have mentioned, gym time helps. Do something that makes you sweat. The more the better. Find an interest/hobby.
    May 30 0
  • Intel Pointless4
    Do you not like spending time with your spouse? If not, I think that’s the bigger problem than a job. Maybe try doing something random and fun together?
    May 30 0
  • Amazon profastian
    Same
    May 30 0
  • Wayfair olYP50
    Yeah welcome to life. Go see a counselor and get yourself right. Life's ups and downs can be shitty
    May 30 0