Do u ever stop loving ur ex? Even after ur marriage?

Amazon queop
Feb 10 30 Comments

No trolls plz!

Want to know if true love really exists?

comments

Want to comment? LOG IN or SIGN UP
TOP 30 Comments
  • New plasma
    There's a saying, "love fades with love". The next person you'll decide to have a relationship with, hopefully after you've learned your lessons from the mistakes of your previous relationship(s), will make you see and better understand all the reasons you were unhappy with your now ex. Learning is a journey in and of itself. It won't be easy but there will be better days. Try and stay positive.
    Feb 10 0
  • In my case it's more like. "Do you ever stop hating your ex"
    Feb 10 1
  • New New.
    No, I never stopped loving my ex. It's been years since we broke up, I dated a few other people in the meantime. But my first long term relationship still remains special to me.

    Sure, there were ups and downs. There are arguments and good times. There were differences. But I never found something like that again where there was genuine care, love, respect, empathy, and acceptance, where we understood more than we said.

    I genuinely wish my ex all the happiness and success.
    Feb 10 6
    • Twitter / Eng kindbucket
      You need to find better people to date
      Feb 10
    • New New.
      Trust me, I have so many people around me to date I can't count.
      Feb 10
    • Twitter / Eng kindbucket
      Quality over quantity
      Feb 10
    • New New.
      Correct. It's tough to find quality people. I am picky, and I am ok being that way.
      Feb 10
    • PayPal / Eng = O(1)
      People tend to be more open when it comes to first relationships (significant others, friends, bosses, colleagues, etc.). Once we‘ve learned how others can hurt us, lie to us, manipulate us, we tend to give little less chances to the ones that follow.

      This protects us from others to hurt us but also prevents others from truly entering into our lives.

      That’s why we remember our first loves with such passion, because we also miss how good it felt to blindly trust without thinking that much in the “what would happen”
      Feb 10
    • New New.
      Yes, I agree with you 100% @Paypal. I think that's exactly the reason that relationship is, and will be, special to me because it was my ex's first relationship as well. So we both gave our 100%, became a part of each other, and loved unconditionally. But after the breakup (and a few others), I have become very cautious about who enters my life, how much details I share about myself, and how much time/importance I give.
      Feb 10
  • Snapchat mmmMMMmmk
    True love exists, but it’s neither singular nor constant. You should separate your memories of your ex from the person. Unless your actively involved with your ex now, your “love” is actually nostalgia of the past.
    Feb 10 0
  • New / Product
    JaLf25

    New Product

    PRE
    Microsoft
    JaLf25more
    After many many years. And when you meet someone even more awesome
    Feb 10 0
  • This comment was deleted by original commenter.

    • Amazon queop
      OP
      He is engaged while I am single
      Feb 10
  • Chase fxJk28
    You’re getting one-itis my friend
    Feb 10 0
  • Salesforce tensorchic
    You will always love your ex. True love isn't supposed to be with one and only one person. You are capable of loving many many people. Marriage isn't only about love. It's also about sharing goals, family, future, obligations. Sometimes people's lives don't align. It's no one's fault. With time you'll understand this.
    Feb 10 0
  • Amazon lolwhat
    Ask your wife
    Feb 10 0
  • Amazon babymakes5
    I was still in love with an ex while I dated other people. I never forgot but I did get over it. Breakups require exponential backoff for time to heal them. If you encounter the same kind of heartbreak from someone else, it all comes roaring back, so be careful that you don’t repeat mistakes.

    As for moving forward, aim for unconditional love not “true love.” Someone who you find attractive, finds you attractive and will love you unconditionally, flaws and all—that’s the dream.
    Feb 10 1
    • Amazon babymakes5
      You make a good point. I was imprecise in my wording; of course unconditional love should go both ways!
      Feb 10
  • Cisco Xox
    Don’t ever try to date to purge your ex from your mind. You’ll end up hurting an innocent victim trying to save yourself from your past. You need to be single and grow as an individual. After this you can pursue love when you have the capacity to accept your partner as themselves and give them the love they deserve. Otherwise the ghost of your previous relationship takes over.
    Feb 10 0
  • Amazon
    betterfly

    Amazon

    PRE
    Amazon
    betterflymore
    Love is a state of mind that can change any time ... even if it was your first experience, it will stay special but it can be replaced if you are in a relationship that satisfies you more than your ex.
    Feb 10 0
  • Uber bigersmal
    Suck it up and move on
    Feb 10 0
  • PayPal / Eng = O(1)
    Despite what everyone says here, the only remedy for love is hate. If things ended badly then, like most people, you will hate them instead.

    I honestly believe you never really get over true love. It does not depend solely on you, that deep connection was created by two, it’s not yours to tear apart.

    PS: if you want to “get over” them, try to find ways to hate them. You won’t stop thinking about them but you’ll convince yourself you are over them
    Feb 10 5
    • Twitter / Eng kindbucket
      Bad advice
      Feb 10
    • PayPal / Eng = O(1)
      Maybe not if he/she is about to get married
      Feb 10
    • Amazon babymakes5
      The best remedy is not to hate them. It’ll come out as bitterness and other potential partners will avoid you.

      If you truly love someone and still do, the best remedy is to not just be happy for them but to want what’s best for them, even if it’s difficult and/or not what’s best for you.

      As my wife says, “love expands to fill the space you make for it.” Taking my advice will expand your capacity to love even more the next time around.
      Feb 10
    • PayPal / Eng = O(1)
      I totally agree with you @Amazon and, as someone who still has strong feelings about an ex, I’d say that this is still caring/loving :)
      Feb 10
    • New New.
      Agree. Accepting that it didn't work out between you two and wishing them best is better than keeping grudges or hating them for things they did to you. Everyone has their own reasons for why they behave a certain way or do certain things to you. You may or may not understand those reasons.
      Feb 10
  • Lockheed Martin / Eng
    zVdH

    Lockheed Martin Eng

    PRE
    Lockheed Martin
    BIO
    Communications engineer
    zVdHmore
    I haven’t been in any long term relationships but I still think about the girls that have rejected me in the past, and the ones I sorta rejected by not calling them anymore. It’s strange that the human brain is wired this way. But probably the best thing to do is to focus on the present and move forward.
    Feb 10 0
  • Twitter / Eng kindbucket
    Not married but I definitely don’t love any of my exes anymore
    Feb 10 0
  • Microsoft bing0
    I hope so. I think you do after a while
    Feb 10 0