Do you ever worry that you might not make a good mother/father?
Women in their late 20s / early 30s, do you think about what kind of a mother you will make? Me and my SO have been together for 8 years and lately I have been thinking about it all the time.
I come from a loving family and had a very secure childhood. Growing up I always had access to my parents emotionally. By this I mean that I don’t remember my mother snapping at me, getting angry, or being depressed. I am doubtful if I can provide the same environment to my children. I was a very balanced individual till maybe 3 years ago. But now the increasing pressure and responsibility at work, issues with my parents have started taking their toll on me.
I don’t think I can afford (for various reasons) to take a break from my job or switch and I don’t think the “maternity leave” is enough. Your brain only allows you to make a certain number of decisions a day and if you spend 50% of them at work I wonder what is left for home. I have a loving SO who helps with household chores but I don’t think he understands what the first few years of having a child is like. As life progresses so do the complications like work pressure, aging parents, etc.
So what do you all do to combat this? How do you guys make sure you are always emotionally available to your kids?
YOE 7/TC 150k
edit: I guess this is applicable to both father and mother.