Do you have a happy family? Do you think it affects the way you date?
Did you grow up in a happy family? Do you think the relationship between your parents has a influence on your dating life? If you have an unhappy childhood because of family dramas, how did you feel better overtime? My parents got divorced after a 25-year marriage this year. It was horrendous and saddening to me. My dad started cheating on my mom on and off since I was 6 years old. My mom didnt get a divorce that time because she still needed my dad to pay for my tuition. There were always fighting and arguing in the house. I was under domestic violence for several years. I became insanely insecure and I have trust issues with almost everyone. The situation got better when I was in high school because my dad decided to come back to the family and not cheat anymore. Then last year I heard not only did he start cheating again, but also wanted to run away with another woman and I dont think he had plans to ever see me or my mom ever again. I told my mom to get a divorce. And she did. But I still cant believe everything just ended so quickly. This marriage was probably already dead in the beginning but I kept telling myself that it could get better someday, it would get better someday, my parents would solve all the problems and we would be happy again. But no, everything was just a lie. I guess once a cheater, always a cheater. And it affected my dating life and Im always so insecure and I can hardly trust people I date (Im sorry for the negativities here. Just wanna vent tonight.) TC: -♾
Or take the opportunity to become a philosopher
We all carry some baggage of our parents. My parents fought so much as a kid; I wish they had taken a divorce. My mom was so unhappy, although now she denies since my dad is no more. When people or my mom ocassionally say I am like my dad, I wince, feel like horrible. He had several positive attributes; but on many ocassions only remember the yelling, fights, anger. I do have this fear that I will turn out to be like my dad. My option wasn't on the list - " I am single, I look forward to marriage one day. My parents were unhappily married"
This. I feel the same way. My parents are still together. Fighting day in and day out .the only thing which helps them is staying in different rooms. I don't want to get married, thinking what if I end up like them. Every small fight I have with bf makes me correlate it with a fight my parents have. I don't know if it's normal or not .but that's how I feel
Fighting is fine- at least you’re talking. It’s when you don’t fight or talk and resent each other. That’s when it’s pretty much over.
Read that first as "Do you have a happy family, does it affect your affairs" 🤦♂️Made sense once reread it lol
Where is the option for "Unhappily Married".
Add an option for. I'm single and not too hopeful for a happy married life and my parents are in unhappy marriage.
I have never seen my mom and dad in happy moments from my very early childhood. Dad used to get Drunk almost everyday and start abusing my mom. Saw all this shit for my entire life, till I got married. I used to dread when it gets late evening, and anxiety would creep in when I would realize my dad was coming home from office. It has scarred me tremendously. Now that I am married, I still have anxiety issues and it has definitely affected how I behave and react with others. The amount of damage parents do to your upbringing is irreversible.
Marriage is one of those outdated ideas that people pretend it still works in this post modern age.
It is logical for parents to stay together when it comes to raising kids in stable environment. That’s common in animal kingdom too I think. Obviously, if the marriage isn’t working it’s better to separate for their own and kids sake.
Agree with Apple