Do you wish you were the opposite gender, and why?

Mar 29 72 Comments

Mention your current gender and answer.

I am a female and I seriously wish I was born as a male. (no, I don't want to change my gender now). I think guys have it easy in life in almost every aspect, they form longer lasting friendships, they can f.ck without getting emotions in their way, they can travel without being concerned about safety, they don't have to worry about periods and childbirth, they don't have to spend much time on their grooming, they are physically stronger, they achieve higher professional success, they are emotionally more stable, and so much more. Please tell me if you think otherwise.

Of course, I am talking about the median population and not outlier men/women.

P.S: This is not a sexist post. I am curious to hear others' opinions and question my own.

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  • Google e5
    I am a male and I think males have higher highs and lower lows than women, in terms of life experience..
    Mar 29 10
    • OP
      Please explain. I think this is true for women, not men.
      Mar 29
    • Google e5
      I guess it depends what "high" and "low" means to us... But let's focus on what I mean when i say lows. Men typically receive less sympathy than women. Like during war, women and children may get spared but not the men. Nobody says "spare the men", its "spare the women and children". Men get murdered at a much higher rate than women. More men are homeless than women. More men are incarcerated than women.

      Of course much of it is self inflicted. So i just mean that men are given the opportunity to a wider range of life experiences than women.
      Mar 29
    • Expedia Ytdj51
      That’s bs
      Mar 29
    • Google e5
      I think because we are in tech, in a first world country, we forget about the lows of the human life experience. I do admit women have a disadvantage in our "high-class" society and that we should be equal opportunity.

      Just something to think about. I grew up with some immense parental pressure to succeed, which none of my female friends seem to have experienced. None of my female friends got beat as a kid. I don't mean just a slap on the wrist I mean like I got bruises that made sitting hurt. I think it's pretty rare for women to have these specific experiences.

      There are things that women don't understand about the negative aspects of the male experience. The inverse is true as well. Men don't realize the harships of being a woman.
      Mar 29
    • Expedia Ytdj51
      Ya but in shitty countries where there is the war issue, women are sold into sex trafficking, have no respect or rights. I’m not saying we men don’t also have issues to deal with, but I’d much rather deal with issues as a man than a woman any day. They have it tough
      Mar 29
    • Google Bor
      Haven't decided if comment above is true or not but here are a few examples of where it seems true to me.
      More men having to go to fight in wars worldwide.
      Less prestigious jobs on the low end like trash picking, sewage fixing, plumbing, janitor.
      More homeless men than women.
      Harder to get Visa to other countries.
      Harder and longer to get granted asylum and refugee status.
      Harder to get laid.
      Mar 29
    • Google Bor
      That said I still think on average men have it better than women.
      Mar 29
    • OP
      Agree about the wars. But would you rather be killed in a war than be sex trafficked? I would chose the former.

      Men were doing all kinds of jobs - less or more prestigious. How many women leaders have you seen in major acquisition and merger decisions? Or how many women pilots? Women were treated as sexual or beautification objects (air hostesses, luxury car ads, strippers and dancers). Men took the real jobs, if that's what you call it.

      I believe there are 2 aspects in a relationship - sexual and emotional. Men are more inclined towards sexual and women towards emotional. It's tough for a man to get laid, it's equally tough for a woman to find emotional support from men.
      Mar 29
    • Google Bor
      I'd rather die at war than be sex trafficked as well.

      Women being behind in those roles is definitely a big disadvantage and they have a lot of catching up to do.

      Emotional support can be obtained from friends and family and historically that is where it was provided. Getting laid doesn't have as many providers and historically had been provided by a spouse. So I don't think these equate.
      Mar 29
    • OP
      I never thought about your point about providers but it seems right.
      Mar 29
  • Google / Eng ysysxyvu
    I heard someone made a memo at Google stating that men and women are biologically different, and he was fired
    Mar 29 7
    • OP
      Wow. It's difficult to state an opinion or have a healthy conversation nowadays without being tagged as racist, sexist, etc. You notice how I added the p.s remark in my post, I wouldn't have done that a few years ago.
      Mar 29
    • Facebook netgar
      What does that have to do with work? 🤔
      Mar 29
    • Google Indian cat
      Incorrectly put. He put a memo saying the biological differences make women unsuitable for software jobs. His supporting arguments regarding unsuitability of women were bullshit, and that's why he was fired.
      Mar 30
    • New PLover
      Did he really say “unsuitable”?
      Mar 30
    • Google Indian cat
      Yes. He mentioned there might be few exceptions, but majority of women are unsuitable for jobs which require reasoning, because they are driven by emotions.
      Mar 30
    • OP
      I have had people say this to me in real life, that women are not suitable to be a lawyer. They won't give a fair judgement because they are driven by emotions. He later brushed it off as a joke but I wouldn't be surprised if he actually believed that and brushed it off just to avoid getting into a soup.
      Mar 30
    • Facebook netgar
      Thanks for the context Indian cat. That didn’t make sense at first lol
      Mar 30
  • Indeed rage a lot
    Both sexes have their advantages and disadvantages. You listed a bunch of advantages for being a man, let me list some disadvantages.

    We have to sign up for the draft at 18. We are more likely to be victims of crime. We get punished more than women for the same crime. Most homeless people are men. Men also lose custody at a much higher rate than women.

    Since the last few years, women have outpaced men when it comes to degrees, women get more resources(especially in tech) to compete against men.

    Now I’m not complaining about women or men. Both sexes have their advantages and disadvantages. Just how the cards are dealt.
    Mar 29 6
    • OP
      Why do you think most homeless people are men?

      And not to sound rude, but don't you think women genuinely should get the child custody, unless she is a drug addict or incapable of taking care of the child?

      Yes, women are growing professionally but it has been a long struggle for them. We still have to prove why we deserve that next level, why we can be good at cars, why we can be a good manager, why we can excel at sports, why I chose to work/not work, why I am genuinely angry and not pmsing, and so much more. Guys don't have to prove anything. They can walk life at their own pace and have their own priorities, I believe.
      Mar 29
    • Google PageRanker
      Women live longer.
      Mar 29
    • OP
      But women have higher health issues than men. Men grew up more active, playing sports, unlike many women.
      Mar 29
    • Activision Blizzard VEjO58
      As a man I think men (including myself) tend to make poor life decisions and can be more reckless. Ex: eating and drinking shit. Being more risky to impress others..thus lowering their life expectancy.
      Mar 29
    • Adobe / Eng mmkgdu
      Dude if you are eating and drinking shit you have problems. Rice is cheap, you can eat and drink it and the risk of dieing from it is way lower
      Mar 29
    • OP
      @Activision good point about bring reckless and not paying attention to what they eat. I find women to be more responsible.
      Mar 29
  • Oath xxxcd
    I wish I can experience child birth. Periods, not so much.
    Mar 29 12
    • Dropbox pu5h33n
      Do you have any idea how traumatic child birth can be? Some women have to re-stitch their v back up. They wear an iced diaper to control the pain and bleeding for weeks after. Reading https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/9hzlya/women_who_have_given_birth_whats_something_no_one/ was quite eye opening for me.
      Mar 30
    • OP
      This is scary 😨
      Mar 30
    • Oath xxxcd
      Hm 🤔 people seem to assume I never experienced child birth. I guess I need to clarify that I don’t have first hand experience, but I was in the room when my wife gave birth to our son. I watched her bleed and poop. I cut the cord with my own hand. (The cord is surprisingly difficult to cut. My first attempt didn’t cut through)
      Mar 30
    • Intel / Eng DonaldDD's
      Just take a sh*t ton of calcium pills daily. Then you can pass kidney stones and experience what tearing your urethra and d*ck is like
      Mar 30
    • Oath xxxcd
      Is that with epidurals injection of fentanyl? Are you all arguing without first hand witness of the birthing process? Pain is less of a problem than the exhaustive process.
      Mar 30
    • Intel / Eng DonaldDD's
      Does your wife have the opinion that pain wasn’t an issue?
      Mar 30
    • Oath xxxcd
      She’s afraid of the needle. Her only complaint was that she should of taken the shot sooner. I have a cousin said she was playing Candy Crush during the whole process 🤷‍♂️ But that was when she took the drug right from the beginning. These modern opioid drugs are a miracle.

      The birthing process is not as scary as the media tries to portray. But that does not means the whole pregnancy process is easy. I think the whole 40 week process could be more difficult than the few hours process.
      Mar 30
    • New / Other
      BayNomdChk

      New Other

      BIO
      Currently working at an SF startup. Past: One successful exit.
      BayNomdChkmore
      Oath, you do know that they don’t inject fentanyl with the epidural, right?
      Mar 30
    • Oath xxxcd
      Oh yes they do. I read the name from the pouch myself. It’s the first time I heard the name and so I looked up Wikipedia immediately after.

      https://americanpregnancy.org/labor-and-birth/narcotics/
      Mar 30
    • New / Other
      BayNomdChk

      New Other

      BIO
      Currently working at an SF startup. Past: One successful exit.
      BayNomdChkmore
      Dang. My B oath. Didn’t realize they started using fentanyl in epidurals. Helluva drug.
      Mar 30
  • Adobe VFne54
    Grass is always greener OP.
    Mar 29 5
    • OP
      Please elaborate
      Mar 29
    • Google e5
      OP you clearly think the grass is greener on the male side. Whether it is or is not isnt the problem. It seems like you have some resentment built up inside of you, and living with that resentment will hold you back from experiencing life. Obviously we all need to vent sometimes, but I recommend not doing it on blind where you're likely just going to get more pissed off. I totally think women have it worse than men in first world country tech industry. But I don't think the solution is for women to be "manlier" or for women to complain about it. I think women should embrace the differences that make them unique.
      Mar 29
    • Charles Schwab milkdud
      Quit complaining about other people complaining.
      Mar 30
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      Quit complaining about people complaining about other people complaining.
      Mar 30
    • OP
      Peace
      Mar 30
  • Uber
    2muchblind

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    2muchblindmore
    You’re a man, you fail in your career — society acts like you failed at life.

    You’re a woman, you fail in your career — sucks, but you can just marry a wealthier guy. Especially if you’re attractive. We all know lots of examples like this.

    Men tend to “marry down” and women tend to “marry up.” Both racially and economically.

    Ironically, if you’re a woman and “too successful,” this could be perceived as a threat to male ego or emasculating. It’s harder to “marry up,” but of course still possible.

    But overall — yeah, we live in a very pro-male society, where women have to both fend for themselves as well as birth the next generation of human beings. Plus spend an hour every morning putting on makeup.
    Mar 30 0
  • Nutanix hmbsjc1
    I wake up every morning, stare at my erect penis and thank the Creator I am male.
    If I was a woman I’d probably check my vajayay every morning and do the same.
    Actually if I had DD boobs I’d probably never leave the house!
    Mar 29 5
    • Amazon sprung
      You can probably achieve the DD boobs as a man if you stop exercising and adopt a 4000 calorie a day diet. Never leaving the house could then become a reality for you for a different reason though...
      Mar 29
    • Facebook netgar
      Lmao that’s funny I do think if I had a penis it would probably be fun to play with and I’m not gonna lie sometimes I wonder what sex is like for you guys lol. But I love being a woman!
      Mar 29
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      @facebook that was exactly my point. Love who you are.
      If you’d like to play with a penis, you can always DM me baby.
      @amazon if I wasn’t exercising I wouldn’t have an erect penis every morning.
      Mar 29
    • OP
      @Facebook I also wonder sometimes what sex would be for a man. When I go to strip clubs with my guy friends, I wonder how much fun they would be having and how I would have felt as a guy.
      Mar 29
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      I feel bad for you young ‘uns. Back in my day I got so much boom boom I didn’t have the time to think about these things!
      Mar 30
  • I'm a man and happy to be a man for some things and wish I was a women for others. For example, woman have it easier in tech nowadays. Every company want to hire you for being "diverse".
    Women also don't have to always impose themselves and be dominant in order to get something in the social hierarchy.
    They being said I'm happy I don't have to worry about my biological clock and knowing that I need to have kids by 40 at the latest.
    Being a woman I think also you get more sympathy for a lot of things.
    Being a man is wonderful but as other have said, when you fail, absolutely noone will help you and will be left alone to decay in the street because you are a man and you are supposed to take care of yourself
    Mar 29 3
    • Cisco meowwww
      Women don’t have it easier in tech at all. They leave at a much higher rate and have to deal with a million things men don’t
      Mar 30
    • Jet.com mzxc82
      You sound like you live in a different world. Women never have it easier in tech lol.
      Most of women engineers I know have experienced sexual harassment at least once and left their jobs just because of this. Wake up man.
      Mar 30
    • It is more difficult for women to get into tech initially, but once they are in, they are constantly being pushed up. There are also some bad guys that make it difficult of course. I have several female engineers friends that are all pretty clear that they are using the current climate of female-power as a huge lobby for advancement in their career. It is a HUGE advantage.
      You should take a step back and think about this. Wake up
      Mar 30
  • Salesforce plu
    Women get to retire younger relative to their life expectancy.
    Mar 29 2
    • Dropbox pu5h33n
      Men in tech can make enough to retire in their 40s but unfortunately society expects men to work hard til 65.
      Mar 30
    • Cisco meowwww
      Men make more $$$
      Mar 30
  • Microsoft Romuald
    Women are so much more beautiful than men!
    Mar 30 1
  • Oracle gasket
    Males are also more likely to be victims of violent crimes. More likely to be incarcerated. More likely to die in wars and more likely to commit suicide. In case you were wondering...
    Mar 29 0
  • Google Indian cat
    I am a man, and I am happy and thankful I am not a woman. Women just have to suffer a lot in today's world. Feminine characteristics don't get a lot of value in today's world.
    Mar 30 1
  • Intel geek chick
    Totally hear u sister!
    Mar 30 0
  • Oracle YAengineer
    Just gonna add my 2 cents - thinking about it, it seems like questions like these arise whenever we compare our lives with others and sometimes see that the other person is getting it easier than you do. More often than not we try to justify such things on something uncontrollable (gender in this case) and reiterate to ourselves that “grass is always greener on the other side”. The reason we feel the grass is greener on the other side is because in most cases it actually is, and someone fucking had been watering it. Water the damn grass and you would start breaking these cages that your minds put themselves into. Apart from motherhood I barely see any big differences. Spending less time on grooming is something that men choose to do. Again nothing about gender I believe explains longer lasting friendship. Emotional stability differences seem way too contrived. Say a lie enough number of times and it will start sounding like truth.
    So, see through the bullshit or better yet analyse it. And still if you feel it effects you, then you know what to do. Water the damn grass!
    Mar 30 0
  • Microsoft shambu
    As a man of different race, yes. But as a woman, never.
    Mar 29 0
  • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
    I'd rather not be a man. Women live longer. I think some men are great but I would prefer to be myself.
    Mar 30 3
    • Salesforce 👋 .
      Since not all years are lived the same, it really depends if you want to spend more years with bad health or call it quits.
      Mar 30
    • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
      That's true but women tend to get a decade or more over men on average.
      Mar 31
    • Salesforce 👋 .
      5 in the US, 4 in Canada
      Mar 31
  • Facebook netgar
    No. Never. But I’m not mad at the men who want to be women. It’s lit.
    Mar 29 0

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