This is an update to my previous post. Brief description: married to a psychopath woman. Took me 10 years to understand that. One more to understand the topic and to start making changes. Half a year for resistance which escalated with her hitting me with a bottle in my apartment and me calling police. Divorcing, going through hell. 1. All the charges against her were dropped. 2. She filed DV case against me. So far I won two cases against me and a third one is coming in two weeks. 1. Perjury is bullshit. I showed that she lied many times, nothing happened to her. I have a video of her lawyer lying in front of a court - nothing. 2. Contempt of court is bullshit. Judges and commissioners don’t respect themselves and allow not only lies, but also to file the same case second and third time. Police don’t respect them. They appoligized twice to me when were coming to my apartment with papers. 3. Seattle is unconstitutional. Double jeopardy is against constitution. Nevertheless I was charged with exactly the same case three times. 4. You’ll pay if you’re a man. It doesn’t matter if you’re right or not. They made me pay psycho salary every month that she is using to continue trying to destroy my life. I was rejected with compensation after false accusations. I have no idea what is ahead. Perhaps more hearings and more money spent on defense until I get bankrupt. Very close to it. If anyone has a legal background I would appreciate any advice on what could be done. My divorce lawyer told me “you’re a man, you’re fucked up”. My hairdresser told me a story her client told her. He broke up with a girl. She persistently called him and asked him to come visit her. He came, she called the police and told them he bit her. I met people who told me that I’m in one of the “women states” and it doesn’t surprise them. Do not move here if you’re a man. Get out if you’re a man. If you plan to divorce - get out and divorce in another state. Let evolution work and let them die off.
What does this have to do with living in Seattle?
Next time try not hitting a person with a bottle. Or not hitting at all.
How did you even graduate elementary school with your reading comprehension?
Ha ha. Totally agree with you @op (salesforce). Go back to elementary school @amazon.
Well since you are a man you are totally screwed. I would suggest don’t marry again. However, the final decision is yours. This world is totally in favour of women.
You don’t have to marry to get screwed. See my example with hairdresser. Plus in such states they also treat domestic partnership as marriage. So your advice doesn’t work.
Yes you are right. I just feel that you are more likely to be screwed if you are married. I was not aware that domestic partnerships is treated same as marriage in some states. Pretty horrible.
Are you off the hook if she marries someone else?
I used to believe in it, not anymore. It is not about money only. She tries to file criminal charges against me and I have to defend myself again and again and again. This is illegal, unconstitutional and it is happening to me. This is much worse than money issues.
You have to file a motion to stop. Judge can approve it or not. I’ve seen what judges do here.
It seems that you were aware that things were really going south leading to the time of the incident with the bottle. Why did you not call a personal injury lawyer when she hit you in the head and sue for 4th-degree domestic violence? https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/washington-fourth-degree-domestic-violence-assault-lawyer.html I believe that the statute of limitations to file for PI is 3 years. You should be able to pull the police report when you called the cops for the incident. Consult with your divorce attorney to see if they can refer you to a PI attorney that specializes in spousal battery cases.
I was devastated when this happened. I felt guilty. She was arrested and spent night in jail. I saw her in cuffs. Trust me, if you’re normal - you’ll be crushed. I felt so shitty I wrote to the court and asked them to forgive her and give her second chance. I feel stupid now, but it is what it is. Why do you think people stay in abusive relationships? There are many psychological reasons to that. And she was sued by the city with 4th degree. And thanks for the suggestion, I’ll consult regarding filing it again.
I am not a lawyer but you mentioned that the city does not honor double-jeopardy anyways, so even if they already sued her for 4th degree assault, you may still file. Talk to a PI lawyer and see if you have a real case. She is taking you to the cleaners anyways and seems hell-bent on destroying you, so go into this not for revenge but merely ask the lawyer if there is a way to shock some sense into her to cease and desist her attacks.
I feel so sorry for you man. Keep fighting for your right.
This sucks. That is divorce, in other states too. If she doesn't make much money, you end up paying a big chunk of your wages for ever. There is a red flag you indicated with your own lawyer "You're a man, you're fucked up" If I had a lawyer who doesn't believe he can fight well for me, that lawyer would get fired or and get a better one. Get another lawyer and good luck.
Do you think a prenup would have helped?
Sorry for you man. If push comes to shove, just donate all your money to a good charity and run away to Yukon and live off grid. Serves that pos right.
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Sounds like MGTOW just got it's latest member you'll be over it and with a decent broad in a year or two.
I don’t like ideology of MGTOW. I still plan to remarry and have a normal family.