My partner's driving habbits are making me nervous. I am trying to talk to him he is saying it doesn't make sense so i will ignore it. He did not cause any accidents, has been driving us around which i so appreciate from him. But he is doing high risk moves in the highways, not giving enough following distance at times. Its making me so nervous, he is not accepting any feedback as he said stop commenting on my driving.
He sometimes drives at 80mph and i get nervous and suggest not to exceed 72mph on highways even if its empty. He is not open to that again doesnt make sense to him. Also on stop lights and red lights he gets too close to the car in front of us like 2 inches close. Its making me nervous and he is saying it doesnt make sense everyone is super slow anyway but the rule is give space until you see the wheels of the car in front of you, i like going by the rules on roads. It kinda makes sense but whenever we do not follow the rules I get nervous.
He grewup driving like this. He is so opinionated. I lived in Scandinavia, best thing i learned from them was to obey the rules, they have very low corruption, must be related. My partner hates it when i get nervous. This is the only issue in our relationship. Otherwise he is a wonderful person. And i love him.
Since most of you are men maybe you can emphatize how I can talk to him. I might even suggest going to a couple counselor and have him hear other point of view. Or drive the car myself, then he starts commenting on my driving like a duello. His family admits they go nuts when he is on the steering wheel. But i do not want to involve them.
When our kid and dog are on the car I am a bit more anxious. It is ruining our weekends.
Sounds like you have no trust in your partner. This is something to look into.