There’s this guy at work who I thought was being nice to me cause he genuinely wanted to be my friend and viewed me as a human. Then eventually I realized all he cared about was getting in my pants and just viewed me as a sexual object. On multiple occasions he’s gotten blind drunk at work parties, sleazed on to me and totally disrespected me. Then when I call him out on it the next day, he denies any wrong doing because he was drunk. I hate how he thinks that being drunk absolves him of responsibility and the need to apologize. Now I’ve stopped being polite to him in work conversations, and people are noticing. Now I’m worried someone will call me out on my impoliteness. I know the obvious thing to do is to just keep acting normal around him. But I hate how he expects no consequences and expects women to keep treating him normally after he treats them like shit. What should I do?
This is not cool, and sorry you’re going through this. I’d talk to HR. Do you have people and/or texts that can back you up? I would expect Uber in particular to be very sensitive on the topic given the things that happened there before.
He has a reputation for being abit of a sleaze. Unfortunately my texts show evidence of me calling him out - and him denying it all, so it doesn’t back me up. Also - I’m worried even if I do HR, he can easily twist the story to say that I welcomed the advances and make me look like the evil one.
Da fuq? Is this still happening at Uber? Definitely not ok and you should take action.
Tell HR.
Maybe consider slapping him with a fish on the spot. It’s not cool to be complaining next day and being impolite at work, it’s unprofessional
What? So she is the one being unprofessional by calling him out for his bad behavior rather than him for being bad in the first place?
Calling out? Nope, she’s just being cold to him. It’s not the same. If his behavior was bad enough she should have dealt with it on the spot.
What if he replies "OK, your wish, Parking lot is fine"?
Switch teams and don't stop ignoring him
HR. Considering how things have shifted a bit for women, its enough to tell someone your story so they can record it and have a conversation with him. The odds are in your favor that at the very least someone will hear you and look into it. Don’t be surprise to learn this isn’t the first time. Men like that usually have a track record.
If this guy gets drunk and acts inappropriately. Report him. Inebriation is no excuse.
Tell your manager and hr right away. There are no consequences if nobody knows!
Unfortunately work is work. You have to at least be professional. That however doesn’t mean harassment is ok and you should consider HR.