Existential question

Intel KTPu74
Feb 11 25 Comments

I am 36, w 7 YOE at Intel in AZ. Grade 8 TC around 200. Ashamed by the TC of FAANG lot but getting by.

Wife has faculty offer from a university in a high COL area ( think Seattle kind of area, but with much smaller tech scene). They don’t pay much, something like 150, barely anything for a high col area.

I am thinking of my options. Should I move to my wife’s place and get whatever job I can; we can be middle income with total income around 300 and cruise through rest of our life with Honda cars and cheap vacations.

Or should I try to break free of Intel and try the high flying jobs in Bay Area. I am in software engineering, have been doing leetcode for a couple of months , and feel that I can get into the game.

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    • Intel KTPu74
      OP
      I feel stifled in Intel. Back when I had joined , it had very good quality people at least in the couple of teams that I worked in. Most good people have left or are leaving , so I have no choice but to leave. Question I am mulling is , should I follow my wife and her dreams or create a new dream for myself. Both can’t happen , hence the existential question :)
      Feb 11
    • Google / Eng Mr Glass
      Never settle for someone else's dream if you can help it 😉
      Feb 11
    • Honeywell / Eng
      buc

      Honeywell Eng

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      bucmore
      Does that advice apply to wife as well?
      Feb 11
    • Google / Eng Mr Glass
      Yes, and husbands as well
      Feb 11
  • Oracle badTrump
    Move with your wife. Get her that sweet tenure. Don’t get into the rat race in Bay.
    Feb 11 2
    • Intel KTPu74
      OP
      Is tenure sweet ? How about the money ?
      Feb 11
    • Google / Eng Mr Glass
      Money and financial Independence is the true tenure
      Feb 11
  • New / Eng sparked
    200 TC in AZ is ~300-350 in BA so don’t sell yourself short; not saying you can’t bump up your TC at all but you’re definitely not underpaid by any means
    Feb 11 0
  • Microsoft yubxsv
    Exactly, this is definitely the top 5% income in Arizona. And u can safely retire in 10 years
    Feb 11 0
  • Microsoft yubxsv
    What’s ur total house hold income in Arizona?

    In Arizona, 200 is pretty darn good
    Feb 11 0
  • Amazon newgradhel
    Is 300k total household income middle-class income?? With how much minimum wage workers getting and others in not-as-demand fields earning, I think 300k is a pretty good TC for a family. You make it sound like you'll be scrapping by.
    Feb 11 0
  • AZ 200 is bay's 500
    Feb 11 1
    • American Express / Eng
      GoJava

      American Express Eng

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      GoJavamore
      It's more like 280k for a single guy and 320k for married couple. 500k in CA is 300k after taxes.
      Feb 11
  • American Express / Eng
    GoJava

    American Express Eng

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    GoJavamore
    Try Amazon in Tempe. You could get 240k+ at sde2 and 300k+ if you have great interviews.
    Feb 11 3
    • Intel KTPu74
      OP
      I contacted Amazon recruiter and they are hiring for positions in Seattle only ... how do I find positions outside of advertised locations ? Any help is appreciated
      Feb 11
    • American Express / Eng
      GoJava

      American Express Eng

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      GoJavamore
      Look on Amazon's career site. I found it that way.
      Feb 11
    • Microsoft Omni
      What’s the location you are moving to?
      Feb 11
  • Amazon tYhgX
    Wtf u on about? You have great income and a blessed life.
    Feb 11 1
    • Microsoft yubxsv
      True that. 200k in Arizona is pretty darn good living to begin with
      Feb 11
  • Amazon / Other Froogle
    Someone making 200k in Arizona can demand close to 400k/year (maybe more) in San Francisco. Location, location, location
    Feb 11 0
  • Indeed Dooku
    If both your wife and you agree that being a faculty in a garbage university is a higher achievement than being an ic at Intel, then you should move with her. Otherwise tell her to cool it.
    Feb 11 1
    • Intel KTPu74
      OP
      This is a good point. What do you suggest if we have a difference in opinion about this core question ? Also, how would you judge money vs sense of achievement?
      Feb 11
  • Apple OFOM41
    How important is this job for your wife? If you chose to not follow her and come to the Bay Area would that potentially mean a long distance relationship or end of your marriage?
    Feb 11 1
    • Intel KTPu74
      OP
      It’s very important to her. If I move to BA , we will be in a long distance or she will try to get a job there ...the question is should be settle for a semi retired life with little ambition for me and some for her . Or should we take the plunge into high stakes game.

      We are in mid 30s, so no spring chicken either
      Feb 11
  • Amazon jacksap
    200k In AZ-dude!Retire already
    Feb 12 0