I didn't expect this post to be featured under "trending topics" but I am very humbled and grateful for all the nice things you all said here. You made me feel better and see things from different perspectives. Hope you all succeed in life because you're all awesome! Thank you!! 😊🤗👍🏼
Hey everyone, last Friday I learned the project I was working on had ended. Thought I'd go onto another but today my boss told me this was the end. In full honesty, I felt relieved that project ended because I was feeling burned out, but leaving the org altogether stings. I'm going for my Software Development bachelor's in hopes of switching from my non IT career into the SD world, but no experience in coding yet.
Anyway, I was hanging on fine until my husband came home and we had a major argument about this, which started with me saying that now I'm in full search mode and moving to another city might be a path since there's not much here in Las Vegas for tech. He just got a director promotion so I get the reservation but we moved to Vegas years ago because of his job in the first place. I think the things he said hurt the most beacuse of how important he is to me, like my best friend - but with a very unsupportive approach this time, made me feel terrible about myself.
Does any of you have gone through this or something similar? I obviously don't want to move if I don't have to because we just bought a house but I also can't sit and deplete my savings/401k while nothing happens here. I'm torn between focusing on my career, including a potential move for the right job and risking other things or whatever else... I obviously am looking everywhere around here but whether it's in my field of exp. or switching to a entry level SD role, nothing happens. Our finances are separate and relying on his income isn't a possibility for him nor for me.
TL DR = do you choose your career over your marriage? Do you have to choose one or the other? Why not both? It's so unfair.. 😔
TC = doesn't matter since I'm making the switch.
I'm sorry you are in this position and there's no right answer anyone can give you - only you know what you can live with