Alert: this is a pure ranting. I felt desperate and unhappy all the time, I felt like after undergrad my life has been always taking losses here and there. Went to a less ideal grad school Got a lowball offer with underpaid TC Got into house market in the wrong timing (interest rate rising, market cooling) I feel really depressed about my life :( Once upon a time I felt successful in my high school and undergrad, but now those days were gone, I gradually became an underdog :( Sorry for spreading out negative energy, feeling myself getting worse and worse in my life is just so depressing.
Stop comparing your life with people around you, who don't even care for you. I was in your state a while ago. The only way to get out of this is to appreciate little things in life and get some perspective of what's important and what's not. TC 170k is low? Compared to who? Talk about timing the market? I have friends who bought a house in July 2008. They are still waiting for the market to catch up to the high they went in. Life is simple. If you want happiness look at all the things you got. If you want inspiration look at the things you want. If you look at the things you want and get greedy or depressed, you are doing it wrong. Life is too long to measure it against the money you got and too short to enjoy the beauty around us. Go smell the roses!!! Cheers!!
Thank you..You're right, I must be comparing too much with peers which makes me feel insecure. Wish I could give you a hug in person
I'm not new grad nor am I in Bay Area...Snap's HQ's in LA
Dude, 80% of people feel the same so cheer up.
As PayPal said, most of these items depress you because you're comparing them to something else. Had they been standalone without knowledge of "what-ifs" and "could-bes", you'd probably be perfectly content and only care about whether or not you can survive. You're making quite a lot of $$$ compared to the majority of Americans (not to mention the world) and you actually have your own roof to live under!!! And less than ideal grad school? No one cares after the first recruiter quite frankly. I hope it was the education and experience you got out of it that defines you, not just a name! Sometimes I think these set backs and "failures" are a good thing because it 1) prevents one from getting too proud of their successes and 2) always reminds you that things aren't really bad all things considered -- people are experiencing much worse elsewhere. And finally 3) this just means there's a constant motivation to improve your own fortunes.
Thank you, I could sometimes be a bit too proud of my past self that made me *feel* like I'm different. I hope I could convert my frustration into, like you said, motivation to achieve personal development and eventually bigger fortune. Thank you.
What are troll! You should get an Oscar for trolling
So, you make bad decisions repeatedly and then experience buyers remorse. Gotcha.
Yes, except I don't know how to stop making bad decisions. Maybe I should be more cautious making life-changing decisions? I felt I've done enough research and preparations yet things did not go well all the time.
Figure out what you can change (job, house) Make peace with what you canât (school) Proceed appropriately. Cheers.
Housing isn't a short term investment. Don't worry over a 10-30 year period you'll be fine. Even if your house's value stays flat you'd likely be saving money with a house over rent. There's a reason many say buy a house as an investment in oneself
Tc ?
Welcome to blind! TC stands for total compensation
I had a good manager who once said to me âlife is too short to be miserable. If you donât like it, change itâ. Now understand what you CAN change or have influence over is important. And change happens slowly, so patience is going to be key while you are being persistent towards changing.
Lol there is so much trolling on Blind
This is not trolling...if you think otherwise could you please stop commenting?
@Ltnwd32 was talking about himself đ