First thing, go on a vacation, reward yourself. Start eating clean, lift weights 3 times a week, run, meditate, start getting in touch with your old friends and adapt at least one healthy habit e.g. tennis, basketball
Not just school to work it can happen anytime in life. With breakups it’s common to get into depression. Get help (see a doc) if it’s getting worse. It’s easy to give blind suggestions, but keep making new friends and hangout more. That may definitely help.
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Ive been considering the samething, that being happy alone first is important, but apparently we’re social beings so that explains the need for company
Meetup group bhi try karlo. Many people experience this
Making friends is hard. PC / snowflake work environment makes everyone act fake at work. Add to that cultural differences where cliques stay together. Work used to be a great place to socialize and even date!
Yeah. Nothing makes friends faster than slapping a few biatches in the ass and name calling some minorities in work place. /s
Go to a therapist and start taking vitamin D and get one of those LED lamps. Sleep better. Get a dog. Get a higher TC. Travel, go home and see your family more often. Exercise more. It sounds like you’re depressed and still grieving the relationship. These two things can coexist and exacerbate each other. At least work on the depression which can be a chemical imbalance. Seattle can do that to people.
1) I’m suggesting it could be chemical imbalance caused by lack of sun light hence the light therapy lamp and vitamin d. I went to east coast recently and felt much happier and right when I flew back and saw clouds in Seattle and it got dark at 4 pm I felt blue. The lamp simulates more sun. 2) Mental health professional, can be any kind of therapist like a psychologist or social worker. You can start with a cognitive behavioral therapist or you can go to one that specializes in break ups or self esteem. What I’m saying is seek professional help and talk to someone about your issues.
It sounds like you are depressed and in turn it is caused by a lack of self-confidence and life satisfaction. The interesting thing is that you can not really find happiness anywhere but within yourself. Rethink what you value and go for it.
1 word: workout. It worked for me very well. I dont see a reason it wouldnt work for you. Chase specific body image goals, get your calories under chexk, read up on macros and shit. Chase that greek bod. Give it 2 years. 1 year in youll be out of depression . Source: me
@apple. Wow ! What a thoughtful response. We need more people of your kind.
I’m in that phase right now, I’m hoping switching job and location will help me. At least for a bit.
Putting a goal for myself to switch job to a better one made that feeling to be less painful since I have hope and I’m working on myself (leetcode) to get a job so I get less time to feel lonely. Maybe if you put a goal for yourself for the next few months, maybe get in shape since you noticed you are gaining weight. That will help you mentally and also could open your eyes to other things.
How do you switch jobs when you're lonely and have no self worth? (asking because I'm somewhat lonely and definitely have no self worth)