Feels like our marriage is dead-ish; don’t wanna spend time at home
We’re 26M/F, married for two years, known each other for eight. I’ve been working in tech since graduating, whereas she goes to school part-time (no work auth).
My wife and I have been recently arguing about stupid things. What started this chain of events is that one night I didn’t get home from work until 730pm (I usually get home by 7 and let her know when I leave the office so she can have dinner ready). This time, when I let her know that I was stepping out of the office, apparently she had already finished cooking everything, and when I got home she was absolutely pissed that the dishes she spent two hours prepping for and cooking were now cold. I had a tough day at work as well and broke down in tears for the first time in years, and we didn’t say anything to each other for the rest of the night.
For the next few days, she complained that she had trouble sleeping and that she was getting depressed and received no love from me. Overall, our time together at home became awkward, and that somehow increased my “resentment” towards the situation or even her, because I’d really appreciate the after-hours to unwind and chill.
As I switched to a new team recently, I have lots of new tech I’d like to get my hands on. Given that we aren’t going well with each other anyways, today I let her know I was going to spend my afternoon at the office, and guess what - she got furious again, complaining that I don’t spend any time with her, and that I don’t care about her at all and simply treats her as a servant/roommate.
Honestly, with her recent negativity, I’d rather work 80 hour weeks than staying at home and dealing with this. She’s now out “walking around” after doing the same complaints to me with our apartment door open, while I’m fixed to my chair thinking how the fuck I got outta this situation or whether we’re actually over. I’m starting to regret our marriage...