Started having feelings for a friend (were not super super close though). Positive that she is developing feelings for me too. Not sure how to make the move / if it’s worth it. Anyone else had a similar dilema? TC: 295K @ Uber HQ
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Sting of regret greater than sting of rejection. Be a man and tell her you like her.
Once you’re in the friend zone, there is no escape. Don’t confuse her being “nice” with feelings
too rigid thought process and belief system 🙄
@amazon found the guy in the friend zone
Show her your TC
Trip to Kauai on you, easy
Kauai is indeed amazing
Although I've always wondered why there were so many chicken walking around in public and there's nobody eating them. I asked a local, hey, why don't you eat those chickens? She answered, well cause they walk around all day and thus don't taste good. I be like... Make sense make sense... Wait... Wait a minute here... Didn't you just describe a free range chicken. Aren't those things really expensive?
the 3 biggest wrong feeling. 1. i can beat him/her, 2. she/he like me, 3. my phone is vibrating
If you’ve been friends for a while then you’re deep into the friend zone and she’s just being nice. If you’re really that positive she likes you too, then talking to her about your feelings should be easy.
How positive are you doe
Don’t just swoop in on her or make a grand statement. Test the waters, perhaps by holding eye contact just a little longer than usual, or make a joke about you two being good together and see how she reacts. Subtly create a few more opportunities for something to happen without being creepy. Invite her out more often, in groups or just the two of you (but not alone or in a date setting). If she likes you, she will naturally want to see you more and will appreciate this. If she starts coming up with reasons why she doesn’t want to, take the hint and back off. Is she generally a confident person with dating?
The human courtship ritual is so lame. Why can’t we just ram other dudes with our skulls or stick our asses out really far and waddle around? Why we gotta make this so awkward and complicated?
I think there are a few clubs where you can do that! Seriously though, the best things about being human all come from the richness of our psychological and emotional life. More complicated, but also more rewarding. As individuals we have complex webs of desires and needs (including those pesky second order volitions e.g. I want to date this guy but don’t want to embarrass myself/be called a slut/put in danger etc).
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TC too low to do this bro, improve TC first
Only 1 real YOE tho
Thus says Cisco dude?