We took our 1 year old at the time to Au’lani (Disney resort) and it was great. You need to measure your expectation of what a “good time” means - obviously you aren’t going to go zip lining with an 8 month old strapped to you but you can hang out on the beach, try new food etc.
We liked that place as it had babysitters so we could do our own thing at night.
1. Kauai is chill and a good place to go. 2. I'd say it's 50/50 whether or not to go with an 8 month old. I did a number of flights with a kid from 4 months to 1.5 years old. Mostly it sucks pretty hardcore. Like others say, have low/different expectations for your vacation. 3. Recommend giving zero fucks about what these other people are saying about kids on planes.
I do not recommend traveling for pleasure with kids, when they are a bit older, take fun exploring type trips. Bring kids for trips (Grand Canyon, Alaska, that kind of things), leave the kids at home when vacationing (Hawaii, Bahamas, South of France, etc.)
I mean it depends on the kid and you as well, but personally with any of my kids at 8mo, no. We did Disney at 1 with our oldest because Grandparents really wanted to do it, it sucked, not very fun at all.
Hawai’i is a family friendly place to travel. Yeah it’s work to take the plane ride, rent a car and generally go out with kids but you gotta take vacation. You just need to adjust how you go out to accommodate.
That time is was Kawai, iirc. It generally requires less driving. But I'd check all 3 islands (never been to Oahu so cannot say anything about it), and just choose whichever I get a better deal. Yes, you won't be able to do multi hour hikes etc, but still, plenty of ways to enjoy quieter vacation as well. Have a good trip!
Went to Oahu for a week with my 9 month old . Traveling can be a quite challenge since it was our first time traveling with a baby but vacation is a vacation. Bring the baby, have fun and enjoy the present.