Got a better job offer but I’m pregnant

Yahoo preggo
Jul 17 40 Comments

I just received a job offer from a better company, and salary is much higher than my current place. My problem is that I’m 3 month pregnant. I didn’t tell the recruiter or the hiring manager about it (not feeing comfortable to tell people yet). Will it be a problem? I will only have 6 months to work then will need to take maternity leave. Anyone know or have some experience about this? Will it reflect badly on me?
Thanks in advance!

P.s: I haven’t accepted the offer yet because I’m still torn about this

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TOP 40 Comments
  • Affirm 91!
    Take the job. If they have a problem with that, it’ll reflect badly on the company.... not you.
    Jul 17 1
    • Affirm 91!
      Which is, incidentally, illegal, but that doesn’t stop it from happening of course... at worst you can name and shame if they do.
      Jul 17
  • Cruise Automation leakybkt
    How about you just let them know. I don’t see what you have to lose.
    Jul 17 12
    • Nutanix 1adja134
      Why is it bad advice? What if she joins and then firing happens because she’s taken pregnancy leave? So now you have a new bundle of joy but you’re not entirely joyous because you lost your goddamn job.
      Jul 18
    • Nutanix 1adja134
      What is the point? You want to be compensated? You understand post-pregnancy period is stressful as it is right, now you have to worry about lawyers and court?
      Jul 18
    • Amazon / Eng @>_
      So the better alternative is to just risk losing the offer and getting nothing at all?
      Jul 18
    • Nutanix 1adja134
      What do you mean nothing at all? She already has a job. What she needs to do is to look at more inclusive companies that give good maternity leave.
      Jul 18
    • Nutanix 1adja134
      The stress of court and lawyers is pointless when you’re trying to take care of your newborn. Don’t even bother with the company.
      Jul 18
  • Amazon / Eng bdhfhrkfbb
    I know someone who took up a new job when she was 6 months pregnant. She faced no issues. Go ahead and accept it.
    Jul 17 0
  • Don’t fucking feel bad for doing your part in continuing the human race. Fuck them all to high hell if they think otherwise.

    It’s also super illegal for them to discriminate based on pregnancy. Lawsuit waiting to happen.
    Jul 17 1
    • Yahoo preggo
      OP
      Your comment made me laugh. Haha
      Jul 18
  • Yahoo preggo
    OP
    Thank you so much for all the replies! You guys are awesome! I was pretty stressed about it. I will follow the advice and take it then tell the manager about it during my first 1 on 1
    Jul 18 1
    • YAAAS KWEEEENNN 👸 👶 🍼
      Jul 18
  • It did happened to me as a manager. She told me she was pregnant the first week she arrived. I think this was the right thing to do. This is not a topic that should be addressed before hiring process.
    It's cool she told me once onboard, so we have been able to plan for a project that match the timeline.
    Jul 18 2
    • Yahoo preggo
      OP
      Thank you! So you didn’t feel mad that she didn’t tell you beforehand? I hope my new manager will be understanding like you!
      Jul 18
    • No. In fact I am very happy she didn't tell me before. What should I do with this information ?
      Of course I have been surprised when she told me, but it just takes a couple hours to figured out the best project for the schedule.
      Jul 18
  • Amazon / R&D
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    Amazon R&D

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    Google
    ps.ilymore
    Congrats on the baby! Enjoy your maternity leave, you deserve it
    Jul 17 0
  • Veritas / Other 13Jija
    It should not be an issue. Just inform the manager during your very first 1:1. Congratulations and all the best!
    Jul 18 1
    • Yahoo preggo
      OP
      Thank you so much! Yes I will do that
      Jul 18
  • Take the offer and kick ass until you are on maternity leave, best of luck
    Jul 18 0
  • Apple / Eng 🐒codemonk
    Should be of no issue. Take it! Congrats!!
    Jul 18 0
  • Twitch drrybd
    You are helping the human race move forward without going to extinction. May god bless you both.
    Jul 17 0
  • New
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    Restoration Hardware
    $oopsmore
    I remember a new hire joining in her third trimester.
    So go get the offer letter, sign and join.
    Jul 17 0
  • Microsoft $€£¥
    No issues just take it
    Jul 17 0
  • Apple / Eng tWBu16
    Sounds like you should switch to this new company ASAP. The way you talk about it makes it seem like you would much rather be there.

    They might be disappointed. But if they are experienced, they know that any one they employ could leave at a moment’s notice. They might not like it when their employee leaves, but they can’t really change it so they might as well accept it.
    Jul 18 0
  • Amazon / Eng DumbMonkey
    No company hires you for short term, so you taking maternity leave wouldn't change how much they value you. If you have a quarter before you go on leave, that is enough time for them to plan their work around your leave. So feel free to proceed, accept the offer and join. Once you join, inform your manager with enough time to plan.
    Jul 18 0
  • New Nullify
    Yea, should be illegal to ask marital, parental status, etc. That should include pregnancy
    Jul 17 0
  • Cie Digital / Eng Apollon
    I know someone going on paternity leave 6 months into the new job with no problem. Not exactly the same but I would tell them now rather than after.
    Jul 17 0
  • Salesforce coolforce
    Congratulations and just take it.
    Jul 18 0
  • Intel Kitten420
    I haven't seen any large companies discriminate due to pregnancy in recent times. But your new job will usually not provide maternity benefits till you complete one year. So be prepared for some time off without pay.
    Jul 18 0
  • Oracle Djkl
    My wife switched job just 1 month before delivery.. It was all well expect that you won't get some of benefits like FMLA, because that needs at least one year of service at current employer... Just read about all this and be ready to accept this loss..
    Jul 18 0