Guys in a relationship, how did you meet your wife/girlfriend?

Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
Feb 17 180 Comments

I want to know because I can’t seem to meet single guys and I don’t even know where to start...most guys I meet that I would date are already taken. Single guys that make it clear they are single, I can see why they are... Some guys I can’t even tell if they are single. How do you even find out?

Need more ideas.

No, online dating isn’t the answer for me, rather meet someone organically.

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  • Apple / Eng cho Chang
    YOE, level, location, and TC breakdown?
    Feb 17 11
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Exactly so let’s just leave comp out of it.
      Feb 17
    • New / Eng
      BogoSort

      New Eng

      PRE
      Samsung Electronics
      BogoSortmore
      @OP -- the philosophy for sharing TC & YOE is to disseminate info. Since we do not share our comps in real life, in Blind we share it. This is the basic etiquette here. Simple.
      Feb 22
    • New eSt6g
      disseminate info?
      Feb 22
    • New / Eng
      BogoSort

      New Eng

      PRE
      Samsung Electronics
      BogoSortmore
      Yup, ty. Swype err
      Feb 22
    • Visa samK
      Blind is a religion. These are the religious protocols !
      Feb 22
  • She got into my taxi, and it was fake
    Feb 17 5
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Huh?? Explain? What is a fake taxi?
      Feb 17
    • Let’s just say, she couldn’t afford the fare
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Damn you make it sound like you have a sex slave or something. Some weird BDSM relationship...
      Feb 17
    • Microsoft xfiq50
      Fake taxi is porn website 😂😂
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I was close.
      Feb 17
  • Amazon amznuser
    I met in an arranged setting. Been married for 26 yrs now and still going strong
    Feb 17 3
    • New !swe
      What's the key to a happy married life?
      Feb 17
    • Amazon amznuser
      Accept your differences in the beginning. After 5-10 yrs the other person tends to become like you and you tend to become like the other and eventually meet in the middle.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      That’s cute
      Feb 17
  • Google G-7
    Can’t expect answers without TC
    Feb 17 2
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Irrelevant
      Feb 17
    • New / Finance
      ScootCFA

      New Finance

      PRE
      Lincoln Financial Group
      BIO
      32 year old male. Director of FP&A for insurance company
      ScootCFAmore
      Agree TC doesn’t matter for me when I meet a woman. Do you have any friends that are in relationships that could set up dates or group events?

      Also have you tried joining clubs or groups? I’ve met some women by joining running clubs and things like that.
      Feb 18
  • LinkedIn tendies
    Why do people keep asking this question when the answer is the same everytime? Every single girl - "why can't I meet a guy?" Every single time - there are 1 million guys interested it's just you think they are all below your standards. Either lower your standards or stop complaining. Lol. No one is entitled to Chad, just like no one is entitled to sex or love.
    Feb 17 8
    • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
      I agree with your attitude, 100k. When I was dating I didn’t lower my standards. And I’m no male model. I’m so happy I didn’t lower them. I found the right woman and married her 25 years ago.
      Feb 17
    • LinkedIn tendies
      Feb 18
    • Visa samK
      ^ wow
      Feb 22
    • LinkedIn tendies
      Just goes to show you the standards women have.
      Feb 24
    • LinkedIn tendies
      Mar 5
  • Amazon propername
    Traveling
    Feb 17 8
    • Amazon propername
      Well, the conversation lasted more than 3 minutes. We talked about shared topics. Since we were both traveling alone, I asked her out for brunch and we checked out other touristic places together.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Nice, actually you know what that has happened to me before. Met people at conferences but they were all creepy or married or both. Some guy at a conference party got drunk at an open bar and said he hated his wife at home and was trying to recruit me to work on his team and also walk me back to my hotel room at the same time. WTF? I guess my time hasn’t come. Lol
      Feb 17
    • Microsoft dfdgh
      Was he successful in either of them? Lol
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Of course not.
      Feb 17
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      Keep trying , it’s a numbers game. I met my girlfriend at work but we only started dating after 3 years I left that job when I asked her out. I dated mediocre people during those 3 years but it gave me the tools for approaching women. Works for both the genders imo.
      Also be open to long distance for a while
      Feb 17
  • American Express _________!
    op, do you want your morals get crushed asking such question on blind...? < 1% will give you a useful actionable advice.

    how many new friends are you having lunch with a month?
    I met mine at things I liked to do. clubs when I liked to party, Meetup events when I was learning a new language, and friends of new friends I've met along the way.
    Feb 17 4
    • New zv9973
      ^^This. What I learned from mine (receptionist story earlier) is, don't fear rejection - fear regret. My wife ultimately asked me to join her and co-workers for a drink... I turned around on the highway after initially shying away. 1 month later, we were dating; 3 months later, she broke up with me fearing that the four kids were too much baggage; 4 months after that, we were married.

      After 11 years, a fifth child and more stories than we can remember, the hallmark lesson is to fear only regret.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      So far the responses have been surprisingly helpful. No trolls.
      Feb 17
    • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
      “Don’t fear rejection - fear regret.” I agree 100%. More if possible.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I’ve gotten over it and I just ask now a days but rejection still hurts, especially getting ghosted because you aren’t sure if they just didn’t see your message or meant to reject you!
      Feb 18
  • T-Mobile bqwte
    Met a girl on a business trip who worked for the same company in another part of the world. We got married 2 years later.
    Feb 17 0
  • I’m not in relationship rn. But, I usually meet girls at places i frequent/services I use. Some places that I’ve met my ex-gfs have been at restaurants, events happening in my city, airports, parties organized by friends or their friends, random get-togethers and uber/lyft.

    I’d advice don’t wait for the other person to take it to next level. If you want to take it to next level give your number and let them decide.

    Keep it moving.
    Feb 17 4
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Do you talk to these girls first or do they talk to you? I go to restaurants by myself all the time and I sit at the bar too but I actually rarely see people my age there. Couples or old dudes only. :(
      Feb 17
    • AIG / Design cool2point
      I usually walk up to a girl I fancy. Sometimes, girls would start random conversation if I’m sitting near them or they would come up and sit next to me which almost leads to a conversation. I agree it maybe hard to know if a guy is single early in the convo but its easy to know if a girl is single or not.

      I’d say try upscale bars popular in your city. Not too fancy just a little decent. say where old fashion may cost (15-17$). dont use this measure literally this is just to give an idea.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I don’t have single girl friends to go to upscale bars with me so I would have to go by myself...I do love cocktails. That’s not weird to guys, woman by herself at a bar?
      Feb 17
    • AIG / Design cool2point
      No- I usually go for dinner. I don’t cook at home so it works for me.

      You can try to go when they have live music events like jazz and that maybe your excuse to be by yourself.

      The idea is to find a guy who likes things you’d like doing. dont try to find anyone, find someone who you can tolerate bcz he shares your interests. so bar is just one example. say you like wine and paint - go to that event. also- if you are from a particular culture try going to events related to that culture.

      My girlfriends told me Meetup events usually have single guys flooding the event. don’t know how true it is but worth a try.
      Feb 17
  • Apple 88812122
    How many dms so far on blind?
    Feb 17 2
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      0 because people on here care about TC only.
      Feb 17
    • Apple 88812122
      I ll dm then
      Feb 17
  • Microsoft aiNP74k
    MySpace circa 2005
    Feb 17 10
    • PayPal codestar
      What is your ethnicity Dropbox ? Knowing that can help a lot on which segments to target.
      Feb 17
    • Microsoft aiNP74k
      Wrong thread Codestar
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I was thinking of learning how to fly an airplane. Back up career path? 🤔
      Feb 17
    • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
      Lol this thread is confusing. MySpace flight attendant.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I think someone replied to wrong thread or meant to reply to main post and replied to someone else’s thread
      Feb 18
  • Aspiration dGPe12
    The gym. The grocery store. Guys who shop at the store alone, chances are they are single or their wife is pregnant.
    Feb 17 2
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      How does one start a conversation at the grocery store?
      Feb 17
    • LinkedIn tendies
      "Those apples sure look fantastic. What do you think about those melons?"
      Feb 17
  • Microsoft Xgvhh
    The problem with dating apps people are mentioning here is that it gives a lot of choices, all of them based on first impression of looks. It's good for hooking up, but isn't ideal of relationships. Once you get into a relationship through a dating app, it's easy to think that "there are so many other options to choose from, maybe the other options are better". It's definitely a good way to go if one doesn't have an option to go out and meet people, but it brings its own set of challenges.
    Feb 17 0
  • New naduruk
    Grad school
    Feb 17 0
  • OP, send me your insta if you want advice
    Feb 17 8
    • TI IOlOl0
      Just add your w4 to ig
      Feb 17
    • I need your insta to see if you're fat too
      Feb 17
    • Amazon propername
      Lol my insta is the same. No human on camera, only wild animals and nature.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      I have my own insta it’s just fancy food, flowers, and landscapes.
      Feb 18
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

      Vertivco Eng

      PRE
      Youtube, American Bureau of Shipping, Facebook
      FastPapuanmore
      Are you kidding? Of course guys PM women all the time on Instagram and other platforms.
      Feb 19
  • New zv9973
    First met my wife as the receptionist when I was interviewing for a senior data analytics gig at a start-up. Was asked by friend who referred me there (who was already working there at the time) what I thought of her. "Hot, but unattainable."

    And yet, 19 months later, we were married. Celebrated 11th anniversary of our first date this past Friday. (She's now a program manager for the near-FAANG that acquired the start-up; I left after 9 years for another start-up to hunt a bigger nest egg, broader exposure and ability to drive massive change.)
    Feb 17 2
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Shoulda been a receptionist. :(
      Feb 17
    • New zv9973
      To be clear, she literally doesn't remember meeting me that first time. When I took the position a few months later, she had moved up to Office Manager - so the receptionist relevance is only for the retrospective humor. (I did, in fact, reference that quote in my vows.)
      Feb 17
  • New / Eng
    BogoSort

    New Eng

    PRE
    Samsung Electronics
    BogoSortmore
    If you want to organically grow relationship, first become open to having normal relationships with many people -- not because you looking for a SO, but because you want to meet people. Get to know them, have fun with them, spend time with them. Then you might find someone whom you like for more than just a friend.

    "Some guys I can’t even tell if they are single" -- they are your best bet. Be friends with them. But, please don't become a friend because you just want a husband. They can smell that.
    Feb 22 1
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      You’re probably right.
      Feb 22
  • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
    Blind date. We met because we were both open to being set up by a woman we knew. In fact neither of us even knew that woman well at all. I was her boyfriend’s coworker and she asked me if I was open to blind dates and what I was looking for. Then she met my now-wife in class and thought she might be right for me.

    In two months we will celebrate our 25th anniversary. :-)
    Feb 17 1
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Congrats! Sounds like a wonderful story. Wish my girlfriends knew people but they don’t!! Ugh.
      Feb 18
  • Online
    Feb 17 5
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Which dating site
      Feb 17
    • Oath / Eng brokenness
      I found my girlfriend on CoffeeMeetsBagel.
      The app seems ideally designed for people who are interested in serious relationships. I know many people who have found their SOs through that app.
      Feb 17
    • Apple OFOM41
      From what I read online, a lot of girls are saying the quality of guys on coffeemeetsbagel is usually pretty low. No personal experience but just what a lot of people seem to say.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Most free sites are
      Feb 17
    • Alarm.com gkPw74
      I met my current bf on CmB
      Feb 22
  • TI IOlOl0
    Hinge
    Feb 17 4
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      For some reason the name sounds like a dating app for gay people so I never looked it up before, just did now, the premise sounds interesting.
      Feb 17
    • TI IOlOl0
      I think most ppl on it are looking for a relationship, but I only used it for a couple weeks before I found someone that I’m seeing
      Feb 17
    • New / Eng JesusC
      I just started using Hinge too & can confirm people are actually looking for relationships on there. Just started using it for about 2 weeks & I’ve gone on a nice date with someone. About to make it to take it to the next level with someone else.
      Feb 17
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      OP
      Gotta install it now nice. I paid for Bumble and gave up on it. $ wasted.
      Feb 17